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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 12, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu, I'm married since 5 years now and having loving In-Laws who are financially very well to do. My husband and I earn very less as compared to my in-laws, with whom we stay. My husband is 37 years old and earns 47000 INR a month, out of which he saves 35000 INR (in-laws have told him not to spend on house expense, but instead save). The rest 12000 INR he has for himself. I am also working and all my earning is with me. The problem is that he usually ends up spending almost all of the 12K. This angers me as I feel he should focus on saving as much as possible from that. We have an understanding among us that the expense for enjoyment will be borne by me as his major chunk is being saved for "Our" future. Am I wrong to be upset with his spending?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Are you wrong to be upset?
NO and YES...
NO; as you feel wronged that you are the one spending on enjoyment, so where does he spend 12K?
YES; as you have not conveyed it to him or the two of you have not spoken about it earlier. Have you discussed that he must save the 12K?
So, the key to any solid marriage is COMMUNICATION...Communicating your needs, wants, desires, values and aligning them to make the marriage work looking at the larger picture.

Simply have a frank conversation. For all you know, he may just understand where you are coming from; BUT if he wants to spend SOME OF his hard earned money on himself his way, kindly let it be. It's the pride of a man to be able to earn and spend without asking for anyone's permission. Do respect that...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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I am a working women, i have to take care of my parents expenses and also take care of my expenses , i have a child 8 years old, my husband is not supporting me financially, he just spend most of his money for his wants, and no savings so far even after 15 years of marriage, how to make him understand about savings i have quarreled many times on this but no use, i feel like to go away from him, kindly suggest
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am very sorry about your situation. It sounds stressful and you have every right to be worried. Here are a few ways to sort this out:

The first and the most obvious one- communication. I am sure that you have communicated your concerns to your husband but let's give it another try and this time, make sure it's non-confrontational. For instance, just casually mention the financial burden that is on you without assigning any blame to him. Try "I" statements instead of "You." He might come to a realization that he needs to put in more effort to relieve you of your burdens. Try mentioning some shared goals that you won't achieve if you don't join your finances and share the responsibilities. Next, tell him that you both should start tracking your expenditures and set a budget at the beginning of every month. Try a more practical approach. Set up monthly deposit schemes that would automatically deduct the money from your accounts. Last but not least, seek support from a trusted family member or close friend. While they might not be able to give you any concrete solution, sharing your woes can make you feel lighter.

Best Wishes.

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Hi I am married for 2 years. My husband and FIL runs a business. My MIL is a retird HM from govt school. I am married to a lovable family. I am for ever grateful to my inlaws. We stay together and i have one SIL. All of the expenses and invesments are made by my husband. We have a 1yr daughter. Till date me and my husband had no financial communication. He gets whatever i what but we dont discuss how much income he has got and what he does. Also i dont know what my inlaws income and what they do and i dont want to interfere in it. Its none of my business. Its me who asks my husband to let me know our financial status. Sometimes he say but its not a regular financial discussion. I came to know that he is investing in lic policies for all of them. 50% spending 50%investmnts. Ofcourse my inlaws share some amount but major expenses and all major investments are from my husbands income. I expect him to let me know the financial status so that i can also have a knowledge on it but he never opens up and but he always gets me want i want. I had never asked him like wht are you spending for your mom dad sis when they are still independant.I never questioned him and i will not. Its our duty to look after parents without any expectation. i promised him that i will not be a hurdle in this. But recently he gave huge amount to my inlaws and he dint even tell me. I felt upset when I got to know it later. It had happend many times.The thing that made me sad is that my husband dint even consider me in this. Like after giving also he dint utter a word to me. i I would have not said dont give. I would have felt happy only. Because he is giving to his parents only. But my concern is he is not sharing his financial commitments with me. Is it ok for me to expect that he should share his financial status with me so that we can plan our future or am i wrong? When my inlaws questions me about finance that something he did to them i am like when iam unware of it. Its embrassing. I feel that a couple should have a financial communication without discrepancy. But my husband does not do it intentionally. He always says he forgot. But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments. Marriage is not always about fantacy, shopping, romance, relaxing cooking playin work etc... there should be some serious talks discussions right which will pave way for a healthy relationship growth understanding and a better future and healthy finacially stablev family let me know whether i am wrong or right. And also is it ok to talk to my husband to let my inlaws share his burden financially as they are financially independent too ( atleast their lics they can invest) not sure to discuss this. But i feel my husband is over burdened. Btw iam a homemaker
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There's nothing wrong in you wanting transparency when it comes to the family's finances. But the way it has been right from the beginning of your marriage, is that you did not ask and you were not told.
So, suddenly when you have expressed an interest in knowing and participating, your husband has not understood this. Be clear when you discuss with him that you wish to talk about it not to deter him from anything but to actually support him in whatever he does. He also is perhaps used to taking financial decisions all by himself and continues to do so...So, if something has changed within you, express it and allow him the time to change as well...

In your words: But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments.

Yes, but if it was this way right from the time when you two married, it would not be an issue. Your want now is not wrong, but has changed from what it sued to be...so, express, let him reflect on it and then have a healthy debate/discussion on it.

All the best!
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I am 50 + yr Engg Graduate and working in Pvt sector in NCR and having approx 10 yrs to retirement. # The Combined Family income (Including Dividend & Interest) : Rs. 22 Lac / Annum. # Yearly Expenditure : Rs.13.1 Lac / Annum (Includes Insurance Premium , fee , Rent etc); # I am Staying in Rent ; I am Have a old parental Flat at Lucknow (Vacant) which will be sold off inleu of a new Flat in next 4-5 years time (Present Value of Flat is approx Rs. 75 Lac ; ) # Term Insurance till age 62 yrs: Sum Insured : Rs. 1.70 Cr ; # Health Insurance Floater : Covered till Rs. 50 Lacs. Portfolio : * MF-SIP : 1.80 Cr.; Monthly investment in SIP: ~ 65000/-. [MF SIP Selection is self] * Combined PPF : Rs.40 Lac * Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana : Rs. 6.0 Lac * Share Value: Rs.50 Lacs * FD with Pvt Financial institutions : Rs. 43 Lac. * Cash in Hand : Rs. 4-5 Lacs Major Expenditure to be done: (a) Higher Studies of Daughter: Going for PG - 1st yr & maybe later Phd. (b) Marriage of Daughter. (c) Higher Studies of Son : Presently in Class IX. (d) Marriage of Son . (e) Buying a new House. Pls advise : 1. How much Corpus will I have in next 10 yrs.? 2. How much should be the minimum corpus I should have at the time of my retirement so that it can last maybe for 25 + years post retirement? 3. Will I be able to achieve the reqd corpus? 4. What is the Likely monthly expenditure post my retirement ? 5. Can I share my List of SIP Portfolio with you so that same can be restructured by you ? 6. Should I go for a Professional Financial Planner ? regards
Ans: You have already done a lot of planning. Your awareness and discipline are strong. This gives you a great advantage for your retirement and children’s future.

Understanding Your Present Financial Snapshot
 

You are above 50 years of age and have around 10 years to retire.

 

Your yearly family income is Rs.22 lakh. Expenses are around Rs.13.1 lakh.

 

That means you are saving close to Rs.8.9 lakh yearly. That’s a strong surplus.

 

Monthly SIP is Rs.65,000. You have a solid SIP discipline in place.

 

Current MF SIP corpus is Rs.1.8 crore. That’s a significant base.

 

PPF corpus is Rs.40 lakh. That’s a good stable portion of your savings.

 

Shares are worth Rs.50 lakh. FD value is Rs.43 lakh.

 

You have Rs.4–5 lakh in liquid cash. Sukanya balance is Rs.6 lakh.

 

You are staying on rent. You have an old flat in Lucknow worth Rs.75 lakh.

 

You want to sell the flat in 4–5 years. Use funds for buying a new flat.

 

Health insurance floater of Rs.50 lakh is excellent.

 

Term insurance of Rs.1.7 crore till age 62 is also strong.

 

Likely Corpus in Next 10 Years
 

Your existing investments are already close to Rs.3.7 crore.

 

With SIPs and expected growth, this corpus will rise steadily.

 

Assuming consistent investment, the corpus could cross Rs.6 crore in 10 years.

 

This figure depends on SIP continuation, market returns, and investment review.

 

If you sell the flat in 5 years, you may get Rs.80–85 lakh or more.

 

That can also be redirected to another house purchase.

 

But remember, house is not an investment. It’s a utility asset.

 

It will not support retirement income unless sold or rented.

 

How Much Corpus Is Needed at Retirement?
 

Your current annual spending is Rs.13.1 lakh.

 

Post-retirement, this may reduce slightly. But not by much.

 

Assume 80% of current expenses will continue. That’s around Rs.10.5 lakh yearly.

 

Over 25+ years, this amount will rise due to inflation.

 

A safe minimum retirement corpus can be around Rs.5.5–6 crore.

 

This should cover lifestyle, healthcare, and emergency spending.

 

It also assumes a balanced investment portfolio post-retirement.

 

PPF, FDs, and some debt funds can give regular income.

 

Equity mutual funds should be continued partially for growth.

 

Can You Achieve the Required Corpus?
 

Yes, based on your present investments and habits, you are on track.

 

You must keep SIPs running without breaks for the next 10 years.

 

Increase your SIPs by 8–10% every year.

 

This single habit increases your total retirement corpus sharply.

 

Don’t withdraw from MF portfolio for house or other large expenses.

 

Use surplus from share sale or FD maturity for daughter’s or son’s needs.

 

Maintain separate goals. Don’t mix retirement and child-related funds.

 

Likely Monthly Expenses After Retirement
 

Your monthly spending may reduce, but not disappear.

 

House rent may go if you buy a flat. But other costs may rise.

 

Healthcare costs will rise as you age. So will travel and daily needs.

 

Monthly spending may be around Rs.80,000 to Rs.90,000 after retirement.

 

This will keep increasing due to inflation.

 

Plan for this by keeping a rising income source post-retirement.

 

Part of your MF portfolio must remain in equity to beat inflation.

 

Should You Restructure Your SIP Portfolio?
 

Yes. You can share your SIP portfolio. It should be reviewed in detail.

 

Fund selection must suit your goals, risk, and retirement timeline.

 

If SIPs are selected by self, mistakes may remain unnoticed.

 

Self-managed portfolios often carry duplication and poor diversification.

 

Review will ensure you hold right funds in correct proportion.

 

Regular rebalancing and fund replacement are also needed.

 

Avoid index funds. They copy the index. No expert decision-making involved.

 

Actively managed funds give better chances of outperformance.

 

A fund manager takes timely calls based on market data.

 

Direct Plans vs Regular Plans
 

Many people choose direct funds thinking returns will be more.

 

But direct plans give no advice, no monitoring, no fund review.

 

Wrong choices can erode gains, which you may not notice.

 

Investing through MFD with CFP support gives many advantages.

 

You get continuous guidance, strategy correction, and emotional discipline.

 

A small extra cost is worth it for safer long-term performance.

 

Use regular plans under a Certified Financial Planner to avoid mistakes.

 

Should You Hire a Certified Financial Planner?
 

Yes, it is the right time to do so.

 

You are close to retirement. No room for errors now.

 

One bad year or wrong withdrawal can hurt long-term stability.

 

A planner prepares a full retirement roadmap. Step-by-step.

 

Helps manage retirement income, investment allocation, and cashflow.

 

Plans for children’s education, marriage, and tax-saving.

 

Also prepares a Will, estate plan, and contingency system.

 

You have built wealth. A planner helps protect and grow it safely.

 

Other Action Points You Must Consider
 

Keep 6 months’ expenses in liquid mutual funds. That’s your emergency fund.

 

Keep track of new MF capital gains tax rules.

 

If equity MF gains exceed Rs.1.25 lakh in a year, excess is taxed at 12.5%.

 

If sold within one year, tax is 20% on profits.

 

For debt funds, all gains are taxed as per your income slab.

 

File taxes properly. Use Form 26AS and AIS to avoid mismatch.

 

Make a written Will. Register it if possible.

 

Update nominations in all mutual funds, FDs, and insurance.

 

Involve your spouse in all investment decisions. Keep them informed.

 

Retirement Income Management Strategy
 

Break your retirement portfolio into three buckets.

 

First: Emergency and liquidity. Use FDs and liquid funds here.

 

Second: Stable monthly income. Use PPF, debt mutual funds, and bonds.

 

Third: Long-term growth. Keep some mutual funds in equity.

 

Withdraw only what is needed. Keep rest invested.

 

Review once a year with your planner.

 

Children’s Education and Marriage Planning
 

PG for daughter is immediate. Use FD interest or surplus cash.

 

Don’t disturb mutual funds meant for retirement.

 

PhD is long-term. Plan SIPs separately for that.

 

Son’s education is 4–5 years away. Start new SIPs today.

 

Marriage cost is hard to predict. But start a separate investment for that now.

 

Keep gifts, bonuses, or land sale proceeds for such events.

 

Don’t allow such costs to delay or reduce your retirement corpus.

 

Final Insights
 

You are in a strong financial position. That itself is an advantage.

 

But with multiple goals ahead, clear planning becomes important.

 

Don’t self-manage complex portfolios at this stage.

 

Avoid real estate dependence. Use it only for living, not investing.

 

Stay away from index and direct funds. They don’t give personal strategy.

 

Increase SIPs each year. Tag each goal separately.

 

Use a Certified Financial Planner to guide your retirement strategy.

 

Update nominations, Will, and insurance coverage.

 

Monitor your retirement portfolio closely, but don’t panic with market ups and downs.

 

Stay invested. Think long-term. Follow a guided, reviewed plan.

 

You can retire comfortably and fulfil all family goals with peace of mind.

 

Best Regards,
 

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Dear sir, I am 46 yrs old investing in SIP of 25000 monthly last 4.5 Yrs in different companies mutual fund. I wants retire after 10 yrs and need a corpus of 5 crore. I have 2 children studying @ 6&8 grade. Invested in money back policy of 5-8 Lakh. 1C land purchased 2 yrs back. Comprehensive Health insurance is available for 5L yearly and Term insurance of 60L is available. Kindly let me know what sort of planning required.
Ans: It shows you are thinking ahead for your family and future. That itself is a great start.

Let’s break this down step by step.

 

Retirement Planning – 10 Years Away
 

You want Rs.5 crore in 10 years.

 

You are already investing Rs.25,000 monthly through SIPs. This is a good habit.

 

But just investing isn’t enough. The amount, fund selection, and review also matter.

 

Rs.5 crore is a big target. It needs a solid, focused investment plan.

 

You need to check whether Rs.25,000 per month is enough for this goal.

 

Based on typical growth rates, it may fall short. We need to increase SIPs gradually.

 

A Certified Financial Planner can help assess the exact shortfall. Then a step-wise plan can be made.

 

Your retirement plan should not depend on land. Land is not liquid. Selling it can take time.

 

Continue SIPs and increase it by 10% every year. That helps stay ahead of inflation.

 

Actively managed mutual funds should be selected. They give a better edge with expert fund manager decisions.

 

Index funds lack flexibility. They copy the index. No chance to beat the market.

 

With actively managed funds, the fund manager reacts fast to changes. That is an advantage.

 

Asset allocation should be reviewed every year. Rebalancing keeps the risk in control.

 

Keep a separate portfolio for retirement. Do not mix children’s education goal with this.

 

Children’s Education Planning
 

Your children are now in 6th and 8th grades.

 

In 6–8 years, you’ll need funds for their higher education.

 

Education costs are rising sharply. This cannot be ignored.

 

Start separate SIPs for their education goal now.

 

Do not depend on money-back policies for education.

 

These give low returns. Hardly beat inflation. Not suitable for education needs.

 

Surrender these policies. Reinvest the proceeds into mutual funds.

 

A Certified Financial Planner can guide on which policies to surrender and how.

 

Use mutual funds for better returns and flexibility.

 

Choose a mix of equity and balanced funds. This gives better growth with some safety.

 

Review this portfolio every year. Make changes if fund performance drops.

 

Never use retirement funds for education or other goals.

 

Keep clear boundaries between each financial goal.

 

Insurance Assessment – Life and Health
 

You have Rs.60 lakh term insurance. It is a good starting point.

 

But is it enough? Likely not.

 

A person at age 46 with children and a Rs.5 crore retirement goal needs more cover.

 

Term cover must be at least 12–15 times your annual income.

 

It should also cover children’s education and liabilities.

 

Top up your term insurance with an additional Rs.40–50 lakh at least.

 

Premiums are still manageable at your age.

 

Avoid ULIPs or money-back plans for life cover. They mix insurance and investment.

 

You have Rs.5 lakh health insurance. That is a positive step.

 

However, with rising medical costs, it is not enough.

 

Add a super top-up policy of Rs.10–15 lakh. It is cost-effective and gives added protection.

 

Ensure the entire family is covered under the policy.

 

Also keep some emergency fund in liquid funds for minor health expenses.

 

Emergency Fund and Contingency Planning
 

An emergency fund gives peace of mind.

 

It should cover at least 6 months of expenses.

 

Keep this in a liquid mutual fund or savings account.

 

Never invest emergency funds in equity or land.

 

Refill the fund if you use it anytime.

 

Existing Land Investment
 

You mentioned buying land two years ago.

 

It can be a personal asset. But not an investment.

 

Land does not generate regular income.

 

Selling land can take time. Liquidity is low.

 

Do not depend on land for your retirement or education goals.

 

Do not count land value in your net worth for investment planning.

 

Keep it as a reserve or personal utility asset only.

 

Money-Back Policies – Action Plan
 

You have Rs.5–8 lakh in money-back policies.

 

These offer low returns. Do not help in long-term wealth creation.

 

It is best to surrender these now. Don’t wait.

 

Reinvest that money into mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner.

 

Use regular plans through MFDs. They offer continuous support and monitoring.

 

Direct mutual funds offer no guidance. That leads to mistakes and poor returns.

 

Regular funds give access to a CFP’s review and hand-holding.

 

Small cost difference, but better long-term results.

 

SIP Management – Next Steps
 

You are already investing Rs.25,000 monthly. That is commendable.

 

Increase it every year. This is called SIP step-up.

 

If your income rises, increase SIPs by 10–15% yearly.

 

This one habit helps you reach goals faster.

 

Choose 4–5 diversified equity funds. Review them every 6 months.

 

Use funds with consistent track records and experienced managers.

 

Avoid index funds. They are passive. No fund manager input.

 

Actively managed funds offer better opportunities.

 

Tax Planning – For Today and Tomorrow
 

Make use of Section 80C for tax savings. SIP in ELSS can help here.

 

Avoid locking too much in PPF or NSC. They are not flexible.

 

For capital gains tax, keep new rules in mind.

 

If you sell equity funds, gains above Rs.1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

 

If sold before 1 year, gains are taxed at 20%.

 

For debt funds, all gains are taxed as per your income slab.

 

Always check tax implication before switching or redeeming funds.

 

Goal-Based Investment Planning
 

Link each SIP to a specific goal.

 

One SIP for retirement.

 

One SIP for child 1 education.

 

Another SIP for child 2 education.

 

Do not combine goals. That leads to confusion later.

 

Clear goal tagging helps track progress.

 

A Certified Financial Planner can prepare this map for you.

 

Use colour-coded tracking for each goal.

 

Will, Nomination, and Estate Planning
 

Make a basic Will. Even if your assets are small today.

 

Nominate properly in every investment and insurance.

 

Review nominations every 2 years.

 

Teach your spouse the basics of your financial plan.

 

Keep one folder with all details – policies, accounts, mutual funds.

 

Inform your family where the file is kept.

 

Three Yearly Review System
 

Review your financial plan every year.

 

Do it with the help of a Certified Financial Planner.

 

Track SIP growth. Are goals on track?

 

Rebalance asset allocation if equity grows too much.

 

Check insurance covers every 2 years.

 

Update Will, nominations, and goals if needed.

 

Final Insights
 

You have taken important first steps. That shows awareness.

 

But awareness needs a plan to be successful.

 

Surrender low-yielding policies. Reinvest wisely.

 

Keep land aside. Do not count on it for goals.

 

Increase SIPs steadily. Choose only actively managed funds.

 

Use regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner.

 

Protect family with higher life and health insurance.

 

Separate SIPs for each goal. Link every investment to a purpose.

 

Review your plan once every year. Adjust when needed.

 

Your dream of Rs.5 crore and children’s education is possible.

 

But you need focused, guided steps to reach there.

 

Best Regards,
 

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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