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Can I Retire Early Despite Working in Different States?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 18, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 06, 2024Hindi

Hi, I am 55 and married to a wonderful lady of 52. Both of us are employed. We have been blessed with a son who has done his MBBS and now undergoing his PG in a reputed govt hospital. Problem is that I am working with a pvt company ( listed ). While my wife works with a govt company. We are located in two different states and not possible to travel from home on daily basis. So we meet up once a month only. Generally on a second or forth Saturday. As I work with a company where I have to take permission to leave HQ, I feel frustrated that even after working for more than 30 years, one needs to take a permission. Work culture over the years has changed too much as the company has changed hands many times. And now I am not able to change nor ready to change my way if working. And thua brings out friction in my job and affects my performance everywhere. I wish to leave the job as only 03 years are balance and I feel that having a good enough health would allow me some time to pursue my hobbies of travel and meeting with my relatives which I have ignored for so many years. While I wish to take an early retirement ( no financial liabilities and a good enough bank balance and own home too.) But wife is not agreeing to this. Whenever I raise the topic we end up arguing too much and don't reach any conclusion. Regarding her job, she has to travel by own vehicle for almost 45-60 minutes daily. So she cooks only once and for dinner she consumes whatever cooked in morning. House help is not easily available and she is.not able to adjust with them. I don't like this and if I leave my job I could help her with household chores as well. So, my query is how do I pursuade my wife to let me leave the job ( I am not at all insisting for her to leave the job as well ). How do I make her understand that we are financially well enough and our son would do well in his career without needing any more help from us. My continuation in my job frustrates me and I can't think of anything but to leave the job.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It seems to me like your wife is quite comfortable with the current situation. So, it's up to now to handle the conflicts that you are facing.
If you want to leave your job, why do you need to persuade your wife to allow you to do that especially if you are financially stable and secure?
Before taking any major life-changing decisions, take a break from work, travel, socialize, spend time with the family, engage in new pursuits and see if anything new comes up...what excites you? What can you do with that excitement? Can you create something new with it? Does it force you see something different or change the course of your job, your life?
Unless you don't take that moment to STOP and experience something different, you will not allow yourself to have choices. So, build choices and build different ways of thinking and that will enable you to move from frustration to transformation. Take that first step, take a BREAK!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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