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Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 09, 2021

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Confused Question by Confused on Nov 09, 2021Hindi
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Dear Love Guru,
My husband is always travelling for work.
Our sex life is dull.
I spend more time with my gym instructor than my husband.
I think I am in love with him and love his company and his body.
I have not expressed it.
But I make excuses to spend time with him.
I need him.
My husband is of not much support.
I don’t have to leave my marriage if I could have J as my friend.
Platonic friend.
Is that wrong?
Regards,
Confused

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Dear Confused,

While that may sound like an ideal situation, that's not quite how a marriage works -- with a bit on the side!

And people who travel and are away from their partners tend to miss them enough that the sex is good and frequent when they do get together. So something really seems amiss here.

Tell me, do you love your husband?

If that is the case, work on the sex. Tell him how you feel (not about the gym instructor (!), about the lack of excitement). Become a little adventurous in the bedroom, or get counselling, if need be.

If, on the other hand, you're only married because it's convenient, well, I think it's only a matter of time before you cheat on your husband, if not with this gym guy, then with the next.

And I don't think he deserves that, do you?

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Sir my self krishna sir can't able focus on studies properly plz give some tips to study for more hours for jee
Ans: Krishna, adhere to the following Strategies/Tips/Steps:

(1) Whenever you study at home, study for 45-minutes. Then take a break of 10-minutes when you can move away from your study table, walk, have some water & relax. If you continue studying beyond 45-minutes, your concentration power will go down, resulting to low output. Most students commit this mistake.
(2) On daily basis (morning or evening whichever will be convenient to you), do yoga or meditation or physical exercises or play any games / sports for at least 30-45 minutes. This will further reduce your stress / distractions.
(3) Study tough topics / tough subjects (applicable to you) early morning with your fresh mind.
(4) Eat a lot of green vegetables / fruits which you can afford for & Avoid soft drinks/junk foods
(5) Every day night, before going to bed, revise whatever you have studied during the day.
(6) Also, revise every week whatever you have covered till date (here your short-notes which you should prepare will be helpful).
(7) Keep practising questions on topics which you have covered either offline or online
(8) Give utmost importance to wrongly answered / difficult / complicated / tough questions and have a separate note-book specially for this for each subject (PCM)
(9) You might be aware that JEE rank is allotted on the basis of highest score in Maths, followed by Physics & Chemistry. Practice more and more in Maths, till you reach Speed & Accuracy

(10) By December-January, attempt fully syllabus online test series, evaluate and analyse your performance such as,

(a) which topic / unit / concept you are weak which needs your revision and improvement as this will disturb you when you appear in actual JEE exam
(b) abnormal time taken to attempt any question which you can come to know from Online Test Series which you should reduce
(c) which questions you skipped and why?

(11) Please AVOID studying under pressure that you should get admission only into IITs/ NITs. Never advisable. Any one can be successful, even if he / she studies in NON-IIT / NON-NIT Colleges also.

(12) Have Plan B & Plan C for other Colleges Entrance Exams / Disciplines-Streams.
(13) Avoid comparing yourself with other students.

(14) Also, it is highly ideal to appear in / attempt\minimum 5-7 Entrance Exams (for both Govt & Private Engineering Colleges). You will have a lot of options (easiest method) to choose the best and most suitable one, keeping in view a lot of factors such as, College | Location | Your Interest | Stream Preference | Placement Records | College Culture | Your Short & Long Term Goals | Pressure You Can Go Through | Your AIR & Job Market Condition when you apply for your BTech & Even after.

I hope I have answered to your question with value additions. All the BEST for your Bright Future.

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