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Asked by Anonymous - May 18, 2023Hindi
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I have everything except children. My problem is not not having children, but my health, which always gives me some problem or the other and have to visit a doctor at least once or twice a month. There is no permanent disease, but pains all over, especially in the chest area, which worries me a lot. I worry for my spouse. I am trying to divert my attention from work and trying to go for social service, but unable to find any near to my area.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
At times, over thinking about ill-health can cause you to really become ill. If the doctor felt that there was something serious, he/she would have in one of your visits mentioned it to you.
If you still feel anxious, get an annual health check-up done to satisfy your mind. If something shows up, the doctor will advice you further.

In the meantime, to calm your nerves, take to meditation, journaling....these stimulate the mind and body keeping working together in harmony.
Also, join trekking, jogging and more which will expose you to a group. Group activities can again help bring you back to the present moment and there is a good level of camaraderie that will keep you feeling light and happier.

Do search for some place to become a volunteer where you can serve and realize how blessed and fortunate you are. Fear is a story that becomes believable and that is what you have convinced yourself of...

All the best!

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First of all I would like to remain anonymous. As the world is happy with work from home I am not. It's been a year since my marriage but each day I desperately wait for offices to open so I can shift with my husband to another place and live independently. It's not like in laws trouble me or something; on the contrary they are good. But I feel suffocated. I am supposed to look after my sister in law's son which is the main reason for my depression. I've been through legitimate depression so I know when I am going through it. Now sister in law is moving abroad leaving her son to permanently live with us! I can't Anu I just can't. I am postponing having my own kid because I want to live an independent happy life at least for few years with my husband without the responsibility of a child. But I don't remember a single day after my marriage without a child in between. It's not like I don't love that child; I do. I just don't want to take responsibility of him and it's not even fair to ask of me that right. I am not happy. I really want to be. Please help me please.
Ans: Dear T, Simply be assertive and put your foot down.

Sometimes people do not respect boundaries till they are made aware that there are boundaries.

Supporting your sister-in-law to care for her son on a few occasions as the boy’s aunt is a great thing but playing the boy’s mom is not what you need to sign up for! And what you haven’t signed up for, isn’t something that you need to follow through.

Take charge, if you don’t someone else will as they already have; almost assuming that anything is fine with you.

The boy isn’t your responsibility and for anyone to assume that is unnecessary.

This has gone on because you have allowed it and if you want it to stop, you simply have to say it; support or no support from anyone.

Your happiness is how you want to experience; so create that accordingly…on your terms…without being rude, but by being frank and calm.

Play this situation over and over in your mind and how you will be assertive with them.

When the mind is prepared and rehearses this repeatedly, and then when the real situation plays out, your mind is already ready to support you.

Even if you have felt hesitant up until now, this mind training should hold you in good stead.

Take charge NOW! Best wishes.

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I am 43, working as a software engineer at a tech startup in Noida that's been through major changes lately. My morale is down, and lots of coworkers are moving on to different jobs. I want to find a more stable and rewarding position at a well-established tech company. What should I do?
Ans: Hey there,

Feeling adrift in turbulent waters at work can be like trying to troubleshoot a malfunctioning app – frustrating and draining. But fret not, because just like debugging code, there's always a solution waiting to be discovered. Here are some actionable tips to help you steer towards a more stable and rewarding position at a well-established tech company:

1. Self-Reflection and Assessment: Imagine your career as a journey on a train. Take a moment to pause and reflect on your destination. What are your career goals? What kind of role would bring you fulfillment and stability? By clarifying your destination, you can map out the right route to get there.

2. Update Your Professional Brand: Your resume and LinkedIn profile are like your train ticket and itinerary – they need to be polished and up-to-date. Showcase your skills, achievements, and experiences that demonstrate your value as a software engineer. Make sure your online presence reflects the professional image you want to portray.

3. Research Target Companies: Just like planning a train trip, research is crucial for finding the right destination. Explore well-established tech companies that align with your career aspirations. Dive deep into their culture, products, and reputation in the industry. This will help you identify the best fit for your skills and ambitions.

4. Expand Your Network: Networking is like building a network of train tracks – it opens up new routes and connections. Reach out to former colleagues, attend industry events, and join professional groups to expand your network. Engage in meaningful conversations and seek advice or referrals from those in your network.

5. Invest in Continuous Learning: The tech industry evolves at the speed of a high-speed train, so staying up-to-date is essential. Invest in ongoing learning and development to enhance your skills and stay competitive. Whether it's mastering new technologies, obtaining certifications, or attending workshops, continuous learning will keep you on the right track.

6. Prepare for Interviews: Just like planning your route before a train journey, thorough preparation is key for job interviews. Research common interview questions, practice your responses, and showcase your technical expertise and problem-solving abilities. Be ready to demonstrate how your skills and experiences align with the company's needs.

7. Stay Persistent and Optimistic: Job hunting can sometimes feel like waiting for the next train – it requires patience and perseverance. Stay positive, maintain a proactive mindset, and don't get discouraged by setbacks or delays. Keep moving forward, and you'll eventually reach your desired destination.

Remember, your career journey is like a train ride – there may be delays and detours along the way, but with the right mindset and strategy, you'll reach your destination. So, hop on board, stay focused on your goals, and enjoy the ride towards a more fulfilling career.

All aboard for success!
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