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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 01, 2025Hindi
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It's been 6 years of my marriage, but my wife still don't know how to wear saree properly. Generally she wears salwar suit, but there are some occasions where it becomes important for her to wear saree. She wears saree twice in a week minimum. Earlier, my mother was helping her, but after 2 years of my marriage, my mother died. As of now, me, my wife, my 2 years old son, my father & Jagdish uncle (servant who is with us from more than 20 years) staying in our home. I help her many times to make her wear saree properly, but the timing when she needs to wear it is the timing when I am mostly busy. So, nowadays from 4 years my father & Jagdish uncle help her to make her wear saree properly. I suggested her to take help from youtube or get help from any female neighbour, but she said she is still not able to understand from youtube. Neither those female neighbours will come regularly for this. The problem is that there is too much of her body exposure when my father & Jagdish uncle make her wear saree. She reveals too much of her body parts while wearing saree. Any husband can feel uncomfortable if any other man will see his wife in such condition. I asked her to do it in decent way, but she said there is no other option. What should I do ??

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Please stop this madness. I don't even understand how this started in the first place; did your wife casually ask your father and the male helper at home to help her out?
YouTube is useless? This does not come across as normal and she should know this or she knows it but chooses to overlook it. Step it and put an end this...

All the best!
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Asked on - Feb 05, 2025 | Answered on Feb 11, 2025
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Yes. She ask them casually & they make her wear saree. I asked her many times to stop it, but then she again ask me to help her every time she wears saree which is not possible for me because I have to look for my official works too. I can't stay with her 24 x 7. In the beginning, I don't even remember properly how this started but this is happening after my mother death only. Because my mother was the only one from whom she was taking help for saree. Please help.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I have already suggested to you to put an end to it. Simply say: 'Stop! This will not continue from now on'
Be firm about it so everyone knows that you are being serious.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
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Ans: I appreciate your patience in holding this policy for many years.
Many people continue such policies without clarity.
You are doing the right thing by seeking understanding now.
This shows maturity and financial awareness.

» Basic Understanding of Your Policy
– You started the policy in June 2011.
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– Maturity is due in June 2026.
– Entry age was 51 years.
– Yearly premium is Rs 24,260.
– Life cover is only Rs 50,000.

This policy is insurance plus savings combined.
Such policies focus more on forced savings.
Protection element is very small.

» Total Premium Paid Over Policy Term
– You pay premium for full 15 years.
– Yearly premium remains constant.
– Premium payment ends before maturity.

By maturity, total premium paid will be substantial.
This is important for comparison.

» How Maturity Value Is Decided
– This policy does not give bonus like others.
– It works on a maturity value factor system.
– Maturity value depends on age and term.
– Loyalty additions may be added at maturity.

Returns are pre-declared, not market linked.

» Expected Maturity Value Range
– For your age and premium, returns are modest.
– Such policies generally give low annual growth.
– Growth is closer to traditional savings products.

Based on past experience with similar cases:
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– Mortality charges are high due to entry age.
– Returns are not linked to equity growth.

These factors reduce wealth creation potential.

» Life Cover Assessment
– Life cover is only Rs 50,000.
– This amount is too small today.
– It does not protect family needs.

Insurance objective is not fulfilled properly.

» Investment Assessment
– Policy forces discipline, not growth.
– Returns do not beat long-term inflation.
– Purchasing power reduces over time.

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» Liquidity Aspect
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– Exit before maturity causes loss.
– Flexibility is limited.

This restricts financial freedom.

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– Risk is low.
– Reward is also low.
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Such balance does not suit wealth creation.

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– Numbers should guide decisions.

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» Should You Continue Till Maturity
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From pure practicality, holding till maturity makes sense.

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– Do not reinvest maturity money here again.
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Sir I have Aviva life insurance policy premium payable 10 years,I have already paid 5 years, I want to discontinue, can I and how much surrender value can I get.
Ans: I appreciate that you are taking a clear decision about your Aviva life insurance policy.
You have courage to review and possibly improve your financial choices.
This step shows responsibility and seriousness about money.

» Can You Discontinue / Surrender the Policy
– Yes, most Aviva regular premium life policies allow surrender after some years of premium paid.
– If you have paid at least the minimum required number of premiums, you can get surrender value.
– Most Aviva plans require at least 3 years’ premiums before surrender value applies.
– If you have paid 5 years already, you satisfy this condition in most cases.

So yes, you can discontinue and surrender the policy now.

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– You get a surrender value based on premiums paid and the rules of your policy.

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Exact amount depends on your specific policy terms. But typical factors are:

– Insurance companies usually pay a Guaranteed Surrender Value.
– They sometimes also pay a Special Surrender Value if it is higher.
– You get the higher of Guaranteed or Special Surrender Value.

For many Aviva regular premium plans, a typical Guaranteed Surrender Value pattern looks like this:

– After 3 years: about 30%
– After 4 years: about 50%
– After 5 years: about 55%
– After 6 years: about 57.5%
– After 7 years: about 60%
– After 8 years: about 65%
– After 9 years: about 70%
– After 10 years: about 90%
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So if you have paid 5 years of premiums:
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This is not exact for your case.
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» Special Surrender Value Component
– In some policies, the insurer may credit a special surrender value.
– This may include some part of bonuses or reserves.
– If it is higher than Guaranteed Surrender Value, you get that instead.
– Special values may change over time with company policy and regulator approval.

» What Documents You Need to Submit
Generally, you need these:
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– Cancelled cheque for bank account.

The insurer will guide you with forms.

» What Happens After You Submit Surrender Request
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– Tax depends on policy type and premium structure.

You should confirm tax treatment before finalising surrender.

» Things to Know Before You Surrender
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– Surrender value is often much lower than premiums paid.
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Surrendering is possible, but cost can be high.

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Paid-up may give better value than immediate surrender.

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» Important to Check in Your Policy
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– Paid-up benefit details.
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– Ask for paid-up option quote also.
– Compare both before deciding.

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Finally, you are free to stop the policy now.
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Sir, I completed my 12th standard from CBSE with PCM in 2025, and I am currently preparing for the COMEDK exam, through which admissions are given to top private engineering colleges in Bangalore. However, my 12th result was not very good because I did not prepare properly. As a result, I got an RT (Repeat in Theory) in Chemistry. In my CBSE marksheet, I am shown as overall pass because I had taken six subjects, due to which Chemistry became an additional subject. As you know, Chemistry is a compulsory subject for engineering colleges, so I appeared for the NIOS On-Demand Improvement Examination for only the Chemistry subject, and I have passed it. Sir, I want to know whether two marksheets from different boards—one being the CBSE marksheet showing overall pass, and the other being the NIOS marksheet for a single-subject improvement in Chemistry—are accepted by top private engineering colleges in Bangalore. Also, will these documents be accepted during COMEDK counselling document verification?
Ans: Yes. Generally, top private engineering colleges and COMEDK counselling accept a CBSE overall pass marksheet along with an NIOS single-subject Chemistry pass marksheet, provided Chemistry is passed, and you meet eligibility. Still, final acceptance depends on COMEDK/college verification rules. However, it is highly recommended that you carefully review the COMDEK brochure. If you have doubts about our clarification or reply, it would be better to visit the administrative office of any top engineering college in person and ask them directly without any hesitation to resolve your problems/doubts across the table instantly. With this, you will be free from stress that you hold in your mind. Now, focus more on COMDEK and try to score more. Best of luck to your bright future.

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