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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 22, 2024Hindi
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what does it means if a girl keeps on checking whether i am watching her or not

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It could mean a hundred and one different things depending on the context and her intentions. For starters, she might be interested in you and she is trying to understand if you are interested in her. That's the most likely explanation. If she is in some kind of romantic relationship with you, it is possible she is feeling a bit insecure and wants to seek validation by knowing that you are always watching her. It could be mere curiosity- she wants to gauge you and understand your nature; probably she wants to know if you pay attention to her. It can also be her way of flirting- letting you know that she is watching you watch her. Some people do so to build tension. It's all very harmless.

Depending on the context and her overall behavior, you can take a guess. Or you can plainly ask her about her intentions, instead of making assumptions.

Best Wishes!

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Open Communication: The key to resolving these feelings of jealousy is open and honest communication with your partner. Sit down and have a calm, non-confrontational conversation with your boyfriend about how you've been feeling. Express your concerns and let him know that you value his friendship with these women but that their actions have been making you uncomfortable.
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Dear Guru, I work in the technology space, and as with most careers, it is challenging and stressful. I work long hours (10-12hrs on avg). My problem is that I get disturbed sleep and am unable to get work related thoughts out of my mind wherein I even dream about solutions to work problems. I am afraid this is going to hurt my health and burn me out soon. Please advise on how I can detach from work to get a refreshing sleep.
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Pat yourself on the back for being a committed employee. The problems you have stated happen to most people who give their 100% to their work. Since you already know what it is to be 100% at work, it is time for you to give your 100% at home and to yourself.
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I retired earlier now at 53. Invested 7L in ELSS and using 60L on short term equity trading (with monthly average gain 2L) and having own apartment home worth 40L. Having dependent widowed mother, wife with 13 yrs old daughter. Intended to raise daughter as doctor. Please suggest better investment options.
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Reduce Risk in Short-Term Equity Trading:

While a ?2 lakh monthly gain from short-term trading sounds impressive, it's a very risky strategy. The market can be volatile, and these gains may not be sustainable. Consider allocating a much smaller portion (maybe 10-20%) to short-term trading and focus on more stable options for the majority of your investable assets (?60 lakh currently in trading).
Focus on Long-Term Growth and Stability:

Increase Investment in ELSS: ?7 lakh is a good start, but for your daughter's education and your retirement needs, you'll likely need a much larger corpus. Consider increasing your SIP amount in ELSS or similar diversified equity mutual funds with a long-term horizon (10+ years).
Explore Debt Options for Regular Income:

You mentioned having a dependent mother and daughter's education to plan for. Consider investing a portion (maybe 20-30%) of your investable amount in safer debt options like Public Provident Fund (PPF), Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS) for your mother (if she's above 60), or fixed deposits to generate a regular income stream.
Plan for Daughter's Education:

Doctorate studies can be expensive. Start an SIP in a dedicated child education plan or invest in aggressive equity funds specifically for this goal. Talk to a Certfied Financial Planner for personalized recommendations based on the estimated cost of medical education.
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While your apartment fulfills your housing needs, consider if it could generate additional income. Explore options like renting a room if feasible.
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