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Rajesh Question by Rajesh on Jun 06, 2023Hindi
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how to improve relation once braked

Ans: Dear Rajesh,

I understand that you have recently had a breakup and you would like to fix it. It is very important to understand why you had the breakup. Was it because of differences in core values or some other serious issues like cheating or abuse in the relationship? If so, I would advise you not to go back or try to fix your relationship.

If your breakup was based on some silly fight, then you can try reaching out to your partner and apologizing if the mistake was on your end. You can ask them to meet you somewhere and have a clear discussion face-to-face. Talk about all that went wrong and how it led to something as serious as a breakup and discuss how that can be changed. You can ask your partner what you can do to fix things from your side and tell them what they can do to fix things from their side.

Now after trying everything, if your partner still does not want to get back together, don't force them into it. Some relationships end and sometimes it's better that way. You have to accept it.

Best Wishes!

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Hello Dr, I am married for 24 years. Our was love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had leave my fathers house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have 2 son who now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelors status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife is also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In Dec'2024 I lost my job and came back to mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically We both are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like to reconnect with her physically and emotionally. But dont know she is a changed person. She doesnt have emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how should I handle this situation. I want her back in my life.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I suggest trying to connect with her emotionally first. You have been away from her for the better part of your married life. It does take a toll on the partner who is left behind to take care of everything back home. I’ll say start small; buy her small but meaningful things when you are coming back from the office; maybe some snacks she likes. Take her for a movie date, or a dinner date; ask someone else to take care of the kids. Plan a vacation together. A lot of problems dissolve naturally when people reconnect emotionally. If it still doesn’t work, I would urge you to have an open conversation and genuinely ask her what is missing in the marriage so that you can work on it. A happy and healthy marriage requires constant effort. I am sure she is worth it.

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