Sir/Ma’am, I am 19 years old and currently in a relationship, but things between us are not going well. We fight very often, sometimes even over very small matters. I feel that maybe both of us had too many expectations from each other, and we both have a lot of ego and anger.
The person I am dating has significant anger issues. I try to stay calm and handle things from my side, but after a point, it becomes difficult for me too. Sometimes, during arguments, he gets very angry and even uses abusive language, which hurts me a lot.
Recently, we had another serious fight, and our conversations often reach the point of breaking up. Lately, the relationship feels very toxic to me, and sometimes I feel like giving up and ending everything because it has become emotionally exhausting. I am feeling very confused and would really appreciate some guidance on what I should do.
Ans: Dear Chandni,
I understand that you are going through a tough time. I get that you want to save the relationship because you have worked so hard to build it from scratch, but with this much conflicts right now itself, especially with a partner who has anger issues, the chances of maintaining a healthy relationship is very slim, unless both of you decide to change things drastically. You are both very young. These are the best years of your life. It's not the time to be spent in sadness and so much burden. If a relationship makes you so emotionally exhausted, is it worth pursuing? Even if you love each other, peace and respect is very important. You are too young to understand that. I would suggest rethinking this relationship.
Best Wishes.