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Bhuvesh Question by Bhuvesh on Apr 03, 2023Hindi
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Hi, My age is 49 years. I have been investing in NPS for last 8 years @Rs 1.5L per annum. From 2022, I have started investing in SIP for last one year, ICICI pru Business cycle fund@10 k monthly, ICICI pru midcap fund@5k monthly , ICICI pru MNC fund @10k monthly, ICICI pru small cap@10k monthly and ICICI pru overnight fund@2L lumpsum. Goal is to get 1.75 L per month at the age of 60. Am i on track?

Ans: Dear Bhuvesh,

Thank you for reaching out for financial advice. I appreciate that you have been proactive in planning for your retirement. Based on the information you've provided, here's a high-level assessment of your investment strategy and whether you are on track to achieve your goal of receiving ₹1.75 L per month at the age of 60.

National Pension System (NPS): You have been investing ₹1.5 L per annum in NPS for the last 8 years. Assuming an average annual return of 8%, by the time you reach the age of 60, your NPS corpus could be approximately ₹44 L. You can withdraw 60% of this amount as a lump sum (₹26.4 L), while the remaining 40% (₹17.6 L) will be used to purchase an annuity plan.
SIP investments: You have been investing in various ICICI Prudential mutual funds for the past year. Assuming you continue these SIPs until you turn 60 and achieve an average annual return of 12%, your mutual fund corpus could be as follows:
ICICI Pru Business Cycle Fund: ₹24.8 L
ICICI Pru Midcap Fund: ₹12.4 L
ICICI Pru MNC Fund: ₹24.8 L
ICICI Pru Small Cap Fund: ₹24.8 L
ICICI Pru Overnight Fund: You have invested ₹2 L as a lump sum in this fund. Assuming an average annual return of 5% over the next 11 years, your investment could grow to around ₹3.4 L.
To achieve your goal of ₹1.75 L per month at the age of 60, you will need a corpus that generates this income through interest or dividends. Assuming a conservative annual return of 6% from a post-retirement investment, you would need a corpus of approximately ₹3.5 crores.

Based on the estimates above, your total corpus at the age of 60 could be around ₹1.34 crores (adding all the corpus values mentioned above), which may not be sufficient to generate ₹1.75 L per month as per your goal.

To improve your chances of achieving your target, consider the following:

Increase your SIP investments gradually over time, as your income grows.
Review your mutual fund portfolio periodically to ensure they are performing well.
Diversify your investments to include other assets such as debt funds, fixed deposits, or real estate for a more balanced portfolio.
Revisit your financial goals and adjust your investment strategy as needed.
Please note that these are rough estimates and cannot guarantee the actual outcomes. Your actual returns will depend on market conditions and your investment choices. I recommend consulting a financial advisor for personalized advice tailored to your specific situation and risk appetite.

I hope this information helps you in planning for your retirement.

Best regards,
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Diversified Fund Selection: Evaluating the Mix
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Let’s evaluate the categories and assess the advantages and disadvantages.

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Flexi Cap Funds: Parag Parikh Flexi Cap
Flexi Cap funds give flexibility to the fund manager. They can invest across large, mid, and small caps. This approach allows better returns during market ups and downs.

The fund you’ve chosen is well-known. However, the performance relies heavily on the manager’s strategy. This means your success depends on how the fund manager shifts between caps.

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For stability, try not to have more than 20-30% in small caps.

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Focusing on yourself and your own growth is essential. Consider engaging in activities that bring you joy, spending time with supportive friends and family, and possibly seeking professional counseling to help you work through your emotions and develop strategies to move forward.

Letting go is difficult, especially when you still have love for someone, but it’s a crucial step towards healing. Accepting that the relationship has ended and focusing on your future can help you find peace and eventually open the door to new possibilities for love and happiness.
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Thank you very much for ur reply. But i am finding difficult to forget her.
Ans: It might be helpful to focus on the following steps to move forward:

Acceptance: Accept that the relationship has ended and that continuing to hold on to it may be preventing you from healing. Acceptance doesn’t mean you have to stop loving her immediately, but it does mean recognizing that the relationship is no longer viable.
Self-Care: Prioritize your emotional well-being by engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family who can help you through this process. Consider exploring new hobbies or interests that can redirect your focus and bring positive energy into your life.
Boundaries: It might be time to set boundaries with your ex-wife, especially if staying in contact is causing you more pain. Taking a step back from communication can provide the space you need to heal and gain clarity.
Professional Support: Consider speaking with a therapist or counselor who can help you process your feelings and guide you through the healing journey. Professional support can offer valuable tools and strategies to navigate the complex emotions you’re experiencing.
Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to grieve the loss of the relationship. With patience and self-compassion, you can move forward, find peace, and eventually open yourself up to new possibilities and happiness in life.

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