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Tech Entrepreneur, Educationist - Answered on May 09, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 27, 2024Hindi

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Hi i completed my btech in civil engineering in 2012 and masters in2014 initially I was working in teaching field upto 2017 every thing went on well due to delay in salary ishifted job to site engineer till now I'm facing lot of problems in my job weither be my mistake of pressure from superiors I'married and have a kid im willing to change job but couldn't change because of job unavailability I m will to go software filed what should I do im not able to understand pls help

Ans: it is easy natural for many of us to get disheartened but the success comes to those who keep trying optimistically at life as a glass half full. Civil Engineering is the foundational engineering discipline and lends itself to use of new tools and technologies through use of of software to build structures using design elements that use newer materials to build infrastructure, homes, industrial townships that further sustainability. Look that gaining software skills used in Civil Engg field to add value to your current job. Look at acquiring project management skills and explore opportunities with optimism and passion.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 20, 2024Hindi

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Sir, I am 27 years old, Single. Its been 2 years + I am doing private 3 years project contractual job this contractual job.its going to complete in Dec 31st 2024. I gave Ctet teacher exam but i failed 3 time. But i m not focusing in State tet so, i want focus but in market lots of content and i dont have gude what shall i do. I am not happy with my current job. This job changes me alot in my caracter now, i cant sleep properly because if this job will finished what shall i do, till yet i have not creck any exam. And if i go in market i started to forgot ex:- After giving money i forgot to take back, after giving money i forgot to take things sometime. My age also gainig if want to marry so, i have earned money or save money i have to bear all expenses because my parents financially poor if I want save, same time i need to look my younger brother study expenses i need to bear and family running mantainance and also have EMI loans need to pay and also i am helping my parents to build their house with my own money my parents does not have money for my marriage. Now i have overthinking, depression, fear, feeling lossing confident, my dream job also get critical in this situation what shall i do. In office also staff try to polling down because i am getting higher salary what shall i do. For this reason just resently my health conditions because worse my pressure 139 felt vomit feel dizzy. What shall I do now Sir.

Ans: I have gone through your query and understand that you are at the Cross roads of Life.

It's at these times... When the going gets tough... The tough gets gong.
That's your strength.. A tough resilient young lady!
Kindly note you are doing an excellent job hence rewarded with better pay in your organization.. Obviously there's going to be jealousy..Be calm & Handle it with maturity.

Now I understand you are very committed selfless person. Who's contributing a lot to your family,... Wow in fact helping build your own new house. !

In regards to your contractual job, talk to your employer, let them know, that you would have to look for another job post December 2024 if there's no clear further commitment.

In regard to your marriage at 27 you aren't too old to find a like minded partner don't rush and regret, start the process through matrimonial apps.

I see you talk about your health, especially blood pressure, well that's because you are unduly stressed.
Add tender coconut water to your diet, talk to a proper Ayurvedic doctor..!

I am sure you will get over this mid life syndrome and invite us all for your happy day!

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Tech Entrepreneur, Educationist - Answered on May 09, 2024

Question by Kamble - Apr 27, 2024Hindi

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Sir i am a civil engineer graduate 2023 i did my graduation in civil engineering from a tire 2 -3 college from mumbai university . I didn’t get any job its not like that i am dum student or else i was not good at studies u definitely found partility that in civil they took all diploma + degree holders with less knowledge also in companies such a worley , godrej , technimont etc mnc companies with salary of 6-7 lpa but sir i was scattered because i lost my dad in covid my mom is working but her salary is just 50k and now after trying out for jobs as fresher i found a job in IIT bombay as project technical assistant which gives me 30k but its in ocean department. Now i want to learn further i am seeing people doing masters from priavte university like nicmar adani symbiosis etc in construction or infrastructure management. I am stuck jn life what to do im trying for government but i know government junior engineers job wont pay me much to buy home for my mom . In such case what will be best please help

Ans: I fully empathize with your situation. Do focus on the positive of having completed BTech in Civil Engineering. Civil Engineering is the foundational engineering discipline and lends itself to use of new tools and technologies through use of of software to build structures using design elements that use newer materials to build infrastructure, homes, industrial townships that further sustainability. Use your current Tech Asstt job to learn about Oceanography as an added skills. Look at acquiring project management skills and explore opportunities with optimism and passion.

Nayagam P P |4086 Answers |Ask -Follow

Career Counsellor - Answered on May 31, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi

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Sir ,I have been preparing for government exams since 2018 June firstly I prepare for gate in 2019 with college semester in 2019 gate result I.e, 2019 March I qualify with 46 marks that's somehow good score that time for me because I prepare with self study due to over confidence and lack of family income I didn't join coaching and started preparing for UPSC engineering services with full dedication at the age of 20.5 in 2019 eligible for ese 2020 with 21 yr age somehow I got 150 around marks and didn't qualify prelims that time cut off around 240 due to railway has taken his seats so UR cut off increase by 60 which is 188 last in 2019 ese so I got in depression that I prepare with full dedication and even I have a gap of 100 marks in prelims so somehow I came to home in june 2020 after a huge gap of depression in 4,5 months in delhi and started for gate and ese again same condition I couldn't even qualify prelims and got covid in 2021 and from that 2021 I joined UNACADEMY work 1.5 yrs and again I started preparation due to less salary now I have a gap of 5 years no masters degree no industrial skillls and family income less than 20k per month what should I do go and search for civil engineering related job or build a confidence and again prepare one more attempt

Ans: I have gone through the details of your Efforts, Failures, Depression & Your family’s Economic condition.

Based on the above factors, here are the suggestions for you:

1) Till your age bars, try to attempt other comparatively easier (than UPSC) Competitive Exams for Government Jobs & prepare daily for 2-3 hours before & after you come back from work.

2) But AVOID attempting those Competitive Exams which you have already done a number of times and failed. Lack of change in preparation strategies / change in Govt. Policy are the reasons for your subsequent failures.

3) Keeping in view your family’s economic condition & your AGE now, it is suggested to DEFINITELY go for any work, related to your domain, to support your family.

4) Try to upgrade your skills by joining short-term courses with any Institute, related to your domain (or) any other domain you are passionate over. However, make sure that the Institute you join provides JOB GUARANTEE after you complete the Course. Or you can join any ONLINE Courses which are much in demand in job-market.

5) If time does not permit for you to prepare for Competitive Exams & if you feel you are highly demotivated for Govt. Exams, it is advisable for you to fully FOCUS on your Career, related to Civil Engineering & gain good experience.

Hope I have clarified your doubts.

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Archana Deshpande |99 Answers |Ask -Follow

Image Coach, Soft Skills Trainer - Answered on Feb 03, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 13, 2024Hindi

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Sir/mam,My son aged 27 yrs is working as a app developer in a startup company for megre salary. What should he do to goto a higher position?

Ans: Hello!!

Going to a higher position is only possible by your contribution to the company by sheer hard work, giving your 100%.

The only way to a higher salary is to demand your worth. If he feels he is underpaid he must ask for more... only the person knows his worth. He has to prove by his work ethics and the results he has given to the company in terms of revenue and communicate respectfully that he deserves more. If they listen to him then great otherwise he has to look for another place where he is valued.

All the best!!

Archana Deshpande |99 Answers |Ask -Follow

Image Coach, Soft Skills Trainer - Answered on Feb 03, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 07, 2025Hindi

I have been jobless since 2 years. During COVID, I was undergoing tremendous amount of stress due to the lockdowns & WFH. It had telling effect on me & I realized am going through depression when I joined a job which required me to work from office. I quit job a month after I joined the company where the toxic work culture had a big toll on me to the extent of instilling a fear of formal office environs in me, which continues to this day. I have become a recluse. Now I feel I should have sought professional intervention much earlier, rather than just 6 months back. I lost all confidence of turning up for interviews, leave alone joining some job. I fear & hate admitting that infront of my wife who is very temperamental & nags me consistently about job search, as much as she tries to figure out things in my life. Every day I apply to jobs but every time I fail an interview I console myself thinking that I am saved of botheration of the rigors of a job which I can't face. I don't admit to my wife so as not to infuriate her & don't trust her that she will empathise with my situation in life. Hence try to keep up with good facade. But the results never improve- I failed every interview (calls though are hard to come by) which I fully know that its because I could not give my 100 % energy. Now the reluctance is due to many factors- IT is very fast changing field; I have reached a senior level where there are many expectations on that role which I never got to nurture/grow on myself. So every interview gives me shivers: 1) About my performance 2) (provided am selected somehow) About whether I would be able to fulfill my role to my satisfaction (previous professional experience haunts me to this date). As a result of all this I very often mentally exhaust myself (worrying/ wishful)thinking of things rather than bringing myself to earn money for the family. I feel I am just doing things to fill up my day, languishing by doing things that do not bring any value- rather than positively, pro-actively doing something of my career. Due to the gap of 2 years I do not get favorable response from companies I apply to. That is a very big gap to fill & I can't talk my way into saying things like I was in depression or that I did nothing for those 2 years. That further increases my anxiety, I have grown aversion to this entire goings on. I feel direction-less & drained out all the time. Please help.

Ans: Hello!!

Let's only look at the forward path here pls.

Forget about all the failings so far... Be kind to yourself, whatever happened to you, whatever is happening now, the period of COVID did it to many.

The only way to get out of this is -
1. your willingness to see a beautiful future ahead of you
2. you have already taken the first step by seeking counselling
3. leave the habit of revisiting the past again, like you just said that I should have gone to the counselor earlier, don't do this, be happy you are seeing him/her now
4. you have come so far in life, give yourself some credit, you have not reached the senior position just like that, right? You have reached here with your efforts, you have done it before, you'll do it again, have faith in yourself
5. your wife is your life partner, sit across and talk to her, take her to the counselor make her understand that this a phase where you need her on your side. A facade with your wife is a NO NO, it will come out some day, it is extra strain on you and your relationship, come clean , be truthful and honest with her.
6. make self care a priority ..get your routine in order, it's your life, just don't fill your day with mindless activities, like I said one step in the future, start taking actions now.....get up early, expose yourself to the sun and nature( they are great healers), exercise, have good meals throughout the day, learn something new , join a course which will be job oriented, how about adding an MBA or any other course which will help you in your career or job search?
7. make being joyful a habit... spend time volunteering, go teach underprivileged children or where ever you feel like lending a helping hand
8. value yourself....you were not put here to suffer, take action now.

Forget the past, jo beet gayi so baat gayi( meaningless to talk about the past)... stop blaming, complaining....look into the future with energy and enthusiasm, it's your life man , take one step towards it every day.

Bless you to life your life well..

Archana Deshpande |99 Answers |Ask -Follow

Image Coach, Soft Skills Trainer - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 15, 2025Hindi

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Mam, how to cope with immense blame culture anxiety at work?

Ans: Hey!!

The solution for this is to learn to stand up to the bullies, learn to say "NO", protect yourself and communicate assertively. Assertive communication is communicating respectfully in a clam and collected voice, taking care of your needs as well as others and creating a WIN-WIN. Believe me... it is a learnable skill and comes with practice.

If this works , then congratulations, else start looking for other jobs and quit, no one deserves to work in a toxic environment.
Give utmost importance to your inner peace and happiness, stand guard, let this not be disturbed by anything or anyone.

Practice yoga and meditation, this will give you immense strength and clarity of thought.

All the best for making the wise decisions!

Archana Deshpande |99 Answers |Ask -Follow

Image Coach, Soft Skills Trainer - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Question by Invest Global Financial - Jan 20, 2025Hindi

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Dear MAM , I am writing to express some concerns and seek your advice regarding my son who is currently working in the USA after completing his Master's degree. While I am proud of his achievements, I find myself feeling a bit confused about my role as a father during this phase of his life. As he focuses on his career and plans for the future, I wonder if I should expect some support from him for our family's needs, especially considering the financial burden I have undertaken for his education, which amounts to about 1 crore. Additionally, I have responsibilities towards my 90+ year-old mother and my other son, who is also in need of educational support. My son seems to be making all his life decisions independently, including matters relating to his future marriage, without seeking our input. This leaves me feeling sidelined in his life choices. Can you please share your thoughts on how I should navigate this situation? Your guidance would be invaluable as I try to understand my place and expectations in this new dynamic. Thank you for your consideration. I look forward to your response.

Ans: Dear Sir,

He is your son and your blood. You have brought him up ....your values and culture is in him. You have supported him wholeheartedly and you have always been there for him, I am sure he will be there for you too. Just sit down with your son and have a heart to heart talk with him, have the faith that you have brought up your son well, he will listen to your genuine concerns and help you out.

It is just that he is too eager to fly high, the education, the US culture, the freedom is a heady combination right now. Participate in his plans wholeheartedly and with full josh when he shares his plans with you. Don't come in his way, don't demand but ask him to help you out. Please remember that when your child stays away from you, the bonds require efforts to rebuild and make them strong again. Since he is no longer staying with you, he may not have the clear picture of what is happening in your lives here. So please " TALK " to him face to face.

You must be happy that your son has grown up enough to make his life decisions on his own, this is a good sign, he is no longer dependent on you, like you said just be proud of him and be supportive. Love him unconditionally. I know as a parent you feel left out..... what can you do, but to see your little one soar high, trust me I totally understand how you feel. You have given him the wings by funding his education, you can't demand he return the money or pay you back. What you can do is this... give him a proper picture of your financial condition, your younger son's aspirations, he is your eldest, elder children are always responsible, he will come to your rescue and help you out I am very sure of that. Let the language of love and togetherness between the son and father create the magic. Communicate with your child dear father, that's the key, that's the solution.

All the very best!!

Mayank Chandel |1984 Answers |Ask -Follow

IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA, CS Exam Expert - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Question by Rishi - Jan 19, 2025Hindi

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Hello sir Mere bate ne 12 th Bosses se clear kiya h abhi usko college mai off line admission nahi mil raha tho kya wo online BCA kar sakta h..aage usko online ki wajhe se koi pareshshni tho nahi aayeghi aur usko BCA karne ke baad USA jaana ho ya india mai koi job karni ho tho online degree vailed hogi plz kahe

Ans: From which university he is doing an online degree for BCA we have to check and find out about the recognition of that university.

Mayank Chandel |1984 Answers |Ask -Follow

IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA, CS Exam Expert - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Question by Narayana - Jan 03, 2025Hindi

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I am Narayana from mumbai. My daughter is studing in 11th commerce, she is take maths in 11th commerce. My question is after12 th how to do BSC IT. Please sudjest me for her career. Thanks

Ans: Hello Narayana
BSC IT requires physics & chemistry as well in 11-12th. You need to check with few universities if they allow this. Or else you can change the board & move to PCM in 12th standard.

Mayank Chandel |1984 Answers |Ask -Follow

IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA, CS Exam Expert - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Question by Sanskruti - Jan 24, 2025Hindi

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Sir mere bhai ki admit card main jho date of birth aaya hai uske adhar ke sath match nahi ho raha hai toh kya exam de sakte hain

Ans: Hi
Sanskruti, this question got assigned to me late. I hope your brother have appeared for the exam without any issue.

Mayank Chandel |1984 Answers |Ask -Follow

IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA, CS Exam Expert - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 01, 2025Hindi

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Sir how i will contact you ? I need your guidance ?

Ans: In case of any queries & professional help, you can DM me through insta handle CAREERSTREETS.

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IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA, CS Exam Expert - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 31, 2025Hindi

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My average score in neet mock test is 300 I want to crack this exam in this attempt itself as there are 3month left I don't know how to proceed things further please guide me

Ans: Hello
cracking neet requires much fewer marks than what you are scoring, hence you will qualify for the NEET, there is no doubt about it. For admission in a govt college seat, you need a 650+ score if from the open category or a private college seat you need 550+.
Good Deemed College seat requires 400+ marks
You need to analyse your test score, where you are making mistakes and what kind of mistakes they are & improve your weaker areas with every test.
In case of any queries & professional help, you can DM me through insta handle CAREERSTREETS I will help you with the ideal solutions.

Mayank Chandel |1984 Answers |Ask -Follow

IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA, CS Exam Expert - Answered on Feb 02, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Feb 01, 2025Hindi

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Sir, I have passed 12th from CBSE board in 2024. I could not appear for the improvement exam of 2024. Can I appear for the improvement exam to be held in 2025 and if I am able to appear, then when can I fill the form

Ans: Hello
Which examination do you want to appear in 2025? Usually, improvement exam results come late during the counselling process. In case of any queries & professional help, you can DM me through insta handle CAREERSTREETS I will help you out with the ideal solutions.

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