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How to Explain a 4-Year Gap After Graduation and Overcome Guilt While Pursuing a PhD?

Prof Suvasish Mukhopadhyay |208 Answers |Ask -Follow

Career Counsellor - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2024Hindi

Career

I got post graduated in year 2021 ...got a contractual job for 1 year ...and then started preparing for CSIR NET exam as well as GATE exam ...This is my second year of preparation since I didn't do well in previous attempt...I was 22 when I got post graduated and I will be 26 soon... How can I explain my gap years if I pursue PhD at 26 now? Also, I have this feeling that I have wasted 4 years after college...How can I cope with this guilt and self criticism? Should I get a PhD through NET or look out for a job and other options such as Mtech. through Gate exam?

Ans: First decide whether to go for M.Tech or Ph.D. First have correct decision. Decision Decides Destiny. I won't say you have wasted four years. It is experience of failure of four years and this experience of repeated failure will be your motivation for the future. So first take proper decision. Students pursue four years course, but don't even think for four hours before opting for the course. So just think for one week and let it be a self talk. No one can motivate you except you. While success you will have thousands of friends and relatives, but during this time you are alone. But don't worry. I am always there for you. So just decide your preference and go ahead. Follow me. Best of luck. May God Bless You. Professor.......................:)

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I completed my b.tech in 2018 i prepared for gate till now just qualified this year now i want to go in it sector how to manage my gap when it interviewer ask what did you do these years if i say gate he/ she say go back try hard what should I do

Ans: Hello

6 years a long gap and it will be difficult for any IT company to hire you. Suggest you pursue academic stream. Do your masters and PhD and in the mean time take up teaching job in local college to begin with.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi

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Sir ,I have been preparing for government exams since 2018 June firstly I prepare for gate in 2019 with college semester in 2019 gate result I.e, 2019 March I qualify with 46 marks that's somehow good score that time for me because I prepare with self study due to over confidence and lack of family income I didn't join coaching and started preparing for UPSC engineering services with full dedication at the age of 20.5 in 2019 eligible for ese 2020 with 21 yr age somehow I got 150 around marks and didn't qualify prelims that time cut off around 240 due to railway has taken his seats so UR cut off increase by 60 which is 188 last in 2019 ese so I got in depression that I prepare with full dedication and even I have a gap of 100 marks in prelims so somehow I came to home in june 2020 after a huge gap of depression in 4,5 months in delhi and started for gate and ese again same condition I couldn't even qualify prelims and got covid in 2021 and from that 2021 I joined UNACADEMY work 1.5 yrs and again I started preparation due to less salary now I have a gap of 5 years no masters degree no industrial skillls and family income less than 20k per month what should I do go and search for civil engineering related job or build a confidence and again prepare one more attempt

Ans: I have gone through the details of your Efforts, Failures, Depression & Your family’s Economic condition.

Based on the above factors, here are the suggestions for you:

1) Till your age bars, try to attempt other comparatively easier (than UPSC) Competitive Exams for Government Jobs & prepare daily for 2-3 hours before & after you come back from work.

2) But AVOID attempting those Competitive Exams which you have already done a number of times and failed. Lack of change in preparation strategies / change in Govt. Policy are the reasons for your subsequent failures.

3) Keeping in view your family’s economic condition & your AGE now, it is suggested to DEFINITELY go for any work, related to your domain, to support your family.

4) Try to upgrade your skills by joining short-term courses with any Institute, related to your domain (or) any other domain you are passionate over. However, make sure that the Institute you join provides JOB GUARANTEE after you complete the Course. Or you can join any ONLINE Courses which are much in demand in job-market.

5) If time does not permit for you to prepare for Competitive Exams & if you feel you are highly demotivated for Govt. Exams, it is advisable for you to fully FOCUS on your Career, related to Civil Engineering & gain good experience.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 24, 2024Hindi

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Hi Anu ma'am, hope you are well! I met a guy last week through arranged marriage set up.. we talked for about an hour and after coming out of the restaurant aslo, we spoke for about 1 more hour.. we both seem to be compatible education, salary wise, intellectually as well.. he is kind of more introvert than me.. doesn't speak much but still he wanted us to talk more n more.. its been a week now.. how do i ask him what's his opinion? To clear few more things i would like to meet more before final.decision... but how do i text him.. dont want to sound desperate ????.. kindly advise how to communicate? Thanks a lot!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you, I am well and hope you are doing well too.

To want to get into the depth of life-changing event like choosing a life partner, is not called desperation but it's called clarification. And simply pick up the phone and call, why text?
Tell him that there are a few things that you would like to discuss with him and then let the conversation flow. I am sure that if he feels the same way about you and wants to make a decision, he too will come for his set of clarifications. Be clear and communicate your intent clearly.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024

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Hi gurus, I am 24 yrs old girl, currently pursuing MBA from a middle class family. I have a 5 yr relationship with my boyfriend. I love him very much. Don't want to loose him. Maybe he also love me. But the problem start few days ago when he suddenly confessed me that he visit red light area thrice at the first year of our relationship. From those initial days we are in a serious relationship and family involved in this. But we don't intimate but virtual intimacy was there. But this year in january we for first time got intimate and after 4 time of intimacy he confess me this that he physical one time and two time just visit their to see naked dance but failed due to some reason. Now He told me that he felt it will be cheating if he not told me this now. One side I am depressed and fear to loose him. He repetitively beg pardon from me and told that this was his peer pressure and now he mature enough to say no this.. Now he can't imagine his life without me. I don't want to loose him but can't forgive or forgot this. Now he repeatedly told me to marry him and proposed me romantically. He repeatedly want pardon from me . I love him very much that I want to forget all things and start from first again. But will it be right, if I easily forgive him than is he got much confidence to do this again?? I am depressed and confused. Pls help me . What will be right decision in this situation? Forgive him or not?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Whether you want to forgive him or not is your decision. But I would wonder if he has confessed all of it. The risk of carrying infections from visiting these places is heavy; so before jumping into any physical act with him, do suggest to him that he gets himself tested. He may oppose it, but be firm on it.
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2024Hindi

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Past talking wife,thinking always about her successful achievements, asking the husband why he is not appreciating her achievements? Because of this the husband is suffering and how to change this? The husband is helpless and living like a robot.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
And what makes the husband not appreciate her achievements? Is he not happy with that? Does he feel insecure with her achievements?
Why is the husband suffering? What is making the husband helpless?

Kindly share more information by answering the questions above. If you or whoever you are writing on behalf of wants guidance, complete information is always important.

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Dec 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2024Hindi

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I have completed B.E in Biomedical engineering in 2021 with 7.8 CGPA. Currently I am working in India Post. But I am not satisfied with my job. I want to change my career now. I don't have any work experience in biomedical field so i feel like I won't get hired. And I'm also preparing for govt exams. So Could you guide me in which path should I take?

Ans: VERY FEW PEOPLE ARE SATISFIED WITH THEIR JOB IN THIS WORLD. BECAUSE FOR MORE MONEY THEY JUMP INTO OTHER SECTORS. DECISION DECIDES DESTINY. FIRST YOU FIX YOUR PATH (ONLY ONE) AND AFTER THAT CONTACT ME. BEST OF LUCK. MAY GOD BLESS YOU. Professor...............................:)

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I have conpleted my +2 PCB with 86% in 2024 and gave NEET 24 got 404 marks. I am very depressed now that my friend's almost every has got in medical admission thru SC quota and Management Quota as well But I belonging to general category is not able to excel in country like india. I would like to ask for your opinions. Currently pursueing Bsc Biotech from downgraded colleges. Pls guide me

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2024Hindi

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I'm a second year EC student, according to my senior suggestions most of the companies ask DSA in placements. I'm not that much interested in software and planning to give GATE exam in 4th year. Please suggest should I develop my interest in coding in the current year for the placement purpose or should I start my preperation for GATE from now onwards. It is really confused for being an EC student

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Thanks sir for you consideration. I will definitely follow your advise.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 30, 2024Hindi

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If i start from now can i get around 90 percentile in jee in 50 days from scratch

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