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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 14, 2025Hindi
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Hello Me and my boyfriend were in relationship for more than 1.5 years he is 29 and i am 23 He was getting alot proposals for marriage from his parents when i saw this i told him to talk about us and he said that he would take time for all this then i told him that its been more than 1.5 years and now also you need to take time He said yess and then i said him that if he won’t tell his parents i will go from his life he said i will ask by Saturday then now on Thursday night he is telling that his parents are planning to go to haj so thatswhy he can’t talk to his parents and asking for more time But i have seen in his mobile he was updating his biodata for marriage and everything and he is getting min 2 pictures everyday for marriage I am not sure what shall i do Shall I give hime more time or shall i walk off Coz if at this point i dont walk off i would be hurt from inside I even told him that we can end at a good note so that he can atleast see the proposals for marriage properly Because i loved him alot I can’t see him getting forced by me It’s just I can’t see him that he is getting proposals and he is just delaying for me I am not sure what to do please suggest me something

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you strongly believe that he is just keeping you hanging and he is interested in marrying by his parent's choice, then I too feel that your decision to part ways might be the right one. After all, your self-respect is the most important thing here. Please speak to him directly once and let him know that you are reconsidering the relationship and see how he reacts. You can decide after that.
Hope this helps.

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I am a 25 year old girl. I have good job and happy career wise. I am in a relationship with a boy who is very career oriented, and runs from the marriage topic also. My parents are now behind to me to get married. I am also interested in getting married and settle in my. When I told my boyfriend about this. He gets furious. He don’t want to communicate with me on this. He don’t give any attention to my problem. He says if you really love me then you will love and you will do whatever needed to be done. Now everything is on me.I am very confused what to do. I can’t tell my parents about him, as he is not ready. I also have a fear, that this boy is not going to marry me, so am I leaving good boys which my parents are showing me. Am I already late...what if I don’t get anyone, will I have to compromise in my life If I will delay. Please help!!
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Let me start with the most important thing- you are far from late. You are only 25; I would say this is your time to focus on your career and live a little. But if you are ready for marriage, then that is great too. But do not ever think that it's too late. It isn't even a little late. If anything, in today's day and age, it's early.

Now coming to your boyfriend- have you ever asked him if he has any plans to get married or if he intends to continue this relationship without ever committing to marriage? It's important that you discuss this. And his dialogue, "if you really love me then you will love and you will do whatever needed to be done" doesn't make any sense because you can tell him the same. I suggest you speak to him openly and let him know that you want to get married- if not right now, but somewhere down the line you want marriage. If his intentions are not the same, he should let you know so that you can move on and find someone who shares the same outlook as you. And, to be honest, not paying attention to your problems is concerning. In a relationship, two people should help each other out in times of trouble.

Please have the talk and reconsider the relationship according to how it goes.

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Good Afternoon Ramalingam Sir, Sir I am investing in Mutual fund through finacial services group Prudent Corporate advisory services limited ... just want to know is it safe to invest through this group .. as i dont have much idea about the group . Recently a mutual fund investment platform is set to discontinue its services in June 25
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You are investing through a financial intermediary. In your case, it is Prudent Corporate Advisory Services Ltd.

Rather than focusing on the company name, it is better to evaluate the platform using clear parameters.

Let us now go through the key points you must check before continuing with any mutual fund intermediary.

1. Regulatory Registrations
Check if the intermediary is registered with AMFI.

They should have a valid ARN (AMFI Registration Number).

They must also be registered with SEBI as a distributor.

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2. Access to Your Folios
You must have direct access to your mutual fund folios.

The folios should be in your name, not the intermediary’s.

You should be able to check your funds via AMC websites or CAMS/KFintech.

Your mobile number, PAN, and email should be correctly registered.

3. Transparency of Plans
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If it is Regular Plan, confirm if advisory and service are being provided.

Know what you are paying and what you are receiving in return.

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You should get regular statements from the platform or the AMC.

You should be able to track all your investments from one place.

They should help you access CAS (Consolidated Account Statement) as needed.

5. Exit Support
In case the intermediary shuts down, check if you can continue SIPs directly.

A good platform allows easy transfer of folios to another advisor.

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Does the intermediary offer regular review meetings?

Is your asset allocation being adjusted based on life goals?

Do you have access to a Certified Financial Planner (CFP)?

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What are the backup options if the platform stops service?

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