Vikrant Asked on - Jul 03, 2024 Hi Dear Sir /Mam one of my close friend he is 32 years old now married 6 years ago in 2018. he is in govt job and wife is MA, they have a son 5 years old. After around six months of marriage ,the problems started in relation in family, my friend tells her to respect and she listens to her parents only and her parents tell her to come to parental house at every time when a bit of misunderstanding happens in his family,& she leaves this continues and she lived there for six months then my friends father went to her parents house and advise her that's it's not good way your house is in low's house now daughter. And then she understands and came back with his father then after sometime, she again started querreling and threatened his mom that she will sucide and closed the doors ,later nothing happens and next night while chatting with my friends she threatens him while he was on his duty , that she will eat all pills together and will sucide..my friends got feared , then nothing happens later his father took her to his hoke next day . Them again she lived ther for 6 months around then his father again went and have a talk in between some elders and made her understand..then she again said sorry and came back to in law's house... Then after some days my friend take her with him to his duty place to keep her with himself , so that things can better but after few weeks there also she started doing same things and not caring the child and not making food , and telling husband that ,now I willl tell take revenge how u left me for six months at my home like that she fights with him there. He make her understand that's nobody is here let's live peacefully but said I know your parents are daily filling your ears, why do u talk to them ? talk to me only and give me your ATM I will go for shopping.. now I will do what I want ,I can't make food ,take me to restaurant etc ..she speaks loudly in colony ,my friend request her to not do this she then do more and abuse him and his family.. like wise things gone worse she threatens that 8 can make your family ruin ,I will confiscate your brother in rape case , nothing u can't do my friend gets very scared .. one day my friend went for duty then she calls him and tell him that I am throwing this child (Son) from roof now and cut the call ,my friend started crying there ,after all of that my friend shown some courage and file police complaint Then any how she went to parental home from around 2 years back she is there and living there ,now my friend says he doesn't want to live with her because he suffers the bad time with her & suffered from Disrespectful behaviour etc but he wants his son from her but now she says she will live with him but make a seperate house and leave your parents .. Now what can be done in this situation now how my friend can get seperate from her and get his son back ?

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Ans: Your daughter may get lower branches like Civil, Metallurgy, Chemical, Mining, or Biotechnology in newer IITs, depending on her exact OBC female rank and JoSAA rounds.

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Ans: Preference order may be: PES (AI/ML) > VIT Chennai (AI/ML) > Manipal (CS & FinTech) > SNU (AI/ML). The preference order may vary depending on the circumstances.

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Ans: Choose VIT-AP CSE AI-ML Category 1, if fees are manageable. It has VIT group placement access/CDC, a listed CSE AI-ML programme, internship focus, and a stronger brand signal. LPU’s 50% scholarship reduces risk, but VIT-AP looks better for placement-oriented CSE. Choose LPU only if budget/distance is decisive. All the Best for Your Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Sujatha Madam, Yes, she has a chance, mainly through Stream 2, because SASTRA considers Class 12 marks; 2026 admissions use 50% of seats via JEE+Board and 50% via Board marks only. Her 97.6% board score is strong, but CSE is competitive. Add IT, ECE, AI/DS, and cybersecurity as backups. Still have backup options of 2-3 reputed private colleges in TN State. All the Best for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: You can expect ECE in newer IIITs or lower NITs via CSAB. But it is advisable to keep an alternative option ready.

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Ans: You are doing many things right. At 43, with a high income, disciplined investing habit, good EPF accumulation, decent MF corpus, and strong monthly savings capacity, you are already in a much stronger position than many families in your age group. Your commitment towards family security and wealth creation is clearly visible.

However, because your family is fully dependent on you and you have multiple liabilities running together, this is the stage where proper structuring becomes more important than just investing aggressively.

» Current Financial Position Assessment

– Your total financial assets are already meaningful:

Mutual Funds – Rs.29 lakhs
Stocks – Rs.25 lakhs
EPF – Rs.43 lakhs
ULIP – Rs.11 lakhs

– Total financial assets are around Rs.1+ crore range excluding property value.

– Your monthly investments are also very strong:

MF SIP – Rs.1.5 lakhs
EPF – Rs.42,000
ULIP – Rs.42,000

– Monthly savings discipline itself is excellent.

– Your income-to-expense ratio is healthy even after large EMIs.

This shows strong earning capability and disciplined cash flow management.

» Biggest Positive in Your Case

– Your age is still on your side.

– Your SIP amount is already large enough to create serious wealth over the next 10-15 years.

– Your EMI tenure is only another 7 years. Once loans close, your free cash flow can rise sharply.

– Your current lifestyle inflation looks controlled despite a high salary. That is a major strength.

– You are building assets while managing responsibilities together. That balance is appreciable.

» Area Which Needs Immediate Attention

Your biggest concentration risk is not investment risk.

It is “income dependency risk”.

Entire family depends on one income source.

You have:
– Home loans
– Young children
– Homemaker spouse
– Long responsibility runway

So your financial structure should focus strongly on:
– protection
– liquidity
– retirement independence
– reducing complexity

» About Your ULIP Investment

Your ULIP contribution of Rs.42,000 per month is quite high.

In many cases, ULIPs become less efficient because:
– insurance and investment are mixed together
– charges can reduce long-term efficiency
– flexibility is lower
– transparency is lower
– switching decisions become restricted
– returns may not justify long lock-in periods

Since you already have meaningful MF investing discipline, separating insurance and investment can improve efficiency.

If the ULIP has already crossed lock-in and surrender becomes financially practical, you may evaluate:
– reducing future allocation
– surrendering after detailed review
– redirecting future investments towards quality actively managed mutual funds

Actively managed mutual funds can offer:
– professional fund management
– downside management during market stress
– portfolio correction based on valuations
– flexibility across sectors and market caps

This becomes important for someone like you who cannot afford major capital destruction close to retirement goals.

» Why Active Funds May Suit You Better

You are in wealth-building stage, not passive accumulation stage alone.

Index investing has some limitations:
– no protection during market crashes
– full participation in overvalued sectors
– no valuation-based decision making
– no cash holding flexibility
– weak downside management
– blindly follows index composition

For high-income professionals with family dependency and large future goals, active allocation becomes more useful.

A good Certified Financial Planner along with a qualified Mutual Fund Distributor can help monitor:
– asset allocation
– taxation
– rebalancing
– market cycles
– risk reduction

That guidance itself adds long-term value.

» About Your Stock Portfolio

Direct stocks worth Rs.25 lakhs is acceptable only if:
– portfolio is diversified
– stock selection is research-based
– allocation is monitored
– emotional decisions are avoided

Otherwise, over time, excessive direct equity exposure can create concentration risk.

For senior IT professionals, career stability itself is linked to market cycles. So investment portfolio should not become too aggressive simultaneously.

You may slowly move towards:
– more structured mutual fund allocation
– lower stock concentration
– better diversification

» Your Loan Situation

Outstanding principal of Rs.55 lakhs is manageable considering:
– your income level
– high savings capacity
– remaining tenure only 7 years

This is not an alarming debt level.

However:
– avoid taking any fresh major loans
– avoid lifestyle upgrades through borrowing
– build stronger liquid reserves

Once EMIs close, your cash flow may improve by nearly Rs.90,000 monthly. That itself can accelerate financial freedom significantly.

» Emergency Fund Requirement

This is one area where many high earners underestimate risk.

You should maintain at least:
– 12 months of total household obligations

That includes:
– EMI
– household expenses
– school expenses
– insurance premiums

Considering your profile, emergency liquidity should be strong and easily accessible.

» Insurance Review

Since your family fully depends on you, adequate pure term insurance is very important.

You should review:
– whether existing life cover is sufficient
– whether family goals are fully protected
– whether liabilities are covered adequately

Also ensure:
– family floater health insurance is strong
– critical illness cover is available
– personal accident cover exists

Protection planning is extremely important for single-income families.

» How Much Corpus Needed for Financial Freedom

Your current family expenses:
– around Rs.1 lakh monthly excluding EMI

Future realities:
– children education inflation
– healthcare inflation
– lifestyle inflation
– retirement longevity

After including these, your long-term family requirement can become much larger than current expense levels suggest.

For someone with:
– young children
– dependent spouse
– high lifestyle responsibility
– long retirement horizon

Financial freedom generally requires a very substantial retirement corpus.

You should target a stage where:
– investment income alone can comfortably manage family expenses
– education goals are separately funded
– loans are fully closed
– medical contingencies are covered
– retirement income does not depend on salary

Considering your current savings pace, you are on a good path if:
– investments continue consistently
– income remains stable
– unnecessary liabilities are avoided
– asset allocation is improved

» Suggested Changes in Your Plan

– Continue strong MF SIPs
– Review ULIP continuation carefully
– Increase allocation towards actively managed diversified funds
– Reduce dependency on direct stocks gradually if concentration is high
– Build larger emergency corpus
– Avoid fresh liabilities
– Review term insurance adequacy
– Ensure goal-based investing for children
– Do periodic portfolio rebalancing
– Plan retirement corpus separately from children goals

» Finally

You are already in a financially progressive position. The next stage is not about investing more aggressively. It is about investing more intelligently and structurally.

Your income is strong today. If you combine that with:
– proper risk management
– disciplined investing
– controlled liabilities
– better portfolio structuring
– long-term consistency

then achieving financial freedom in your 50s is very much achievable.

The biggest wealth creators are not always the highest earners. They are the people who sustain disciplined investing for long periods while avoiding major mistakes. You are already showing many of those qualities.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: Shivraj Sir, At 87.5 percentile, JEE Main CRL may be around 1.8–2 lakh; with EWS, NIT/IIIT CS/ECE/IT is difficult, but try CSAB for GFTIs/lower branches. JoSAA confirms EWS cut-offs use EWS rank, not percentile.

With VITEEE rank 73,045, Vellore/Chennai CS/ECE is unlikely; try VIT-AP/Bhopal CSE/IT/ECE in higher categories. VIT fee/category details are official. If possible, have 3-4 more reputed private colleges as backups and also your stat counselling, instead of relying only on JoSAA/CSAB/VIT. All the Best for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: With SC rank 22,779 / CRL 350587, NIT/IIIT CSE/ECE through JoSAA is difficult. Still, you can fill NIT Raipur's lower branches, GFTIs and CSAB. JoSAA says SC cut-offs use SC category rank.

Your better chances are VITEEE rank 29,364. You can try VIT Chennai/AP/Bhopal CSE specialisations, ECE, EEE, though Vellore CSE may need higher fee category.

With TS EAPCET 11,143, Telangana admissions are less predictable because you are from Chhattisgarh/non-local. Still try women’s colleges/private Telangana CSE/ECE/IT options. Have the backup of Chattisgarh State Counselling also. All the Best for Your Prosperous Future!

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