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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 01, 2025Hindi
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It's been 6 years of my marriage, but my wife still don't know how to wear saree properly. Generally she wears salwar suit, but there are some occasions where it becomes important for her to wear saree. She wears saree twice in a week minimum. Earlier, my mother was helping her, but after 2 years of my marriage, my mother died. As of now, me, my wife, my 2 years old son, my father & Jagdish uncle (servant who is with us from more than 20 years) staying in our home. I help her many times to make her wear saree properly, but the timing when she needs to wear it is the timing when I am mostly busy. So, nowadays from 4 years my father & Jagdish uncle help her to make her wear saree properly. I suggested her to take help from youtube or get help from any female neighbour, but she said she is still not able to understand from youtube. Neither those female neighbours will come regularly for this. The problem is that there is too much of her body exposure when my father & Jagdish uncle make her wear saree. She reveals too much of her body parts while wearing saree. Any husband can feel uncomfortable if any other man will see his wife in such condition. I asked her to do it in decent way, but she said there is no other option. What should I do ??

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Please stop this madness. I don't even understand how this started in the first place; did your wife casually ask your father and the male helper at home to help her out?
YouTube is useless? This does not come across as normal and she should know this or she knows it but chooses to overlook it. Step it and put an end this...

All the best!
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Asked on - Feb 05, 2025 | Answered on Feb 11, 2025
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Yes. She ask them casually & they make her wear saree. I asked her many times to stop it, but then she again ask me to help her every time she wears saree which is not possible for me because I have to look for my official works too. I can't stay with her 24 x 7. In the beginning, I don't even remember properly how this started but this is happening after my mother death only. Because my mother was the only one from whom she was taking help for saree. Please help.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I have already suggested to you to put an end to it. Simply say: 'Stop! This will not continue from now on'
Be firm about it so everyone knows that you are being serious.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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My suggestions were merely trying to enable the two of you to work on your marriage. If you feel that by using force, this may work, you should know that things can get worse from thereon...Be careful about how you achieve what you set out to achieve...Of course, I do understand the frustration of making all efforts and still not having your wife relent and align is really strange and funny.
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