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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 31, 2025

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Tiya Question by Tiya on Jan 29, 2025Hindi
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Me 38ki hu mera bf 28ka wo mujhse sucha pyar krta hai shaadi bi Krna hai usko but bola ki me 2cr kmalu tb krunga t shaadi usne ghr me baat bhi ni ki apne na mere ki confirm krde ki shaadi t krunga or sagai krle usne BTech science kri hai wo mera office me lga jha selry 18k hai but maine kha ki tum apni qualification me hisaab se khi or job krlo jha 50k mile taki tum mere ghr walo se shaadi ki baat kr sko humre riste ko 4saal ho gye hai but usko m bhoat smjhaya ki khi or job krlo set ho jaye but ni ki or is office me job krha jha 18k milre hai usko fir bolta hai ki me 2cr acount me ho tb me Shaadi krunga tumse but mere ghr wale pressure krhe hai alg or ye koi faisla ni lera hai me kya kru

Ans: Dear Tiya,
Uske paas tumse zyaada waqt hai umar ke hisaab se isiliye woh yeh bol paa raha hai. Woh galat nahin na tum galat ho. Dono apni apni jagah sahi ho.
Aapko apni life mein kya chahiye? Shaadi aur ek pariwaar? Toh aapko yahi sochna chahiye ki kya yeh aapka bf samajhta hai aur kya is waqt woh yeh aapko de paayega. Kamaai ki baare mein bol rahaa hai woh; woh 2 Cr kitne saal aur lagenge? Kya aap intezaar karna chahoge? Agar nahin, toh is waqt woh bhi shaadi nahin karna chahte...toh aap unko majboor nahin kar sakte...Aaraam se soch vichaar kar lijiye aur ek nateeje par aana. Aap intezaar hi karte rahoge aur umar bhi nikla jaayega...

All the best!
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Asked on - Jan 31, 2025 | Answered on Feb 03, 2025
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Ok thanks ye sb btya apne but usne bola ki app mujhse. Chhoti hoti to me sagayi krlrta abhi ya tk m usko bola ki saggai krlo or sath me kmayenge
Ans: Dear Tiya,
Mein ab bhi yahi kahoongi ki soch vichaar karna. Kitna intezaar theek hoga aur hona chahiye tumhare liye, yeh sirf tum jaan paaogi...2 Cr kamaane ke chakkar mein aur 10 saal lag gaye toh?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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