Sir My father bought a plot 8m 1950 or 1952. Constructed a 2 BR house in a town in east Bardhaman. My father died in the year 1954 or 55 when I was class 6. My mother died in 2003. In the record of land 3 brothers name shown. We have sold some part of the land in 2 installments and now all brothers wants to sale balance portion. Since no amount is known for cost of land and house construction how to index and arrive at LTCG for me a Sr Citizen.

Ans: Based on your son's rank, admission to top NIT CSE/ECE branches is difficult, but some lower branches in newer NITs, IIIT ECE/IT-related branches, and GFTIs remain possible options. Potential JoSAA and CSAB targets include IIIT Una, IIIT Kalyani, IIIT Bhagalpur, IIIT Bhopal, IIIT Ranchi, IIIT Kurnool, and IIIT Dharwad; NITs like Meghalaya, Mizoram, Nagaland, Sikkim, and Arunachal Pradesh for non-CSE branches; and GFTIs such as Sant Longowal, Assam University, and Gurukula Kangri. It is important to apply for CSAB Special Rounds as vacant-seat cutoffs may relax. Additionally, reviewing JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the past 2–3 years will provide valuable insights to help your son confidently select and maximize his preferred choices. If possible, consider 3-4 reputed private engineering colleges in and around Delhi as backup options. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: HI GS,
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It can be quite challenging to get into top-tier NITs. However, there are still opportunities available with NITs such as AP, Srinagar, Mizoram, Nagaland, or Manipur, particularly for core branches like Civil Engineering, Metallurgy, or Biotechnology.

Alternatively, consider specialized GFTIs or state-level engineering colleges, which may offer better programs than some NITs.

Make sure to actively participate in the counseling process until she reaches the desired college.
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Ans: Sekhar, At CRL 23,746 with 98.5 percentile, the best decision should be based on long-term salary growth and career flexibility. For high salary and future-ready careers, generally CSE/IT is preferred over ECE, and ECE is preferred over Electrical, but a strong NIT brand can be better than taking CSE in a much weaker lower NIT. Motilal Nehru National Institute of Technology Allahabad has very strong placement momentum, with CSE average packages reported around ?28 LPA and major recruiters like Microsoft, Goldman Sachs, Oracle, PhonePe and Qualcomm regularly hiring. Maulana Azad National Institute of Technology Bhopal and National Institute of Technology Jamshedpur also have strong placement records and good recruiter presence. My strict order of preference would be MNNIT Allahabad ECE first, followed by MANIT Bhopal ECE, then NIT Jamshedpur ECE, followed by MNNIT or MANIT Electrical, and only after that CSE in a lower NIT if that institute has strong coding culture and recruiter access. NIT Jamshedpur Electrical should come after these options. My final recommendation is to prefer ECE at MNNIT Allahabad or MANIT Bhopal over CSE in a much lower NIT because it offers stronger brand value, better placement quality, coding opportunities, semiconductor and VLSI career options, and better long-term growth for both core and software roles. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Kumar, expected KCET rank usually falls roughly in the 8,000–15,000 range for engineering under general?merit. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Varsha, For NITs, chances of a “decent branch” are very low in regular JoSAA, even with UP female + OBC-NCL benefit. MNNIT Allahabad home-state branches are also unlikely at this percentile. Still, fill choices for all lower branches in newer NITs, GFTIs, and IIITs, and definitely apply for CSAB Special Rounds, where vacant seats may improve chances. It is advisable to have the following backup options: UPTAC/AKTU counselling, MMMUT Gorakhpur, Bundelkhand University, BIET Jhansi, KNIT Sultanpur, and good private colleges like JSS Noida, KIET, ABES, GL Bajaj, Galgotias, NIET. Keep CSE/IT/ECE in state/private colleges as a stronger plan. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Manoj Ji, With UP domicile, MNNIT Allahabad is the home-state NIT, but CSE/ECE are difficult; lower branches may be borderline depending on EWS rank. Better chances: NIT Patna, NIT Raipur, NIT Hamirpur, NIT Jalandhar, NIT Kurukshetra lower branches, and newer NITs like Meghalaya, Mizoram, Nagaland, Sikkim, Arunachal Pradesh. For IIITs, try IIIT Una, Kalyani, Bhagalpur, Bhopal, Kottayam, Dharwad, Kurnool, Ranchi, Nagpur ECE/IT-related branches. Use official JoSAA 2025/2024 rank archives for exact branch matching. Also register for CSAB Special Rounds, where vacant-seat cutoffs may relax. It is advisable to have the following options also as backups: AKTU/UPTAC counselling, HBTU Kanpur, MMMUT Gorakhpur, JIIT, Thapar, VIT-North India Campuses, SRM-North India Campuses, and Manipal-Jaipur. Additionally, reviewing JoSAA opening and closing ranks from the past 2–3 years will provide valuable insights and help your daughter confidently select and fill her preferred & maximum number of choices.
ALL the BEST for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: You don’t actually want to choose between your parents and your boyfriend.
You want both love and autonomy. And that is a fair need.
The reason it feels so heavy is because you’ve been conditioned to believe that choosing yourself means hurting your parents. So even when you do something right for your life, it comes with guilt.
But here’s the shift you need to make:
You’re not choosing against your parents.
You’re choosing for your life.
Right now, hiding is draining you because it keeps you stuck in fear. But being fully open without boundaries leads to interference. So the balance is this:
Be honest, but don’t hand over control.
You can say:
“I respect your opinion, but I need to make my own decisions about my life.”
They may not like it immediately. They may react emotionally. That doesn’t mean you’re wrong—it just means they’re adjusting.
The real work for you is learning to sit with that guilt without giving in to it. Because that guilt is not a signal that you’re doing something wrong—it’s a sign that you’re doing something new.
You don’t have to stop loving your parents.
You just have to stop losing yourself to keep them comfortable.
That’s the line you’re learning to walk right now.

Ans: What you’re experiencing feels overwhelming because it’s new to you, not because it is “wrong” in itself. In many joint families, things like shared spaces, open movement in the house, less privacy, and collective responsibilities are quite normal. People grow up with that system, so for them it doesn’t feel intrusive—it feels like family closeness.
At the same time, you come from a background where privacy, independence, and personal boundaries were natural, so the contrast feels like a loss. Both realities are valid. Neither is completely right or wrong—they are just different value systems.

This is also something that ideally should be discussed before marriage, but since it wasn’t, you are now learning and adjusting in real time—which is understandably difficult.

Now the goal is not to reject the joint family system or force yourself to accept everything silently. The goal is to find a middle ground where you can function without losing yourself.

When you talk to your husband, acknowledge his reality too. That will make him more open to hearing you. You can say something like:
“I understand this is how your family has always lived, and I respect that. But for me this is very new, and I’m struggling to adjust to the lack of personal space. I don’t want to disrespect anyone, but I also need some space to feel comfortable.”

This way, you are not attacking his family—you are explaining your adjustment challenge.

Also, instead of expecting a complete change, focus on small, realistic adjustments:
A basic level of privacy in your room (like knocking)
Some flexibility in daily expectations
Clear communication about responsibilities

In joint families, change usually doesn’t happen suddenly—it happens gradually and through understanding, not confrontation.

And one important mindset shift for you:
Adjustment doesn’t mean losing yourself completely.
But it also doesn’t mean expecting the environment to become exactly like your old life.

You are now learning how to live between two worlds.

If both you and your husband handle this with patience and respect, it can become manageable. If either side becomes rigid, then it starts feeling like suffocation.

So your task is not to “fit in perfectly,”
but to adapt without disappearing.

Ans: First, let me say this clearly: your desire is normal. Wanting intimacy, closeness, and a sexual connection with your husband is not “too much” or “wrong.” Being repeatedly rejected and then blamed for it can slowly damage your self-worth, and that’s what you’re feeling now.
But we need to separate a few things to understand what’s really happening.
Your husband’s lack of sexual interest for 2 years is not something to ignore. It could be due to multiple reasons—stress, hormonal changes, mental health issues, guilt, unresolved emotional conflict, or even disconnection from the relationship itself. But the real concern is not just the lack of sex—it’s that he avoids the conversation, shuts you down, and turns it back on you.
That creates a cycle where:
You feel rejected → you try to connect → he withdraws or blames → you feel worse → trust breaks further.
On top of this, there is unresolved trust damage from his past involvement with another woman. Even if he calls it “friendship,” the fact that it broke your trust and was never repaired properly means that wound is still open. Without rebuilding trust, emotional closeness cannot return—and without emotional closeness, physical intimacy often disappears.
Right now, you are living in three layers of pain:
You feel unwanted physically
You feel unsure emotionally
You feel unheard when you try to talk
That’s why it feels like you’re stuck.
Now, what can you realistically do?
You cannot force desire.
You cannot beg for intimacy.
And you cannot rebuild trust alone.
But you can change how you approach this.
Instead of focusing only on sex, shift the conversation to the relationship itself. At a calm moment, not during rejection, speak very directly but without blame:
“I am not just missing physical intimacy. I am feeling emotionally disconnected, rejected, and confused. I don’t want to fight, I want to understand what is happening between us.”
Watch his response carefully. Not just words, but willingness.
If he continues to deny, blame, or avoid, then this is no longer just a “sexual issue.” It becomes a relationship issue that requires intervention.
At this stage, a mature step would be to suggest couples counseling or medical evaluation. Frame it as “us” not “you.”
Because if he truly has no desire at all, he should be open to understanding why.
And if he refuses even that, then you have to face a difficult truth:
You are trying to sustain a relationship where your needs are consistently dismissed.
Also, gently reflect on something important:
Do you feel emotionally safe with him anymore, or are you constantly second-guessing and shrinking yourself?
Because intimacy doesn’t return in an environment of doubt, fear, and blame.
You have given 23 years to this relationship.
You deserve clarity, respect, and emotional connection—not confusion and rejection.
You don’t need to decide everything today.
But you do need to stop normalising this pain.