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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Dec 10, 2021Hindi
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Dear expert,
Need your advice on what magic effect can bring back my husband.
He has left home multiple times after fighting with me.
He has filed a court case too, asking for divorce.
But I love him and fear to stay alone.
It's been three years of an unhealthy relationship and one year of separation.
Regards,
Anonymous

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Dear Anonymous,

At the end of the day, a marriage is not defined by a piece of legal paper; it is defined by the relationship between two people.

I am sorry to hear that you love your husband and that he has left you and is demanding a divorce.

But from where I stand, you seem to be better off without him; you have mentioned he has walked out on you several times before and also say that it has been an unhealthy relationship. He seems to want to break free from the marriage and you deserve much better.

I don't know why you fear living alone, but this is not the end of the road for you.

Give him the divorce and know that you will find love again, maybe with a better person this time around.

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This is really sad. It would have been mature of him to say things to your face instead of running away. Anyway, you are faced with a situation where you are going to need solid legal advice.
So, do just that and find a lawyer who can smartly deal with the issues on how to protect your daughter's interests. As for you, this being such a shocker is going to make you lose faith in a marriage. But remember things could have gotten worse...his true colors came in through this way...he could have very well cheated on you while living with you as well. This is not to justify what he's done of course but for you to find peace within you somehow.
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For your husband, his trust has been broken!
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