I am 49 years of age and until recently was working in a pvt manufacturing company and got fired. I got divorced about 6 years back. I don't have any children. I live with my mother and I don't have any siblings either. I shall left alone after my mother passes away. She is 77 years. I feel very uneasy and don't know what to anticipate for future. Can you please suggest what are my options.
Ans: Dear Praveen,
It is unfortunate the way things have turned out in your life; but it does not mean that it has to be that way even now and in the future.
Brooding over what you don't have will only make you feel miserable. Rather than tell yourself that you don't want to be lonely, why don't you tell yourself that you want a life filled with people and interesting experiences. The brain then starts to search for ways to keep you with people and surround you with experiences.
Now all you have done is fill it with miserable thoughts of loneliness.
SNAP!
You are only as lonely as you think you are! This is a Digital age and you know this that you are connected with people from across the world in a moment's time.
What you have not chosen to see is: How can I make an effort to connect with people so that I feel a sense a belonging?
So, see this clearly and move to answer this question.
Hobbies within a circle, Trekking groups, Music groups, Social movement groups? Name it, it's there!
Pick what you can identify with the most and know that you can find like-minded people...
If there is a hobby that you had to leave mid-way, pursue that NOW!
So instead of anticipating the future and living there, come back to the NOW and focus on what you can do to feel happier with a sense of belonging.
Making sense?
All the best!