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Aravinth Question by Aravinth on Dec 03, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir I married a other caste girl so my mother and sister not given my share and degree ,I got financial problem and not get any job without my degrees if I ask them they told me to leave the girl otherwise they kill me . what to do how to get my degrees and my share

Ans: Dear Aravinth,
I am so sorry to hear this. Can you try to go to your educational institute and ask for another copy of your degree? If not, I am sure there are legal steps that you can take to secure your degree; after all, you have earned it yourself. About the share, I would recommend consulting a lawyer; they can help you in this situation better. Moreover, if there is any threat to your or your partner’s life, you should consider taking it up with the authorities.

Best wishes.

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Hi I AM 43 years old business man my love marriage happened in 2010 against parents I got two kids 11years my wife short tempered i supported financially her 11 years for her carrier spent lot of money even in my busy life now she got job gulf lost ten years she took money but she never allowed my kids to meet me she lives in Kerala my business in Telangana I did my best for her last two year's she not allowed me call my kids i tried Kerala court trails take twos years still no progress now my parents forcing for another marriage I miss my kids if I marry again my kids won't come in my life is my biggest fear i willing wait for there 18 years age so I can meet my kids legally but parents saying after 18 years kids won't change within a day for u past is past u marry another why r your wasting your life my mind not thinking second marriage but pressure on me from parents 10 years waited for kids she left me simple reason I am work addicted n father s lovely kid my parents age 70s she never bothered about my parents but I spent lot money for her family too her intentions are simple if I stop kids I will leave them in old-age but I can't left my parents unable to make decisions due to personal reasons my business also not much improving when I go to out side if I see kids roaming with parents I feel my kids absence money not matters. Iam missing my kids life Indian courts eating my money. Next next next time. Madam this is my life how to overcome this problem
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When it comes to legal matters, it's only what the lawyers say that can help you...
But when it comes to dealing with your mind on all of this, it's hugely possible that you are left feeling hopeless and disappointed. Running around courts can be mentally exhausting and to not be able to meet your children is really sad. If you can take a break from work or work out of Kerala for a short time engaging lawyers in Kerala to fight your case, it is possible that you might be able to meet your children through some legal intervention as well. Waste no time and engage a good lawyer soon and NEVER LOSE HOPE! If you want to see your children and be a part of their lives, this is a clear ASK from your lawyer to fight your case...

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 20, 2024Hindi
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I am 27 yrs old female good in studies during my 11th and 12th but even after trying many times I wasn't able to crack NEET (medical entrance exam) having general category played a major role, I am not blaming reservation but I am upset with it in this process I have lost 5yrs in dropping and trying later joined BSc in Biotechnology and also completed M.Sc in Molecular and Human Genetics with gold medal now my family wants me to earn so that our financial condition can improve which is getting very worse day by day and my teachers want me to pursue PhD I don't understand what I should do the jobs after this much studying is giving 15,000pm which is not even sufficient for our family medical bills and our family also have taken loan from our relatives which also to be replayed and Phd in India as become worsen people leaving at their 4th or 5th year no stipend at time so can anyone guide me should I prepare for Govt exams like ssc cgl or any other which give me financial stability plz guide me..
Ans: I understand that you’re facing a challenging situation, and it’s commendable that you’ve pursued your education diligently. Let’s explore some options based on your qualifications and aspirations:

Career Prospects After M.Sc in Molecular and Human Genetics:
As an M.Sc graduate in Molecular and Human Genetics, you have several career paths available to you. Some potential job roles include:
Senior Scientific Officer – Molecular Genetics: In this role, you could work in research or diagnostic laboratories, focusing on genetic analysis and molecular techniques.
Technical Assistant – Molecular Genetics: Assisting in laboratory work, data analysis, and research.
Associate Professor – Medical Genetics: If you’re interested in academia, teaching, and research, this could be a fulfilling path.
National Sales Manager – Genetics: If you have an interest in sales and marketing related to genetic products or services.
These roles can be found in both private and public sectors.
Financial Considerations:
I understand that your family’s financial situation is challenging. It’s essential to consider your financial stability while making career decisions.
The average salary for M.Sc Genetics graduates in India ranges from INR 4 to 20 LPA depending on factors like specialization, experience, and location.
If your current job is not meeting your family’s needs, you may need to explore other options.
Ph.D. Dilemma:
Pursuing a Ph.D. is a significant commitment, both intellectually and financially. It’s essential to weigh the pros and cons carefully.
Consider factors such as your passion for research, long-term goals, and the availability of stipends during Ph.D. studies.
If you decide to pursue a Ph.D., explore opportunities abroad as well. Some countries offer better stipends and research environments.
Government Exams and Stability:
Preparing for government exams like SSC CGL (Staff Selection Commission Combined Graduate Level) can provide financial stability.
Government jobs often offer better job security, benefits, and a fixed salary.
Research the specific exams, eligibility criteria, and job profiles to see if they align with your interests and skills.
Balancing Passion and Practicality:
Reflect on what truly motivates you. Is it research, teaching, or a stable income?
Consider a balance between passion and practicality. You can explore government jobs while keeping your research interests alive.
Seek Guidance:
Consult with career counselors, mentors, and professionals in the field.
Discuss your situation with your family and teachers. They might offer valuable insights.
Remember that your journey is unique, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Take time to evaluate your options, prioritize your well-being, and make informed decisions. Whatever path you choose, I wish you success and fulfillment!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 27, 2024Hindi
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Hello Anu, I want to talk about my something that has been bothering for a long time now. I am 28 years old now. I had immense body image problem as a child because I was often made fun of because of my obesity. With time I became active in school, participating in various events and was good at studies. When I was about 15 years old I started to experience hair loss as well but not too noticeable at the time. After the 1st semester in college I was able to shed excess weight and I started to feel good about how I looked, but the hair loss also continued and my confidence took a massive hit. I also found it quite difficult to commit to a relationship because I was afraid how others would perceive me and I would not be able to handle it. I was not able to keep myself happy so how could I keep someone else happy. Over the years I have kept myself occupied with my job and tried to be as social as I can be, but there has never been a moment where I could just switch off the feeling of being bothered by my hair loss, I did not let go of what I wanted to be, I just wanted to have a time where I would not be made fun of. I was quite sensitive emotionally and this aggravated after hair loss. I always feel that I could not enjoy my teenage life the way I wanted because of something that I don't know how it started. It's frustrating. I feel this huge gap between how am I supposed to be at my current age and what I actually feel as a person right now. Although I have tried to introspect even more this year and tried to accept that I will just have to find a match with what I have, I just don't understand how should I approach this. Sometimes I simulate it as business deal. My hair loss is not really something that a partner may be looking forward to. I still feel like I am not 28 years old. I am not supposed to be like this at 28. I know that there are others out there in the world in my age group who have also experience this, but I feel so isolated here just like how I used to feel as a child when someone would make fun of my weight among a group of kids. What should I do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's misshapen identity...Ultimately the only person who can accept you for who you are, is YOU. People are always going to have something to say about the way you look, what you eat, how you speak...
So, building your identity has to come from you, within you.
- how do I see myself in the mirror?
- what words do I use when I describe myself?
- what happens when I meet people?

A few questions that will give you a reality check. Self-talk is so undermined and we are the first ones to put down ourselves. Obviously, there are parts of your personality that you have overlooked as you have only focused on hair loss. Maybe you have a beautiful smile or you can hold conversations at length.

Actually do this:
Make a questionnaire that will help you figure out what people think of you. Ask these to at least 15 people. You will see the gap between how you see yourself and how others see you. This will help you when you are actively seeking a life partner as you will approach the same thing with confidence and assurance.
And maybe you can see a doctor who can help you with regaining the lost hair. Yeah?
You feel isolated because of your self-talk; so, be kind to yourself.

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 26, 2024Hindi
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Whenever I have a fight with my in-laws, my husband always takes their side and not talks with me for a 15 days or a week, tells me that he is bearing me all this years and I should go back to my mothers house, anyway he is hardly talking with me, he just answers my question, he is always busy with his office work, and he shoe me away if I try to romance by saying our daughter (13yr old) will see us, will do it afterwards, that comes only ones in a month. He is really unhappy with me, they all want to send me to my mother house, I deeply love him ....this all things makes me anxious, what should I do??? Ours is arranged marriage 15yrs. gone. He feels like he is trapped with me and now I am also feeling unhappy in our marriage..what should I do please suggest.
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Clearly none of them seem to be happy with you and seem to want to get you away from them.
What exactly are you holding onto? Evaluate what you are getting by staying in the marriage and what you can do to manage life without the marriage if you of course make that choice.
I would also suggest one last attempt at putting things together. Will your husband be willing to talk to a third person like a therapist or even a family member? Try to set things right and even after this, they seem to make your life miserable, you really need to create options for yourself.

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MHT-CET, IIT-JEE, NEET-UG Expert - Answered on Dec 04, 2024

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sir i am going to give my pcb board examinations cbse in 2025 and i will also be writing neet in 2025 . here are some questions :- 1. if i take a drop and start preparing for jee mains instead of neet by adding maths to my subjects , which will be a better option among these ? a) writing the on demand exam for maths from nios and if i do so what should information has to be given in jee mains form because i have previously given neet through nta b) writing the public exams for all five subjects pcm from nios.then what should be written in jee main form c) giving a maths exam from cbse as aprivate candidate . and will two marksheets one including maths and one including pcb affect my jee form and counseling do 2 marksheets make a propblem in counselling or filling form and if not what should be entered in form for marksheets of 2 different years or boards 2. if i have maths from nios which board do i have to enter in jee mains form ? i am very confused , please help
Ans: Hello Baqir.
It seems that you are very confused. As you said, you have already appeared for NEET i.e. this is your drop year. Yet you are not confident about NEET 2025. If you have taken NEET previously, then how again you are appearing for the board exam is also not clear. If you have already given NEET and are preparing for NEET again, then why you are thinking about JEE without any reason is also unclear. You have created a lot of problems in your mind without any reason. This is because you are not focussing on the syllabus and studies but rather thinking in an irrelevant direction. The question arises, why not you are appearing with mathematics on the CBSE board? It is suggested that you appear to NEET 2025 with full preparation. If you score less also, then there are many courses in the medical field in which you can get admission. Leave all worries, thoughts, and no mark sheets, JEE issues and focus only on NEET 2025. It is also suggested that you please meet face to face a counselor to understand you more and guide you properly.
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