
Hello sir,
I am in It head positioning in ming company. This is about my real-life problem sharing with you.I have a beautiful and working wife. Also 2 growing sons.1 is 15 yrs another is 5 yrs.when my little son borne nobody is there to taking care of him.My wife requested onf of distance relatiove please help us.She agreed to send her middle daughter who was 22 yrs at that time.She came & take care of my little son along with us.Their family background was not good.So we help their family in fanicaily also standing with them in every sitautaion.Our both family was good term at that time.Slowly she came to close my heart.We share each other very personal things each other.Due to my wife working in govt school we share very much time mentally & physically each other.Every situation she stands with me and my family.Even my wife not have doubt us.because she has very much faith us.After 4 years their family told us we are looking a boy for her and she will going to marriage to him.That girl told us she will will nt left me& cried.I told him have a family I can’t keep you as my wife.But our relationship will stay forvever.You please agree in this proposal. After so many conversation she agreed. We both husband & wife give her family & her like financially & demand from bride home.After her marriage she called me 5-6 times a day we talked we laughed we cried etc etc.But after some days some misunderstanding situation created which give us stop talking with her.So my wife was not talking with her.But loves her as a elder syster.But after another some days due to my negligency my wife caught some my personal chat both of us.My wife cried and cried due to so many faith of us.she send some chat to that girl.I make my wife understand that it was my mistake and will never repeat again.I stopped talk to her but she tried to talk with me but I avoide some time.I have all accees with her mail,insta,fb.After 1 month I checked her insta ,she is keeping busy with another guy with her village area whom I know her before.I had warning before some years that you keep distance from him,I have broken inside with heavy heart.i cried ,I have given every thing to her but she betrayed me. She cheat me even her husband.I have so many evidence against her.she knows everything.so she threatening you will vanished.you will be finished.I have also told her same language.But I love her .I cheat my wife family for her.I want to forget her and my memory with her.Please help me,how do I recover.
Ans: Dear Priyadarshi,
I understand that you are heartbroken, but from an ethical point of view, you stand equally guilty. Imagine how exactly your wife must be feeling. I want to console you but I am not sure how. At this point, all I can say is put your focus on your wife, the mother of your children and your actual family. If your marriage seems weak, go for couple's counseling, or else leave things respectfully. What's happening right now is extremely disrespectful to all parties, and I urge you to also ensure that your children don't get dragged into this. Please focus on your family.
Best wishes.