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anonymous Question by anonymous on Jul 24, 2024Hindi
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Hi experts, I am still waiting for a response to my question which I asked on 5th July. Please revert Hi expert, over the years I have been investing in mutual. 90% of the funds are the lumpsum amounts which I invested in 2007. A few I have been investing in sip since the last 3-4 years. I want to consolidate and work on having few mutual funds than having many which give varied returns. It will be great if you can help me to ascertain which I can keep and which I can let go DSP-BR India TIGER - RP (D) DSP-BR Top 100 Equity - RP ICDW (D) Franklin India flexi cap fund - IDCW "HSBC Large Cap Fund - Regular IDCW (Formerly known as HSBC Large cap - L&T India Large Cap Fund (D)" Nippon India Growth Fund IDCW plan Nippon India Power and Infra fund SBI Magnum Midcap Fund (D) "SBI Contra Fund (D) SBI Magnum Sector Funds Umbrella Contra" Sundaram Large cap fund regular - IDCW Sundaram Large cap fund regular - IDCW "HSBC Progressive Themes (D) HSBC Advantage India Fund" HDFC Infrastructure Fund (D) Edelweiss Mid Cap Fund (Regular Plan - IDCW Option - Payout) Sundaram Diversify equity fund - Regular - IDCW EBRG - Mirae Asset Large and Midcap fund (formerly known as Mirae asset emerging blue-chip fund) - SIP HDFC Children's gift fund - Regular plan (Lock in) - SIP I looking to build my portfolio by having few mutual funds with extra money in them rather than having many mutual funds and less money in each. Kindly help me out with suggestions

Ans: Reviewing Your Current Portfolio
You have invested in many mutual funds since 2007. Let's streamline your portfolio to focus on a few high-performing funds.

Evaluating Fund Categories
Large Cap Funds
HSBC Large Cap Fund - Regular IDCW
DSP-BR Top 100 Equity - RP ICDW (D)
Sundaram Large Cap Fund Regular - IDCW
SBI Contra Fund (D)
Large Cap funds provide stability and steady growth. Keep funds with consistent performance.

Flexi Cap Funds
Franklin India Flexi Cap Fund - IDCW
Flexi Cap funds offer a balanced approach. They invest across large, mid, and small caps. Retain those with a strong track record.

Mid Cap Funds
SBI Magnum Midcap Fund (D)
Edelweiss Mid Cap Fund (Regular Plan - IDCW Option - Payout)
Mid Cap funds offer higher growth potential but come with higher risk. Retain the best performers.

Sector/Thematic Funds
Nippon India Power and Infra Fund
HDFC Infrastructure Fund (D)
HSBC Progressive Themes (D)
HSBC Advantage India Fund
Sector funds focus on specific industries. They can be volatile. Evaluate their performance and market outlook.

Diversified Equity Funds
DSP-BR India TIGER - RP (D)
Sundaram Diversify Equity Fund - Regular - IDCW
These funds invest in various sectors and companies. Retain those with strong, consistent returns.

Large and Mid Cap Funds

Mirae Asset Large and Midcap Fund (formerly Mirae Asset Emerging Bluechip Fund) - SIP
These funds balance between stability and growth. They are a good addition for diversification.

Children's Funds
HDFC Children's Gift Fund - Regular Plan (Lock-in) - SIP
These funds have a specific goal in mind. They are usually kept for a longer-term investment.

Consolidation Strategy
Reduce Overlap
Consolidate Large Cap funds. Choose one or two top performers.
Reduce the number of Sector funds. Focus on those with a positive outlook.
Keep the best-performing Mid Cap funds. Avoid too many in this category.
Focus on Performance
Retain funds with strong historical performance and potential.
Let go of funds with inconsistent returns or underperformance.
Allocate More to High Performers
Invest more in top-performing funds. This enhances returns and reduces management complexity.
Avoid spreading investments too thin across many funds.
Consider Fund Management Style
Opt for actively managed funds. They offer the potential for higher returns.
Avoid index funds due to their passive nature and lower flexibility.
Benefits of Regular Funds
Investing through an MFD with CFP credentials provides guidance.
Regular funds offer support and advice, unlike direct funds.
Suggested Actions
Large Cap and Flexi Cap Funds
Retain top-performing Large Cap and Flexi Cap funds. They provide stability and balanced growth.
Mid Cap and Sector Funds
Focus on the best-performing Mid Cap funds.
Retain Sector funds with positive outlooks. Evaluate their potential in the current market.
Diversified Equity Funds
Keep diversified funds with consistent returns. They provide broad exposure and reduce risk.
Children's Funds
Maintain investments in children's funds. They are aimed at long-term goals.
Final Insights
Streamlining your mutual fund portfolio is essential. Focus on a few high-performing funds. Consolidate your investments for better returns and easier management. Opt for actively managed funds and regular funds through MFD with CFP credentials. This strategy will help you achieve your financial goals effectively.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Ans: Assessing Your Current Portfolio
You've done well by investing in mutual funds since 2007. Your portfolio covers a variety of fund categories, which shows your commitment to building wealth. However, consolidating your portfolio is a wise move. It allows for better management and can lead to more consistent returns.

Let's go through your current holdings and provide suggestions on which funds to keep and which to let go.

Key Points for Portfolio Consolidation
Focus on Core Funds: Keep funds that have a proven track record and align with your financial goals.

Eliminate Overlap: Multiple funds in the same category can create overlap. This dilutes your returns and makes tracking performance harder.

Consider Fund Performance: Retain funds that have consistently outperformed their benchmarks and peers over the years.

Simplify Management: Having fewer funds with more substantial investments can simplify portfolio management and enhance overall returns.

Fund-by-Fund Analysis
DSP-BR India TIGER - RP (D) and DSP-BR Top 100 Equity - RP ICDW (D)
Sector-Specific Risk: The DSP-BR India TIGER fund is sector-specific, focusing on infrastructure. While infrastructure can provide high returns, it’s also highly cyclical. This means it can be volatile.

Top 100 Fund: This fund focuses on large-cap stocks, which generally offer stability.

Suggestion: Consider letting go of the sector-specific DSP-BR India TIGER fund. Retain the DSP-BR Top 100 Equity fund if it has shown consistent performance.

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HSBC Large Cap Fund - Regular IDCW (Formerly L&T India Large Cap Fund)
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Suggestion: Retain this fund if it has outperformed its benchmark consistently.

Nippon India Growth Fund IDCW Plan and Nippon India Power and Infra Fund
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SBI Magnum Midcap Fund (D) and SBI Contra Fund (D)
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Contra Fund: Contra funds invest in stocks that are currently out of favour but have the potential for long-term growth. These funds can be rewarding but are also risky.

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HSBC Progressive Themes (D) and HSBC Advantage India Fund
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Suggestion: Consider letting go of these funds unless you have a strong belief in the themes they cover and they have performed well.

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Suggestion: Similar to other sector-specific funds, consider letting this one go unless it has delivered exceptionally strong returns.

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You resumed SIPs despite personal challenges.
That shows commitment and learning.
Your portfolio reflects effort and intent.
This deserves appreciation and clarity-based guidance.

» Overall Portfolio Snapshot Understanding
– You started investing early.
– You used SIPs mostly.
– You invested across categories.
– You paused SIPs responsibly during stress.

– Portfolio size is still growing.
– Time horizon seems long-term.
– Risk appetite appears moderate to high.

– You are not over-leveraged in equity.
– You are exploring themes cautiously.

» Primary Observation on Portfolio Structure
– You have multiple equity styles.
– You have some overlap.
– You have thematic exposure.

– Core allocation needs strengthening.
– Satellite allocation needs discipline.

– Portfolio needs simplification.

» Goal Alignment Assessment
– No clear goal tagging is mentioned.
– Funds seem chosen opportunistically.

– Goals give direction to allocation.
– Without goals, confusion arises.

– Retirement and wealth creation seem primary.
– Tax saving is a secondary goal.

» Time Horizon Understanding
– Your SIP start dates suggest long-term intent.
– Equity suits long horizons.

– Short-term volatility should be ignored.
– Patience is your ally.

» Asset Allocation Perspective
– Your portfolio is equity-heavy.
– That is acceptable for long horizon.

– But equity styles must be balanced.
– Avoid excessive thematic risk.

» Core and Satellite Concept Explanation
– Core funds build stability.
– Satellite funds add alpha.

– Core should be majority.
– Satellite should remain limited.

– Your portfolio currently has scattered satellites.

» Multi Cap Category Assessment
– Multi cap provides flexibility.
– Fund manager decides allocation.

– This suits investors lacking time.
– This category handles market cycles well.

– Continue this category.
– SIP amount can be maintained.

– Avoid frequent withdrawals here.

» Active Equity Category Assessment
– Active diversified equity adapts to markets.
– Fund manager decisions add value.

– This suits dynamic markets like India.
– Continue with discipline.

– One or two such funds are enough.

» Small Cap Category Assessment
– Small caps are volatile.
– Returns come in cycles.

– Recent performance may look flat.
– That is normal.

– SIP route is correct.
– Allocation must be limited.

– Do not increase aggressively.
– Do not stop based on short returns.

» ELSS Category Assessment
– ELSS suits tax saving and wealth creation.
– Lock-in enforces discipline.

– Performance varies yearly.
– Lock-in reduces panic selling.

– One ELSS fund is sufficient.
– Multiple ELSS funds create clutter.

– SIP continuation is fine.

» Sectoral and Thematic Exposure Review
– Digital theme is narrow.
– Defence theme is policy-driven.

– Themes depend on timing.
– They need close monitoring.

– Themes are not core investments.
– They should be limited exposure.

– Excess exposure increases risk.

» Action on Thematic Funds
– Avoid adding more money.
– Do not start new SIPs.

– Continue existing SIP briefly.
– Plan gradual exit later.

– Redeploy to core categories later.

» Flexi Cap Category Assessment
– Flexi cap allows market adaptation.
– Manager shifts across segments.

– This category suits long-term investors.
– It reduces timing stress.

– SIP and lump sum approach is fine.
– Continue this category.

» On Index Fund Mention in Portfolio
– Index funds copy markets blindly.
– They fall fully during corrections.

– No downside protection exists.
– No tactical allocation happens.

– Index ignores valuation risks.

– Actively managed funds manage risk better.
– Fund managers shift exposure.

– Active funds suit volatile Indian markets.

» On Regular Fund Route
– Regular route offers guidance.
– Behaviour support matters long-term.

– Cost difference is secondary.
– Wrong decisions cost more.

– Regular investing ensures accountability.

» SIP Pauses in Past
– SIP pause due to stress is normal.
– You resumed responsibly.

– Consistency over decades matters.
– Few pauses will not ruin wealth.

» Portfolio Overlap Observation
– Multiple equity styles overlap stocks.
– This reduces diversification benefit.

– Fewer funds improve clarity.
– Concentration improves monitoring.

» Suggested Ideal Equity Structure
– One diversified core fund.
– One flexi style fund.
– One mid or small exposure.

– One tax-saving fund if required.

– Avoid excess themes.

» Suggested Allocation Direction
– Core equity should dominate.
– Satellite equity should be limited.

– Risk should match temperament.

» Rebalancing Thought Process
– Rebalancing is not urgent now.
– Portfolio size is still small.

– Focus more on contribution.
– Rebalancing matters later.

» When to Review Funds
– Review annually.
– Avoid monthly checking.

– Compare category performance.
– Not single-year returns.

» Performance Evaluation Guidance
– One-year data is misleading.
– Three-year view is better.

– Five-year view gives clarity.

– Avoid reaction-based changes.

» Behavioural Discipline Guidance
– Avoid news-driven decisions.
– Avoid social media tips.

– Stick to written plan.

» Risk Management Perspective
– Equity gives volatility.
– Volatility is not loss.

– Loss happens only on selling.

» Liquidity and Emergency Planning
– Ensure emergency fund exists separately.
– Equity should not be touched.

– This avoids forced selling.

» Tax Consideration Perspective
– Equity taxation is favourable long-term.
– Holding period matters.

– Avoid unnecessary churn.

» Role of SIP Amount Allocation
– Increase SIPs gradually with income.
– Avoid sudden jumps.

– Stability matters more than size.

» Future SIP Increase Strategy
– Increase core funds first.
– Avoid increasing themes.

– Let core do heavy lifting.

» What You Are Doing Right
– Early start.
– SIP discipline.
– Long-term mindset.

– Willingness to seek review.

» What Needs Correction
– Reduce number of funds.
– Reduce thematic exposure.

– Strengthen core allocation.

» Emotional Side of Investing
– Market noise creates doubt.
– Doubt leads to mistakes.

– Education builds confidence.

» Long-Term Wealth Perspective
– Wealth builds slowly.
– Consistency beats brilliance.

– Time in market matters.

» Avoid Common Investor Traps
– Chasing recent performers.
– Timing entries and exits.

– Over-diversification.

» Importance of Goal Mapping
– Each goal needs bucket.
– Each bucket needs asset mix.

– This avoids confusion.

» Actionable Next Steps
– Freeze new fund additions.
– Review current funds annually.

– Redirect future SIP increases to core.

» Do You Need to Stop Any Fund Now
– No immediate stopping required.
– Gradual consolidation is better.

– Avoid panic exits.

» Do You Need to Reduce Any Fund
– Thematic SIP amounts should reduce first.
– Keep exposure minimal.

» Do You Need New Categories
– No new categories required now.
– Simplicity improves outcomes.

» Role of Certified Financial Planner
– Planner helps behaviour control.
– Planner aligns money to life.

– Guidance matters during volatility.

» Long-Term Confidence Message
– You are learning fast.
– Mistakes are part of journey.

– Discipline will compound.

» Finally
– Your portfolio is workable.
– It needs simplification.

– Focus on core strength.
– Limit experiments.

– Stay invested patiently.
– Let time reward discipline.

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