
Iam a girl we are charys my boy is SC we are about 8 years ago relationship first my boy proposed me after I Complete my intermediate then first I said to my brother only he proposed me I also have crush on him if I want to marry anyone that's the person like him only I really respects him like I said to my brother .then my brother says no ma in our family we can't accept that intercaste so you have feelings on him I know but you have to live and do focus on your carrier he said tome. But I can't when Iam chatting with my boy him I avoid him and I says forget me but he says I cant live without you. And when Everytimes Iam chatting with my boy I said to my brother and beaten up by my brother . And exact 3 years back my parents are searching I feel my body is shivering with matches so I can't control my self so I decided to say to my parents but my parents how can receive I can't know so Iam full of fear full off tears and at a time my love so I open up to my parentsI love someone he is in SC caste but we don't do without your acceptance we have to marry with your acceptance only is said my parents then my parents says we are die because of you our family respects our image what will happen we die they says like that... So next again and again after I take some months time I try again and again I beaten up by my parents but they can't accept our love and says they die . They still searching matches for me , but Iam still loving my boy there is no help Iam 26 age I don't have any job my family don't agree do job Iam in home and my boy is doing job private ..I ask him once to ask my parents about our marriage he says Like this with his small job how can I ask ma ...if I ask and I ask give time to carrier to good settle this like my boy said to me. But Iam again and again tried but my parents are says wee are die. And search matches to me I can't handle my situation ...my boy now says understand our parents dont agree for marriage how much he loves me support me I know and how he stands for me in my low I know. Now because of my parents he is replied me slowly but Iam feeling pain
Ans: Dear Gundoji,
I am still confused; does your boyfriend want to be married to you or not...if he is backing out, there is little that you can do!
If the two of you are serious about marriage, 2 things must be achieved before that:
1. Your boyfriend has to get involved in managing your family's expectations
2. You start to find a way to get financially independent
When these two points are taken care of, there is little opposition that you may face and even if you do, it will be handled better by both of you.
All the best!
Anu Krishna
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