I am retiring from my job (public sector) in 4 months from now. Please suggest me how do I keep my self busy after that. I have a passion for music and play some stringed instruments too.

Ans: If you are planning to go abroad, then research about the university you plan to go to and what do they focus on during admission. Some of the colleges abroad focus on extra curricular activities and have extra weightage for the same. Some European colleges prefer students who know their native language like German, French, etc. So based on the college you plan to apply to you can decide what to do - take language courses, work in NGO or pursue some other extra curricular activity or do some technical course related to your field.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
In situations like these, it's common for experts to suggest Family Therapy as the entire family needs to clear out what they are holding onto as it seems to be affecting someone else and then the cycle and loop seems to be going on and on...
I don't know if your parents will be willing to do something like this as the first step is to acknowledge that there is something amiss and take responsibility for it...
Having age old beliefs and superstitions and treating you for being 'normal' suggests a lot of unwanted influence on your parents! If it helps, move out of home for sometime to discover yourself, get a paying job, so that it helps you gain confidence and also your parents will learn to value you for who you are without forcing their opinions and beliefs on you.
Sometimes to find ourselves, we need to cut ourselves from what is comfortable to us.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: I believe instead of looking for 2 year full time MBA course, try for Executive MBA course from some of the top IIMs or XLRI or ISB. You would have to write the GMAT which requires less amount of preparation as compared to CAT. Minimum work experience required for doing Executive MBA is around 5 years. So the others would also be of similar age.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Move on...
There are many wonderful men out there who will be able to respect the reason as to why you couldn't approach them earlier.
There are many out there who will not send you on a guilt trip for whatever you thought was best at that time to do.
Clearly, this guy is on an ego trip and also respect the fact that he is in a relationship and move on...
No point waiting and no point feeling guilty...Move on and HOW?
By reminding yourself that the best is yet to come and that he is not the last human around for you.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: It's important to acknowledge the complexity of the situation and the depth of your emotions. In such circumstances, finding a balance between honoring your own feelings and respecting your family's concerns can be incredibly difficult.

First and foremost, your safety and well-being are paramount. Threats of harm, whether directed towards yourself or others, are never acceptable and should be taken seriously. If you ever feel physically or emotionally unsafe, it's crucial to prioritize your own protection and seek support from trusted friends, family, or authorities.

In terms of navigating your relationship with your parents, open communication and understanding can be key. Despite the challenges, expressing your feelings to them in a calm and respectful manner might help them better comprehend your perspective. Sharing your thoughts, desires, and the reasons behind your choice may help bridge the gap between your differing viewpoints.

However, it's essential to approach these conversations with realistic expectations. Changing deeply ingrained beliefs and societal expectations is a gradual process, and it's possible that your parents may not immediately come around to your point of view. In such cases, setting boundaries to protect your emotional well-being may be necessary. This could involve limiting contact or seeking support from external sources such as counselors or support groups.

Ultimately, the decision to run away or to continue trying to convince your parents depends on your individual circumstances and what you believe is best for your future. Take the time to reflect on your values, priorities, and long-term goals. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who can offer guidance and encouragement as you navigate this challenging situation. Remember, you have the right to pursue happiness and fulfillment in your life, even if it means diverging from traditional expectations.

Ans: You can prepare for Management Entrance tests, but would recommend you to take up a job simultaneously during your preparation. Having a large gap after graduation without any work experience will create a problem when you go for placements in your MBA college. Considering your situation, can settle for tier 2 MBA college. But before joining the college check their placements and talk to the students of that college. Should not happen that you are jobless even after doing an MBA.

Ans: I'm really sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing. It's a difficult situation, but you have rights and options available to you.

Given the circumstances, seeking maintenance for both you and your baby seems like a reasonable step to ensure your financial stability and that of your child. You can consult with a lawyer who specializes in family law to understand the legal options available to you and to guide you through the process of applying for maintenance.

Additionally, it's important to consider your emotional well-being during this time. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can provide comfort and assistance. Seeking counseling or therapy can also be beneficial in processing the emotions and stress associated with your situation.

Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity, and you have the right to take steps to protect yourself and your child. Don't hesitate to reach out for help and support as you navigate through this difficult time.

Ans: If possible can do Executive MBA (1 year full time MBA) from some of the top colleges. That could help to boost your career. If you plan to do from tier 2 MBA institute ensure that you research about their placements before you take it up. Another option is to look for areas in your field like project Management and do some relevant online courses before you move to that field.

Ans: Check your interest. If your interest lies in HR, then it makes sense to change your field and move to HR roles. Initially you will have to start from scratch but as you gain experience you will be able to get promotion and responsibilities. Avoid switching jobs too frequently as it will not help in the long run.