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Praveen Question by Praveen on Mar 29, 2023Hindi
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I am 49 years of age and until recently was working in a pvt manufacturing company and got fired. I got divorced about 6 years back. I don't have any children. I live with my mother and I don't have any siblings either. I shall left alone after my mother passes away. She is 77 years. I feel very uneasy and don't know what to anticipate for future. Can you please suggest what are my options.

Ans: Dear Praveen,
It is unfortunate the way things have turned out in your life; but it does not mean that it has to be that way even now and in the future.
Brooding over what you don't have will only make you feel miserable. Rather than tell yourself that you don't want to be lonely, why don't you tell yourself that you want a life filled with people and interesting experiences. The brain then starts to search for ways to keep you with people and surround you with experiences.
Now all you have done is fill it with miserable thoughts of loneliness.
SNAP!
You are only as lonely as you think you are! This is a Digital age and you know this that you are connected with people from across the world in a moment's time.
What you have not chosen to see is: How can I make an effort to connect with people so that I feel a sense a belonging?
So, see this clearly and move to answer this question.
Hobbies within a circle, Trekking groups, Music groups, Social movement groups? Name it, it's there!
Pick what you can identify with the most and know that you can find like-minded people...
If there is a hobby that you had to leave mid-way, pursue that NOW!

So instead of anticipating the future and living there, come back to the NOW and focus on what you can do to feel happier with a sense of belonging.
Making sense?

All the best!

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Hellow sir, Request you to please suggest and help? I am 39 yrs old male with no job in hand. I am not married as well. Actually my mom was detected with liver cirrhosis and was asked to have liver transplant on Septemeber 2022. After tht i was all after taking care of my mom and looking out for donors. I didnt hav anybody to take care of my mom, my sister is settled in USA and she was expecting. Hence she could nt help, but all the financal help was done by her. My mom underwent Liver Transplant in the month of May 2023 and now she is recovering. I am with her taking care of her. I hav Dad, bt he is also very old. I was before sept 2022 working in a Reputed hospital as deputy marketing manager. I have done my MBA marketing as well with a hotel management degree. I have a total of 11 years of experience with 8.26 lakhs per year package. I always felt in regards of my marriage i m unable to get a match coz i dont hav a suitable job with good package. At 39 i m unable to upgrade my skills coz of all my responsibilities. Maybe September i am thinking of looking out for a job, as my sister is going to return from US. I want to get married and lead a normal life. I also want to grow in life so that i can keep my family happy. I m afraid of being alone all my life, coz my parents in regards with dere health are not doing well. I also want grow in my career. Request you to please guide me what should i do in life ahead . I had no relatives support that is why i had to leave my job to take care of my Parents. At 39 i feel tht i m too old to get married as dere are very few proposals of my age and those which are dere are very much well settled in life and would epexct somone who is more sucessful than me.
Ans: Hi,
I can understand that you have got two issues primarily. First, you need to get a job and secondly is to get married along with taking care of your parents. You can look for jobs through job portals and look for match through various matrimony portals and marriage bureaus. If you do this consistently for a few months, you are bound to succeed.
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I am 49 year old and staying with mother 81 years old. My first marriage ended in mutual divorce within 1 month and second wife filed false allegations against me in 2016 and then went to her hometown. I am the sole bread earner. I have elder brother and his family who stay in different city. I am being managing job, mother and also fighting cases in her hometown and paying interim maintenance. Sometimes I get confused thinking what should I do in life at this stage once I come out clear from court. Please advise
Ans: Dear Manoj,
It surely must be a stressful time for you. Having said that, every challenging phase always comes to an end and gives way to a brighter path.
Obviously, there are things that you have been forced to give up as your mind was occupied with the divorce, court and all the emotions accompanying these. So, it is time to bring all these back; maybe it's a hobby or it's a project that you want to finish...whatever put it down in writing clearly!
Someday all this unsettling time will end and it will be great to keep yourself upbeat right now with a plan of what you can and want to do post-divorce.

But, there are a few things that you can start right away.
1. Exercising regularly to beat the stress and also become fitter
2. Expanding your social circle to include people who are positive
3. Connecting with your immediate family who can be a huge support system for you
4. Indulging in a hobby that keeps you upbeat
In addition, keep a larger goal that you can start working on right now and that which can continue later too...it could be anything related to work or something that can be running in parallel to your job which requires your expertise. That way, you will keep yourself with a big goal that will require some updating of skill and knowledge as well.
Start NOW!

All the best!
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Remember that transitioning to a new field may require persistence, patience, and a willingness to learn. Stay proactive, adaptable, and open to new opportunities as you pursue your career in mechanical engineering.
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