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Sir, Can i Buy iex at This Level ?
Ans: Indian Energy Exchange Limited (IEX) is the first and largest power exchange in India. It has a dominant market share of over 98% of traded volume in electricity and diverse registered participants base of more than 6300. Providing an automated trading platform for physical delivery of electricity, IEX enables efficient price discovery and offers participants the opportunity to trade in electricity contracts, Renewable Energy Certificates (RECs) and ESCerts (Energy Saving Certificates). The exchange platform increases the accessibility and transparency of the power market in India and enhances the speed and efficiency of trade execution. IEX is approved and regulated by Central Electricity Regulatory Commission (CERC) and has been operating since 27 June 2008. The Exchange is a professionally managed company.

Indian Energy Exchange is one of two exchanges in India that offer an electronic platform for the trading of electricity products and has a substantial majority market share among the power exchanges in India. The DAM constitutes the substantial majority of the energy contracts that are traded on the Exchange. The Exchange is an online platform which is accessible to registered participants throughout India. The Exchange increases the accessibility and transparency of the power market in India and enhances the speed and efficiency of trade execution. In addition to trade execution, the exchange offers settlement services, including electronic trade confirmation, access to clearing services and risk management functionality.

Indian Energy Exchange Limited was incorporated as a public limited company on March 26, 2007 in Maharashtra. The Company obtained a certificate of commencement of business on April 17, 2007.

In 2009, trading on its exchange commenced in day-ahead-market (DAM).

In 2010, the company registered first industrial consumer on its exchange. During the year under review, trading on its exchange commenced in term-ahead- market (TAM). During the year under review, the average monthly cleared volume on its exchange crossed 500 million units (MU). In 2011, trading on its exchange commenced in renewable energy certificates (RECs).

In 2014, the daily average cleared volume on its exchange touched 79 MU/day and highest cleared volume in a day crossed over 117 MUs. In 2015, highest cleared volume in a day on its exchange crossed over 131 MUs.

In 2016, daily average cleared volume on its exchange touched 93 MU/day and highest cleared volume in a day crossed over 136 MUs. In August 2016, the Exchange received three ISO Certifications: ISO 9001:2008 for quality management, ISO 27001:2013 for information security management and ISO 14001:2004 for environment management.

In 2017, daily average cleared volume on its exchange touched 109 MU/day and highest cleared volume in a day crossed over 147 MUs. Trading of energy saving certificates (ESCerts) on its exchange commenced on 26 September 2017.

The company came out with an initial public offer (IPO) during the period from 9 October 2017 to 11October 2017. The IPO comprised of offer for sale of 60.65 lakh shares by selling shareholders. There was no fresh issue of shares from the company. The stock debuted at Rs 1,500 on BSE on 23 October 2017, a discount of 9.09% compared to the IPO price of Rs 1,650 per share.

On 28 March 2018, Indian Energy Exchange (IEX) and Japan Electric Power Exchange (JEPX) signed a Memorandum of Understanding (MoU) for jointly exploring the opportunities of cooperation in electricity market. The intent of the MoU is to share experience and cooperate with each other in respect of technology and in energy market products development. The scope of MoU includes opportunities for training to augment the electricity trading through competitive market platforms by organizing knowledge sharing programs.

The Board of Directors of Indian Energy Exchange Limited (IEX) at its meeting held on 26 April 2018, decided not to go ahead with the buyback of Equity Shares of the company.

The Board of Directors of Indian Energy Exchange Limited (IEX) at its meeting held on 9 August 2018 recommended Sub-Division of 1 (one) Equity Share of face value of Rs. 10/- (ten) each fully paid up into 1 (one) Equity Shares of Rs. 1/- (one) each fully paid up, resulting in issuance 10 (ten) Equity Shares of Rs. 1/- (one) each fully paid up, thereby keeping the paid up capital intact, subject to the approval of the Members in the ensuing 12th Annual General Meeting. Additionally, the Board approved increase in limit of total shareholding of all Registered Foreign Portfolio Investors (FPIs)/Registered Foreign Institutional Investors (FIIs) put together from 24% up to 49% (which is present sectorial cap under existing FDI Policy) of the paid-up equity share capital of the company, which shall be subject to approval of shareholders in the ensuing Annual General Meeting and other regulatory approvals/limitations.

On 29 September 2018, the highest volume traded on its exchange in Day-Ahead Market (DAM) touched 306 MU. This is all time high record volume.

During the year 2019, the Company initiated the Buyback proposal for buy-back of up to 3,729,729 fully paid-up equity shares of Rs. 1/- each of the Company (representing 1.23% of the total number of equity shares in the paid-up share capital of the Company) at a maximum price of Rs. 185/- per equity share on a proportionate basis through tender offer for an aggregate amount of Rs. 690,000,000/- (excluding transaction costs viz. brokerage, securities transaction tax, service tax, stamp duty, etc.). The Record Date for determining the eligibility of the shareholders to participate in the Buyback was set as February 15, 2019. The Company completed the Buyback on April 11, 2019 that is within 12 months from the date of Special Resolution passed for approving the proposed buy back which is January 28, 2020.

In FY19, India achieved an installed power capacity of 356 GW and generation of about 1371 billion units with diverse generation mix comprising coal, gas, hydro, renewable and nuclear energy. During the year 2019-20, Company incorporated a wholly-owned subsidiary Company,"M/s Indian Gas Exchange Limited (IGX) on November 6, 2019. The Company started the Indian Gas Exchange in FY 2020. The Real-Time market was launched on 01 June 2020. The Green Term-Ahead Market commenced trading in August 2020 while the Green Day-Ahead Market commenced in October 2021. It signed a Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) with Power Ledger, an Australian company for peer to peer trading in India.

In FY 2021, Company launched Real Time Market which requires very high technological expertise. It helped market participants dynamically balance their power demand-supply portfolio real time in a structured way through the market platform. It upgraded the systems allowing this market to operate with nearly 100% availability. It introduced a Mixed-Integer Linear Programming (MILP) based trading algorithm, which makes it easy to introduce complex bids on the Exchange platform to meet the requirements of a changing market scenario. On April 19, 2021, it commenced Cross-border Electricity Trade with Nepal, Bangladesh, and Bhutan to build a regional power market.

In FY 2022, IGX, which was the subsidiary of IEX (the Company) became an associate of the Company on account of divestment of 4.93% stake in IGX to Indian Oil Corporation Limited, effective from 17 January 2022. It launched Hydro-power contracts in Green Term-Ahead market segment in FY 2022. It commenced the trading platform for PAT Cycle- II in financial year 2022.

In FY24, the government has set a coal production target of 1 Bn Tonnes (BT), representing a notable 12% growth compared to FY23. Simultaneously, there has been a decline in imported coal prices, which is expected to reduce eauction coal prices. Consequently, the increased availability of coal at a more affordable rate will result in a decline in clearing prices, thereby facilitating higher trading volumes on the exchange.

In order to adapt to the dynamic needs of consumers, IEX has consistently demonstrated its dedication to broadening its range of offerings. In FY23, the Company introduced several new products to cater to evolving demands. Notable additions include the High-Price Day-Ahead Market (HP DAM), which aims to increase spot market capacity during periods of high demand. Additionally, IEX launched Term-Ahead Market (TAM) contracts up to 90 days, as well as introduced Green Monthly and Green Hydro contracts to promote
environment-friendly energy. Furthermore, IEX has plans to inaugurate an Ancillary market, set to commence operations on the 1st of June.

Looking beyond current headwinds, we expect FY24E to be better as the decrease in clearing prices will lead to higher volumes, and new product launches to yield returns. Therefore, based on our revised estimates, we
maintain a BUY on IEX Ltd with a target price of Rs. 186.

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Hi Sir, I am a handicapped person, my age is 43 and 5 years ago I met with an accident due to which I have a plate implanted in my thighs as my femer bone was damaged badly of same polio leg & now it has the plate, fixed on 15 screws, I had gain weight after C- session, as of now I am 96kg, I need to lose my weight but my problem is I can't do jogging, walk or any physical exercise. Can you please suggest me something thru which I can lose my weight till 25-28 kg, I am doing work from home so most of the time. I be busy in office work due to which my physical activities are too less
Ans: Thank you for sharing your concerns. It’s important to use sensitive language, so instead of the term “handicapped,” you may identify as a person with a disability. Now coming to Weight loss, it is achievable even with limited mobility by focusing on proper nutrition and customized activities. Create a calorie deficit by consuming balanced meals rich in protein, fiber, and healthy fats, while minimizing processed foods. Stay active with seated exercises like arm movements, resistance band training, or light weight lifting. Even you can throw basketball against wall to keep burning calories, bicycle with your arms instead of your legs etc .Practice mindful eating with portion control, slow chewing, and adequate hydration. Take short breaks from work to stretch, and consult a physiotherapist for personalized advice. Track your progress through weight or measurements and celebrate small victories to stay motivated. If your disability is significant, consider applying for a disability certificate for additional support. I wish you good luck...

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 18, 2024Hindi
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I am 44 years old with 2 kids in class 11 and 10. I have 2 Flats without any loan. I have total 22 lacs ( in Stocks), 34 lacs in nutual funds, 40 lacs in FDs and 37 lacs in PF. If I have to retire tomorrow, how much Corpus will I need.
Ans: Retiring at 44 is an ambitious goal, but with careful planning, it’s achievable. Your current assets and financial goals must align to sustain your post-retirement life. Here's a detailed assessment and strategy.

1. Estimating Retirement Corpus Needs

Retirement requires a large corpus to ensure financial independence.

The corpus must cover daily expenses, medical costs, and lifestyle needs.
It should also provide for children’s education and marriages if not already funded.
Assume inflation-adjusted withdrawals for 40+ years, as life expectancy could extend to 85.
A Certified Financial Planner can help calculate the exact amount based on your lifestyle and expenses.

2. Evaluating Your Current Financial Assets

Your assets are impressive and form a strong financial base.

Stocks (Rs. 22 Lacs): This portfolio may provide high growth but carries risks.
Mutual Funds (Rs. 34 Lacs): A well-diversified portfolio of actively managed funds ensures moderate to high returns.
Fixed Deposits (Rs. 40 Lacs): These offer stability but are less effective against inflation.
Provident Fund (Rs. 37 Lacs): This corpus is a reliable, long-term asset.
Together, these assets provide a solid starting point for retirement planning.

3. Estimating Monthly Expenses After Retirement

Your monthly expenses will determine the required corpus.

Identify essential expenses like groceries, utilities, and healthcare.
Consider discretionary expenses like travel and hobbies for a comfortable lifestyle.
Factor in children's education and marriage expenses as immediate needs.
Ensure you account for inflation, which erodes purchasing power over time.

4. Planning for Children’s Education and Marriage

Your children’s education and marriage are significant financial commitments.

Class 11 and 10 suggest education expenses will occur soon.
Factor in tuition fees, living expenses, and any higher education abroad.
Marriage costs will depend on your family’s traditions and preferences.
Allocate separate funds for these goals to avoid disrupting your retirement corpus.

5. Structuring Your Retirement Portfolio

A retirement portfolio should balance growth, stability, and liquidity.

Equity Investments: Retain part of your stocks and mutual funds for long-term growth.
Debt Instruments: Use fixed deposits and provident funds for stable returns.
Balanced Approach: Diversify across asset classes to minimise risks.
Keep a portion in liquid assets for emergencies and short-term needs.

6. Avoiding Over-Reliance on Fixed Deposits

Fixed deposits provide safety but may not outpace inflation.

Their post-tax returns are often lower than inflation rates.
Redeem some FDs and reinvest in diversified mutual funds for higher growth.
Focus on actively managed funds that adapt to market conditions better.
This will enhance your portfolio’s ability to sustain long-term withdrawals.

7. Accounting for Healthcare and Emergency Needs

Healthcare costs can rise sharply as you age.

Maintain a comprehensive health insurance policy for yourself and your family.
Ensure your insurance covers critical illnesses and hospitalisation.
Set aside a medical contingency fund in a liquid mutual fund or savings account.
This ensures you don’t dip into your retirement corpus for emergencies.

8. Managing Tax Liabilities on Investments

Understanding tax implications can maximise your post-retirement income.

Equity Investments: LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%. STCG is taxed at 20%.
Debt Instruments: Both LTCG and STCG are taxed as per your income slab.
Fixed Deposits: Interest income is fully taxable under your income slab.
A CFP can optimise your withdrawals to minimise tax outflows.

9. Creating an Income Stream for Retirement

A sustainable income stream is essential for meeting monthly expenses.

Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs) from mutual funds provide regular income.
Withdraw dividends or interest from debt instruments systematically.
Avoid withdrawing too much too soon to ensure the corpus lasts longer.
Plan withdrawals in a tax-efficient manner with professional advice.

10. Protecting and Growing Your Retirement Corpus

To sustain a 40-year retirement, your corpus must grow over time.

Invest in equity-oriented funds for inflation-beating returns.
Reallocate funds periodically to maintain an optimal equity-debt balance.
Review your portfolio annually with a Certified Financial Planner.
This disciplined approach ensures steady growth and reduced risks.

11. Avoid Common Mistakes in Retirement Planning

Mistakes can significantly impact the sustainability of your corpus.

Over-Conservatism: Avoid keeping too much in low-return instruments like FDs.
Ignoring Inflation: Failing to account for inflation reduces purchasing power.
Emotional Decisions: Avoid panic-selling during market volatility.
Stick to your financial plan and seek professional guidance.

12. Final Insights

Retiring at 44 is achievable with disciplined planning and professional advice. Ensure you maintain a balance between growth and safety. Regular reviews and adjustments will help sustain your corpus for decades.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 19, 2024

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Dear Rama Sir, I am 42 years and have been doing SIP since last 3 years. My monthly SIPs are as : ICICI Prudential Bluechip Fund : 20 K, DSP Mid CAP: 5K, SBI Small CAP: 12 K, Parag Parikh Flexi: 10 K and HDFC Balanced Advantage: 10 K. Also, I have invested Lumpsum amount of Rs. 50 K in DSP mid CAP, Rs. 15 K in ICICI Ultra Short and Rs. 4 Lacs in SBI Contra. Pl review and suggest improvements if required. I recently got bonus and can invest more in Lumpsum in your suggested funds. Request your guidance Sir.
Ans: Your systematic investment plan (SIP) portfolio shows a structured approach. It reflects a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, flexi-cap, and balanced funds. The lump sum investments add diversification. This balanced allocation demonstrates prudence and clarity.

Let us review each aspect of your portfolio and provide tailored suggestions.

Strengths in Your Current Portfolio
Diversified Allocation: Your investments span large, mid, small caps, and flexi-cap categories. This reduces risk.

Consistent SIPs: Monthly SIPs total Rs. 57,000, reflecting commitment. SIPs instill discipline and capture market volatility over time.

Growth Potential: Mid-cap and small-cap funds provide good growth opportunities over the long term.

Lump Sum in Contra Fund: Rs. 4 lakh in a contra strategy adds a contrarian element. This could yield good returns in specific market conditions.

Areas for Improvement
Overlapping Funds: Multiple funds may invest in similar sectors or stocks. This could lead to duplication.

Balanced Allocation Concerns: High allocation to equity-oriented funds increases risk. A more balanced approach can help achieve stability.

Debt Investment Allocation: ICICI Ultra Short-Term Fund at Rs. 15,000 seems under-allocated. Adding more to debt can stabilize your portfolio.

Limited Sectoral Diversification: Current funds focus mainly on broader indices. Exposure to sectoral or thematic funds could enhance growth.

Suggestions for Portfolio Improvement
1. Optimise Equity Allocation
Retain a mix of large, mid, and small-cap funds, but assess overlap.
Avoid holding too many funds with a similar investment strategy. This leads to diluted returns.
Focus on funds with consistent performance and proven track records.
2. Strengthen Debt Investment
Increase allocation to debt funds for stability. Balanced funds are helpful, but dedicated debt funds are crucial for portfolio cushioning.
Consider short-term and corporate bond funds for steady returns.
3. Increase Lump Sum Allocation Wisely
Allocate the bonus amount across diversified funds to align with your goals.
Divide lump sum investments into tranches to leverage market corrections.
4. Assess Contra Fund Exposure
While contra funds offer unique opportunities, Rs. 4 lakh is a significant portion.
Limit exposure to avoid overdependence on contrarian strategies, which work best in certain cycles.
5. Tax Efficiency
Equity fund gains over Rs. 1.25 lakh annually are taxed at 12.5%.
Debt fund gains are taxed per your slab. Factor this into future investments.
Plan withdrawals smartly to reduce tax liabilities.
6. Emergency Fund
Ensure sufficient liquidity for emergencies. Allocate 6-12 months of expenses to liquid or ultra-short-term funds.
7. Avoid Overinvesting in a Single Strategy
Balanced advantage funds are versatile, but reliance on one strategy may restrict returns.
Maintain exposure while investing in other complementary funds.
Suggested Allocation for Your Bonus
Equity Investments

Direct part of your bonus to funds with high potential but less overlap.
Diversify by including funds with sectoral or thematic exposure.
Debt Investments

Allocate a portion to debt funds for stability.
Ultra-short-term funds can help with short-term goals.
Hybrid Funds

Use hybrid funds for a mix of equity and debt without aggressive risk.
Gold Investments

If not already, consider Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGB) for diversification.
Broader Financial Planning Recommendations
Goal-Oriented Investments
Map each investment to a specific goal like retirement, children’s education, or home purchase.
This ensures focus and clarity.
Insurance Coverage Check
Evaluate existing life and health insurance policies. Ensure they are sufficient to cover your family’s needs.
If you hold ULIPs, evaluate their returns. Surrendering may allow reinvestment into mutual funds.
Estate Planning
Ensure your investments are nominated and estate documents updated.
A will can simplify asset distribution and avoid future disputes.
Monitor Regularly
Review your portfolio semi-annually to track performance and make adjustments.
This keeps your investments aligned with changing goals and market conditions.
Benefits of Regular Funds Over Direct Funds
Expert Guidance: Investing through a Certified Financial Planner offers advice on fund selection.
Streamlined Process: Regular funds ensure consistent monitoring and better decision-making.
Human Oversight: Direct funds demand deeper financial knowledge. Advisors simplify choices.
Final Insights
Your portfolio reflects strong discipline and a solid foundation. Optimizing fund selection, balancing equity-debt, and aligning investments with goals can enhance returns.

Allocate your bonus systematically for maximum benefit. Avoid impulsive investments and maintain long-term discipline. This approach will keep you on track for financial independence.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 19, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 12, 2024Hindi
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I'm in a happy relationship with my boyfriend since 1.5 years. Before meeting him I had a relationship of around1.3 years(he cheated on me) and my mother got to know about it when she saw me crying and i end up telling her about my relationship(now ex). So I just need advice, should I tell my current boyfriend that my mother know about my ex? Now My mother somehow almost got to know about my current relationship also and i have told about this to my boyfriend but should I tell him that she knows about my past also.? Would he be okay with it or he will get upset about it that i haven't told him about this prior?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How will it matter if your boyfriend knows about your mother being in the know about your past relationship?
Why will he be bothered by it? I just don't understand why this is an issue of you or anyone?

Your words:
i have told about this to my boyfriend but should I tell him that she knows about my past also.
My thoughts:
What will this do if you tell him that she knows about your past?

Your words:
Would he be okay with it or he will get upset about it that i haven't told him about this prior?
My thoughts:
Maybe you should tell him about your past and not worry that he should know that your mother knows about your past

I still feel what you actually want to ask me is not very clear to you; be honest with yourself so that when you ask your question you will be able to get better guidance from me...

All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 19, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 11, 2024Hindi
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Hello Anu Madam, I am 43, and my wife is 40, no kids. We are married for 13 years. Immediately after marriage, for a few months, she did not let me have physical relation. She used to push me away if I tried. Then, for almost 3.5 years, she was treated by a psychiatrist for depression and doctor advised not to have sex. After that too, she was not much interested. We consulted 5 gynaecs and a counsellor, one surgery was performed on her vagina, I got my semen tested multiple times but all in vain. There was no normal physical relationship for next 6-7 years. And now, all of a sudden, she is pushing to have a child. To be honest, I have lost interest. But she is hell bent to get pregnant. Everyday, we fight over this and our mental peace has gone for a toss. She has become way too admant and always gets angry over trivial things. Can you please suggest a way ahead? Thank you in advance and sorry for the long post.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's clear that all these years of expectations being unfulfilled and the medical challenges have taken a toll on the marriage. It has made you distant from her and that is understandable.
How would you like the marriage to be from now on will define whether there will be intimacy in the marriage. In fact, emotional intimacy must be the first step...The two of you can put efforts in simply loving one another. That can be a good start point.
This will involve:
- caring for one another
- giving attention
- loving unconditionally

Understand that you are going to have to start from the beginning; like a child who goes to school for the first time. Build an emotional bond and then slowly as the trust builds, sexual intimacy will follow...Sex is not a forced activity and it will put the two of you in a bad space without much scope to recover. Build, love, trust, respect first...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 19, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 13, 2024Hindi
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Problem with my mother in law and her demanding behaviour in everything i used to do.. Even if i go with my husband.. She demanding me to tell where are you going.. Everything backbithches about me n my family when i was not in home to my husband He used to tell me after that... And i completely fed up... Why is she doing like this? They always make me to do work... Even her daughters are sitting peacefully with their phones.. Recently i addressed all these through my family to them... Now its became a big problem... That i told to my parents... They are blaming me now.. On this reason.. My husband supports them What to do now
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Fight your own battles; involving your family has become a family to family issue now...
Let's imagine for a moment that it's a friend's daughter who is close to you is facing the exact same thing; what would you tell her? What can she do to reclaim her rightful place among people who act selfish?
I am sure you will ask her to find her confidence within herself, right? Then, do just that...

Be clear on what duties of the house you can take on and do just that. Also, if you are a homemaker, do find time for yourself to do things that have a lot of meaning and value to you. Classes and courses that involve you stepping out of home will give a clear signal to the members back at home that they will have to pitch in and nit expect to put everything on you. Less complaints and more action in the direction of what you ultimately want. Don't ask: Why is she doing like this? You will never get an answer to this! Instead, ask: What can I do to lessen my burden and feel better?

Changing people is almost impossible, but changing the way you think and do things is always in your hands...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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