DEAR ANU KRISHANA MAM, HERE IS PROBLEM
Max and Candy, both in the same master’s program but in different sections, navigate a complex dynamic. Candy, captivated by Max, tries for over a year to get his attention but is repeatedly ignored. Her feelings persist even as she enters a relationship with someone else. Despite occasional brief interactions and Candy posting about her feelings in a confession group, Max remains distant.
After some months, Max proposes to Candy through WhatsApp during the holiday, sensing that Candy had been giving him green signals—gazing at him for minutes, sitting near him after making eye contact. However, despite these signs, Max’s advances remain unreciprocated.
Candy took whole day to reply and said no and block the max, may because at that time she was in relationship and then she was broken up after some months.
In one day before the farewell candy looks max with smile and during the farewell candy tries twice to make the eye contact in the farewell, but max broke it and when she confirms that max is looking at him she start dancing like nothing matters to him.
After the farewell, Max wrote another latter to candy, where he apologizes and express her feelings, but candy this time also not reply,
On the last day, max wait fro candy outside the examination hall and candy friend told candy and then her friend came to max and told him to leave in gestures, and candy denies to met despite they are going to part because their degree going to complete.
Then max wrote another confession which he put anonymously in confession group, where he apologizes to candy and tell him that he will reapproach her after the years when he neary solve his issues because he is undergoing the treatment because of which he ignored candy,
Later, Max made another post in a confession group, once again apologizing to Candy and noting that she hadn’t responded to him. He told her that he would approach her again after a year when his issues were resolved. Candy remained silent but updated her bio, adding the phrase "Nothing lasts forever," a line Max had used earlier. She also added a yen symbol beside it and kept it unchanged for months.
When Max added the yen symbol to his bio after some time, Candy updated her bio again, mirroring Max's changes and adding more elements to match his profile. Max sent a follow request afterward, which Candy did not accept, but she kept her bio intact.
Then, suddenly, to check if Candy had unblocked him on WhatsApp, Max sent her a random message. When he saw the double tick, he realized he wasn’t blocked anymore. He quickly deleted the message, knowing she might block him again soon. This suggests that Candy unblocked him despite knowing he might reach out in the future, and she continues to mirror his bio.
Next day candy post a photo on profile looks like something coping mechanism. After two or three days, Max messaged Candy. Despite deleting his message, Candy didn’t block Max. Max wrote, “Can we be friends?” but Candy didn’t reply and block the max . However, she continued mirroring Max’s actions.
WHAT CANDY ACTUALLY WANT AND WHY SHE PLAYING LIKE THIS, IS SHE STILL HAVE THE GENIUNE FEELINGS
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The characters' names can be Tom and Jerry instead of Candy and Max, because one is chasing and the other is running...Typical cat and mouse game.
So, Max can take a break from Candy, so that she can come to a decision on whether she likes Max or not. She really has to stop playing immature games and constantly testing Max who by the way will get fed up someday.
Kindly suggest that Max go silent and not communicate with Candy for a while and if she really likes him, let her make her first honest move and then Max can decide thereon.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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