I failed a job interview for the 4th time this year. I am feeling very embarrassed to face my wife who is earning better than me. She has been single handedly taking care of the family and our kids for over a year now. I an MBA with 7 years of wok experience but I lost my job in COVID and have been struggling in my career doing odd freelancing and consulting jobs. I have no money to start a business. I am trying hard to get a job where I can showcase my skills and get a permanent source of income. What should I do to improve my chances of getting a job? Pls suggest something

Ans: Hello Sunil,

I understand that you're experiencing difficulties in finding a job with a good salary despite having over 22 years of experience as a software delivery head. I can provide you with some suggestions that may help you in your job search and personal life:

Update your resume: Make sure your resume highlights your extensive experience, achievements, and skills. Tailor it to each job application, emphasizing relevant accomplishments.

Networking: Connect with professionals in your industry through networking events, online platforms, and professional associations. Building relationships and seeking referrals can increase your chances of finding job opportunities.

Job search platforms: Utilize popular job search platforms and websites specific to your industry. Regularly check these platforms for new job openings and apply to positions that match your skills and experience.

Stay updated: Keep yourself updated with the latest industry trends, technologies, and certifications. Attend conferences, workshops, and webinars to enhance your knowledge and stay competitive in the job market.

Polish your interviewing skills: Practice common interview questions and prepare your responses. Highlight your achievements and how your skills align with the requirements of the job you're applying for.

Consider contract work or consulting: Explore opportunities for contract work or consulting gigs, as they often offer higher rates and can lead to permanent positions or other opportunities.

Professional development: Identify any gaps in your skills and consider taking courses or certifications to update your knowledge. This demonstrates your commitment to professional growth and can make you more marketable.

Regarding your personal life and desire for a second marriage, it's important to prioritize your emotional well-being and self-care. Here are a few suggestions:

Reflect and heal: Take time to reflect on your past relationship and the reasons for the divorce. Seek closure and consider therapy or counseling if needed to heal and move forward.

Focus on personal growth: Engage in activities that bring you joy, pursue hobbies, and invest in self-improvement. Cultivate your interests and passions, which can make you more confident and attractive to potential partners.

Expand your social circle: Participate in social activities, join clubs or groups related to your interests, and attend events where you can meet new people. Expanding your social circle increases the likelihood of meeting someone compatible.

Online dating: Consider using online dating platforms to connect with potential partners. Be honest about your intentions and take the time to get to know people before committing to a serious relationship.

Seek professional help if needed: If you're struggling emotionally or finding it challenging to move forward, consider seeking guidance from a therapist or relationship counselor. They can provide support and assist you in navigating your personal journey.

Remember, finding a job with a good salary and a fulfilling personal life takes time and perseverance. Stay positive, believe in your abilities, and keep working towards your goals.

Regards,
Abhishek Shah

Ans: Hi, it's unfortunate to hear from you. You haven't shared the details about your eligibility and competency, so I can't help without that.

Ans: Hello!!

Let's only look at the forward path here pls.

Forget about all the failings so far... Be kind to yourself, whatever happened to you, whatever is happening now, the period of COVID did it to many.

The only way to get out of this is -
1. your willingness to see a beautiful future ahead of you
2. you have already taken the first step by seeking counselling
3. leave the habit of revisiting the past again, like you just said that I should have gone to the counselor earlier, don't do this, be happy you are seeing him/her now
4. you have come so far in life, give yourself some credit, you have not reached the senior position just like that, right? You have reached here with your efforts, you have done it before, you'll do it again, have faith in yourself
5. your wife is your life partner, sit across and talk to her, take her to the counselor make her understand that this a phase where you need her on your side. A facade with your wife is a NO NO, it will come out some day, it is extra strain on you and your relationship, come clean , be truthful and honest with her.
6. make self care a priority ..get your routine in order, it's your life, just don't fill your day with mindless activities, like I said one step in the future, start taking actions now.....get up early, expose yourself to the sun and nature( they are great healers), exercise, have good meals throughout the day, learn something new , join a course which will be job oriented, how about adding an MBA or any other course which will help you in your career or job search?
7. make being joyful a habit... spend time volunteering, go teach underprivileged children or where ever you feel like lending a helping hand
8. value yourself....you were not put here to suffer, take action now.

Forget the past, jo beet gayi so baat gayi( meaningless to talk about the past)... stop blaming, complaining....look into the future with energy and enthusiasm, it's your life man , take one step towards it every day.

Bless you to life your life well..