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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 01, 2025Hindi
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It's been 6 years of my marriage, but my wife still don't know how to wear saree properly. Generally she wears salwar suit, but there are some occasions where it becomes important for her to wear saree. She wears saree twice in a week minimum. Earlier, my mother was helping her, but after 2 years of my marriage, my mother died. As of now, me, my wife, my 2 years old son, my father & Jagdish uncle (servant who is with us from more than 20 years) staying in our home. I help her many times to make her wear saree properly, but the timing when she needs to wear it is the timing when I am mostly busy. So, nowadays from 4 years my father & Jagdish uncle help her to make her wear saree properly. I suggested her to take help from youtube or get help from any female neighbour, but she said she is still not able to understand from youtube. Neither those female neighbours will come regularly for this. The problem is that there is too much of her body exposure when my father & Jagdish uncle make her wear saree. She reveals too much of her body parts while wearing saree. Any husband can feel uncomfortable if any other man will see his wife in such condition. I asked her to do it in decent way, but she said there is no other option. What should I do ??

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Please stop this madness. I don't even understand how this started in the first place; did your wife casually ask your father and the male helper at home to help her out?
YouTube is useless? This does not come across as normal and she should know this or she knows it but chooses to overlook it. Step it and put an end this...

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Asked on - Feb 05, 2025 | Answered on Feb 11, 2025
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Yes. She ask them casually & they make her wear saree. I asked her many times to stop it, but then she again ask me to help her every time she wears saree which is not possible for me because I have to look for my official works too. I can't stay with her 24 x 7. In the beginning, I don't even remember properly how this started but this is happening after my mother death only. Because my mother was the only one from whom she was taking help for saree. Please help.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I have already suggested to you to put an end to it. Simply say: 'Stop! This will not continue from now on'
Be firm about it so everyone knows that you are being serious.

All the best!
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
My suggestions were merely trying to enable the two of you to work on your marriage. If you feel that by using force, this may work, you should know that things can get worse from thereon...Be careful about how you achieve what you set out to achieve...Of course, I do understand the frustration of making all efforts and still not having your wife relent and align is really strange and funny.
My question still is: what is the reason that she is so unwilling to stay longer periods with you? Have you tried to ask her this?

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My son has got 91 percentile in the recent jee exam , he has next attempt in april, but i feel its difficult for him , can i know about other good colleges in karnataka , as im based their. interested in computer science and aeronautical degree, also advise some recent good courses for his career in india.
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Do not get stressed at this stage. Even though his score is 91 percentile in 1st attempt, he can do well in 2nd attempt. But from the safer side, ask him to appear in the Karnataka State Engineering Entrance Examination also. Even if he scores less in JEE on 2nd attempt, he may good college via the state entrance examination in CSE or aeronautical engineering as per your wish. For your reference, there are 10 colleges in India where you can get admission without a JEE score. To know more details, please copy and paste the following link into your browser- https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/education/news/10-engineering-colleges-in-india-for-pursuing-btech-without-jee-main-2025-score/articleshow/118162587.cms.
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