Hii sir
I have a personal loan of 1 lakh and i have borrowed 70k from friends and family my salary is only 35000 in which i am paying 7k room rent and 8k EMI, I have a family to feed what should i do
Ans: You are in a tight situation. Still, it is not impossible.
Many people have come out of such a position with right steps.
You must now follow a simple but strict financial plan.
Let us go step by step.
Face Your Situation Honestly, Without Panic
You are earning Rs. 35,000 per month
Rent is Rs. 7,000
Personal loan EMI is Rs. 8,000
Total fixed outgoing is already Rs. 15,000
You also need to feed your family
Plus, you have Rs. 70,000 informal debt to friends and family
This is serious, but not hopeless
First Target: Stop Any Further Borrowing
Do not take any more loans
Don’t swipe credit cards for monthly expenses
Avoid BNPL apps or payday loans — they are dangerous traps
If possible, stop using credit completely until situation improves
Any new borrowing will sink you deeper
Speak to Lender and Restructure EMI
Talk to your bank about your Rs. 1 lakh loan
Request for EMI reduction or tenure extension
You can also ask for 3-month relief or restructuring
Many lenders offer hardship support if you request with documents
Lower EMI gives you breathing space for 6–12 months
Use this wisely to repay informal loans
Inform Friends and Family About Repayment Plan
Be honest and humble to those who helped you
Don’t go silent. It spoils relationships forever
Say clearly that you need 6–12 months to repay
Commit to a monthly repayment plan of Rs. 4,000 or Rs. 5,000
Even if slow, show that you are serious and consistent
Trust grows when they see you try your best
Family Must Support with Simple Living
Share the real picture with your spouse or elders
Reduce every avoidable cost from today
Stop outside food, cab rides, OTT subscriptions, online shopping
Choose budget groceries, public transport, and home-cooked meals
Use every leftover rupee to clear loans step by step
This phase is temporary — if all cooperate
Start a Monthly Repayment Budget Immediately
Let’s build a basic plan from your Rs. 35,000 salary:
Rs. 7,000 for rent
Rs. 8,000 (or restructured EMI of Rs. 5,000)
Rs. 12,000 for food and home running (strictly budgeted)
Rs. 5,000 repayment to family/friends
Rs. 3,000 as buffer/emergency money
This is tight — but you can survive and repay
Create a Side Income or Temporary Gig
You must try to earn an extra Rs. 5,000 to Rs. 10,000 monthly
Many options exist, even in part-time or online mode:
Weekend delivery work (Zomato, Swiggy)
Data entry, basic design, or social media work from home
Tuition to school kids or help for local shops
Evening freelance work from your own skills (Excel, writing, customer service)
Even 2 hours a day can add Rs. 5,000–Rs. 7,000 monthly
Use this extra only for loan repayment or emergency
Don’t Start SIPs or Investments Now
This is not the time to invest
Every rupee must go to debt clearing
Investment can wait — clearing debt is higher priority
Once you are debt-free, SIP can start later
If any LIC or ULIP policy exists, stop paying premium
Investment-cum-insurance is useless when you are in debt
Surrender it and use the value to reduce debt
Only pure term insurance must continue — no other product
Health and Emergency Protection Must Be Reviewed
If your employer gives health cover, confirm its details
If not, check if your spouse or parents have health policy that includes you
If no insurance exists, keep Rs. 3,000 buffer each month for health needs
Sudden medical bills can break your entire plan
Protect this buffer — don’t spend it on shopping
If needed, buy Rs. 5 lakh family floater later — not now
Right now, focus only on survival and stability
One Family, One Goal, One Plan
All family members must support your efforts
Avoid blame, fights or stress — work together
Make this financial stress your shared project
Keep a notebook or Excel sheet to track every rupee spent
Celebrate small wins — like clearing Rs. 10,000 debt in one month
Every small repayment brings mental peace
Avoid These Mistakes
Don’t take gold loan to repay personal loan
Don’t sell essential things like phone, scooter or ration card
Don’t get lured by chit funds or income-doubling apps
Don’t trust anyone who says “give Rs. 10,000 now to earn Rs. 1 lakh”
Don’t quit job suddenly — even if salary feels low
Focus on increasing income slowly — not chasing shortcuts
Use Free Government and NGO Support
Many government schemes can help people in tight situations
Free ration cards (check if you’re eligible)
Midday meal or nutrition support for small children
School fee help in some private schools (talk directly to principal)
Free or low-cost medical treatment in government hospitals
If you look around, help is available — ask without shame
This phase is not failure — it is just a passing storm
Personal Mindset Is the Biggest Tool Now
You must believe you can come out of this mess
It will not happen in one or two months
But it will happen within 12 to 18 months
If you stay consistent, reduce expenses, earn extra, and repay steadily
Millions have done it — you can too
Don’t hide your stress. Talk to 1 trusted person
Even 1 call from a friend or mentor helps you think clearly
Sample 6-Month Plan (For Action)
Month 1 to 3:
Request EMI reduction or relief from bank
Start Rs. 5,000 repayment to friends
Earn extra Rs. 3,000–Rs. 5,000 from weekend work
Cut home cost to Rs. 12,000 with family support
Maintain Rs. 2,000 emergency buffer
No new loans, no new spending
Month 4 to 6:
Use all extra income for Rs. 70,000 repayment
Try to clear informal debt first
Continue Rs. 5,000–Rs. 8,000 bank EMI
Rebuild family trust with consistent payments
Track your progress every 7 days
This will change your mental energy and financial reality
You will feel in control again
Finally
You’re in a financially weak place now, but not defeated.
You still have a job, courage, and support from family and friends.
Start one small action today — everything else will follow.
Avoid shortcuts. Stay honest, focused, and consistent.
After 12 months, your life will look completely different.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment