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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 13, 2024

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 11, 2024Hindi

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Hey Anu Do you think that now a days Having a Threesome is a Good way to boost intimate life ??

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is a lifestyle choice that few and many couples experiment with to spice up their intimate moments. But do note that inviting a third or fourth person into a marriage comes with risks; big and small.
If the couple within the marriage is willing to acknowledge and work with the jealousies and insecurities that may arise through the dynamics of having even one more person outside of marriage, then it comes from a space of maturity. But do understand that the marriage/existing relationship must be based on a foundation rock solid trust to face all the shakiness that may emerge with the experimentation. A frank talk between the couple before getting into things unknown must be had to eliminate any heartbreaks and finger-pointing later on.
So, as much as it may seem exciting and different, it can very well shake things up rather than just spice it up...

All the best!

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Question by MP - Dec 07, 2022Hindi

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Dear Anu,I would like to stay anonymous. I read your columns regularly and am located in USA. My question is regarding me and my wife. We are very happy with each other and have a very healthy sex life (Almost 4-5 times a week). We both are fond of sex and we like role playing and imaging various things. Recently we jokingly talked about me having sex with 2 ladies at the same time or she having sex with two men. This curiosity led us to discover the world of swingers. After lot of discussions, we decided to visit a swingers’ club with some hesitation. But when we entered we were surprised to see a lot of people hanging out there. We found a cute couple who we interacted with and had our first swingers experience. We both trust each other and enjoyed a lot seeing each other having fun with someone else. I believe this is basically due to the trust we have on each other. We never had any experience after that as we cannot travel much due to our kids. We think this experience has rejuvenated our sex life and kept us longing for more. We are more attached to each other than before. What are your views on this?

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Dear MP,

It depends on what the couple agrees to.

Any experiment like yours with the mutual consent of both of you, I guess is fine. But make sure that you constantly communicate with each other.

Experiments such as these can spill out insecurities, doubts, jealousies, mistrust and more.

So keep communicating with each other allowing the other person space to voice out their concerns and fears.

Everything is fine till one of you build fears and that’s when things start to go downhill. So, check in with each other regularly.

These experiments may spice up your sex life but relying on anything external can only be helpful to some extent.

Also, try spicing up your marriage between yourselves. There’s always room for more imagination and role playing and there is a load of material written on this as boredom in sex life is anyone’s challenge.

So, do give yourselves a fair chance to reinvent the game your way. Who knows, it might work!

All the best!

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