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Lalit Question by Lalit on Jun 28, 2023Hindi
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Sir, I am having Centum Electron, Indo tech transformer, Shilchar Technologies is, CDSL, Expleo Solution, Zensar technologies and Poonawalla fincorp. Request you to give your views.

Ans: The run up in some has been crazy. specially Silchar tech has been a super multibagger. I like Expleo and Zensar in the mid to small IT space too. CDSL is another slow and steady growth story. keep holding it.
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