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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 23, 2024Hindi
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I graduated in 2022 with a computer science degree from a mediocre college where the teachers couldn’t speak English fluently. They taught us primarily through blackboard learning, rote memorization, and notes, often asking predictable questions from previous exams. Due to COVID disruptions and online learning, I struggled to concentrate on my studies. Despite trying to learn programming through courses, I couldn’t become proficient and failed to secure a job through campus placements. Up to class 5, I was a malnourished and stunted child, often fainting. I’ve read that malnutrition and stunting can limit cognitive intelligence and lead to poor learning ability and capacity. Unfortunately, I did not receive a quality education in school as my family couldn’t afford better options, so I attended an unrecognized school up to class 8. I only managed to clear the college entrance exam through rote learning and procedural knowledge of mathematics. As an adult, I am stunted (5 ft), which makes me ineligible for many jobs, and I have weak vocal cords, making presentations difficult. I tried to take government job exams, but my memory suffered due to COVID. I don’t know what to do or how to get a job and what to learn. I struggle to retain most information. Am I completely helpless? I have a “Corona Degree” (passed without exams). Will this degree hold weight in the future? What should I pursue to become skilled enough to get any job?

Ans: For the past two years, from 2022 to 2024, you haven't said what you've been doing. I could tell right away from your question that you have great written skills. To begin, please stop thinking badly about yourself and the things around you. Second, you find your interests for your career, make a list of them, and try to get better at what you do. Third, make a LinkedIn profile and use Job Alerts to find out more about the jobs you're interested in. Try getting better over time. Take part in yoga, meditation, and other physical exercises. Wait your turn. Have faith in yourself. You will do well in your job and life. I hope you have a wonderful future.

All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future.

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I graduated in 2022 with computer science degree from mediocre college where teachers can't themselves speak in English but teach us through only black board learning , rote learning and notes, ask predictable and same set of questions which were asked in the last year exam because of COVID disruption and online learning I can't concentrate on my study and even though I tried to learn programming through courses, but I couldn't become proficient in them and i can't get a job because through campus placement. I was malnourished and stunted child and I have read that malnutrition and stunting limits congitive intelligence and leads to poor learning ability , learning capacity and unfortunately, I did not get quality education in school as my family is not comfortably well off so I attended unrecognised school upto class 8. I only managed to clear entrance exam of college through rote learning and procedural knowledge of mathematics. I am stunted adult (5.ft) and weak vocal cords so I dread giving presentation. Is there any hope for me . I try to take government job exam but my memory took a hit because of COVID. I don't know what to do and how to get a job and what to learn. I can't retain most of information. Am I helpless? I got corona degree : Passed Without Exam: Will ‘Corona Degree’ Hold Weight In Future?
Ans: Hi!!
You seem to me like a person who is capable of doing much more... look at you... the way you have written this whole question so clearly, explaining your predicaments in very good English, is a proof of your capability.
Now young adult... this is what I want from you-
1. you have come this far...congratulations....bad school you said, malnourished you said, COVID degree you said...I just want you to stop complaining
2. you are really good, resilient....in spite of all the circumstances you narrated so far, none of them were in your control, yet here you are A Computer Science graduate, can you not see that you are good, you rise even when life has not been so fair. Believe in yourself my friend
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5. ask yourself, "what is that I want my life to look like" and start working towards it, one step at a time.
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Ans: I applaud your treatment and story-sharing bravery. You've surmounted terrible odds, and your progress is admirable. Simplify and construct a career and personal plan. You Grow Career: You have varied hotel and hospital marketing. You may feel behind, but your experience is valuable. The next step? Digital, healthcare, and data analytics credentials improve marketing skills. LinkedIn Learning, Coursera, and Google provide affordable, flexible courses. Return to industry professional networks. Attend hospital marketing events and webinars to network with mentors and employers. Healthcare Marketing is popular. To stand out, focus on patient involvement, brand strategy, or digital efforts. Better Choices: Pharma, health tech, and healthcare marketing occupations pay more. Showcase your suffering and perseverance. Startups and medical device companies value adaptable marketing.
Financial safety: Budgeting: Save on a strict budget. Even a small monthly savings can provide stability. Set aside 3-6 months of living expenditures for emergencies.
Think about low-risk investments like mutual funds or term deposits to grow your savings.

Rebuild your self-confidence step-by-step:
Personal Development: To overcome bullying and regain self-worth, see a psychologist. Grateful: Celebrate small victories daily. Gain long-term self-esteem. To boost energy and confidence, walk, perform yoga, or go to the gym. Stress reduction and resilience can be achieved with Calm and Headspace meditation applications. Online or local career transition support groups can provide social and emotional help. Others' tales inspire.
Marriage proposals: If you are emotionally ready, willing to grow, and honest with your partner, you should be married at 40, even with a low salary. How you grow together is key to many successful partnerships. You need someone who values you for who you are, not simply your salary. Befriend Positive Friends and Coworkers. Instant Actions: Ask local Career Coaches and mentors for unique advice. Update LinkedIn, Resume: Emphasize career accomplishments. Encourage resilience and accountability during your break.
Goals: Set 3-6 month and 1-2 year career and personal improvement goals.
Getting past personal issues demonstrates strength. Returning to work shows resilience. Success is nonlinear and takes persistence. Choose small, daily acts that promote your goals. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future.
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