I am 45 years old and my wife is 33 years old. we have been married for 5 years. my wife is sexually very active and wanting and though I want I am unable to perform and make her happy. She is very friendly with a colleague of hers who may be in his late 30s and my wife knows he is trying to advance sexually to her. many times she shows his messages where he praises her physical appearance explicitly. She doesn't positively respond to those messages and leaves with a smile. she often goes with him for lunch or a coffee. She introduced him to me once and I joined them for dinner outside. During that dinner, she asked my permission to sit with him and I sat opposite them. They sat as if they were a couple. Daily evening she usually shares some episodes like today he came to my floor and was standing in a corner with his friend but stealing glances at me etc. There is another colleague of hers who is a little older or maybe of my age. She regularly goes with him for tea inside her office cafeteria and spends 30 minutes daily. There was a little gossip about them also by colleagues but she used to say how she ignores them to meet that colleague daily. One another colleague of hers is a little younger than her. He flirts with her openly. He messaged her once let's see how can we progress romantically. He also messages her often about her physical attributes which she passes with smileys. She never stops them nor encourages them. She shows all the messages and seemingly doesn't delete any portion of it. The stories the messages the timelines everything matches and she doesn't hide anything from me is what I believe. All the above colleagues are from different departments and she has no direct official business with them. This being the scenario, I proposed to her an open marriage option. since I know very well that she is so emotionally attached to me as ours is a love marriage and our marriage will remain intact. I only wanted her physical desires to be met. I know she shares a very good, or we can say romantic equation with the first guy I asked her to get along with his advances and I am more than happy with being intimate with him or any one of her choice. She says to me that she doesn't want to do that. I believe that she thinks I may get hurt or she is afraid that should not lead her into a complicated relationship or even worse a debauchery. Not due to principles. At the same time, she enjoys continuing with them over coffee and messages. She neither stops them nor encourages them. My question is what exactly is in her mind? What should I do? I just don't want her to suffer a life without sex and at the same time I love her the most and I want my family to be intact.

Dear LG, Please don't disclose my name. I don't want to share my personal problems with others. I am 45 years old, married 13 years ago; my wife's age is now 38 years. I got two kids. My wife is pretty (she takes lot of care for her beauty) and I want to live simple. I kept faith on my wife so I didn't interfere in her life. From last four years, I am staying away from family (because of work I have shifted to other city, monthly once I go back , purchase everything, give money for expense and return to job). She keeps her mobile with security. Once, by mistake, I read her WhatsApp message. One of her office client was praising her pics and she was responding to him. So I told her, be official, don't entertain, if they fall behind you and we may face problem. She agreed but is doing the same thing and deleting his messages. Then I wanted to see what all things she does in WhatsApp. So her link I shared in my mobile and started reading her messages. She use to chat with one married person from last three years, she changed his name in her mobile and kept his wife's name. Three years back he proposed her with love song. My wife used to support him, sometimes she used to delete the messages. He knows all my family history. Whenever they get time, they used to talk each other in phone. Some messages I read, they were planning to meet also. She always come home very late, I didn't question her because I kept faith, but as I told you I have two kids in home. If she comes late, they are facing a problem (they stay alone until she comes back). Simultaneously she is chatting with another married friend. She says he is like a brother in front of me, but that person says baby, darling, dear, love, etc, in his conversation and forwarded some love songs and calling her for long drive. My wife replied some other day we will go. He replies, You always says same thing. I will become old one day. Then I was surprised and guided my wife indirectly. I told, don't entertain any person they may start to trouble you or if anybody troubling you please tell I will help you. We got two kids so we got lot of responsibility. She got a clue that I am reading her messages, so immediately she deleted all messages and after some days she deleted their numbers, along with that she deleted some other numbers also!  Why, I don't know. Once I told my son, beware, I can track you and tell where are you going and what are you doing. But from that day onwards, my wife is blocking her internet at 6 pm (when her office closes) and unblocking when she returns home. I am worried regarding this behaviour. I have stopped reading her messages now. But now I am feeling very uncomfortable because her behaviour is very soft with me, (previously she was very aggressive, she used to fight with me unnecessarily.) Please guide me how to handle the situation. What can I do now? Sometimes I feel I should leave everything go somewhere or is it a punishment for marrying a pretty girl? What to do? Please guide how handle the situation. Regards.

Hello Love Guru, I am 37 year old, my wife is 35 years old and our marrige is "Love Marriage" Feb-2018. We have two children, one is 4 yr and second is 2 yr old. We work in the same government department but in different district her place of work is approximately 400 km away from me. Our job is transferrable one, initially we used to live together also after 2-3 years we will again live together. My wife is having a colleague who is 36 year old Boy and very talkative. My wife used to go to play Badminton after office hours with him 07:00-09:00 PM even though children were alone at house with the maid. Wife used to ignore me when I tried to talk with her. Proper communication was done only on weekends when I used to visit her place. Now, after some time she started to give me excuses to avoid SEX. I respected her opinion so I avoided it for 2-3 times. However, while changing the cloths I found a "Love Bite" thing (Circle/Oval shaped) on her cleavage. When I asked her she told me that excessive scrubbing by hand while removing the dirt had caused this. I said okay at that time. Later after 1 month again I found (Circle / Oval shaped) on her waist. She again told me that scrubbing has caused this. I told her to come to home on right time as children are alone to which she said that she will go to play badminton during afternoon hours. It's okay to play a sport as it will improve the fitness and mind however she never involved in sport with me even though I am a better player in our department. Now come June-24 to Aug-24 she acted strangely avoided sex saying this is auspicious month and period. (Which never happened earlier). Hence, from June-24 to 06.09.24 (Sept-24) only once we had sex. She stays awake upto 01:00-02:00 AM without talking to me as per her WhatsApp status. Whereas I am sleeping hardly at 10:30 PM. She hardly chats with me (WhatsApp). I never find any strange thing in her mobile though. However all of sudden on yesterday 05.09.2024 she asked me "What I find beautiful in her? Why I married her?". I am shocked to hear that why after 6.5 years she asked me? I brings new cloths for her in at least once in a month. I try to giver her time as much possible. But she tries to keep it limited by narrow talks and all.