hello sir i am from delhi A 20 year old student have some financial issu duo to some of my friend because He taught me to gamble and made me play and daily he used to say only one thing that tomorrow I will recover, tomorrow it will be alright, play today, everything will be fine and for that i took money on high intrust now i have a debt of rupee 5.5 lakh and i dont know how i will pay that thats why i have suicidal thought
i need help if its possible i need that money on loan that i will pay in emi plzz if you can do something plzz do
Ans: You are very brave to speak about this pain. It shows strength that you are reaching out instead of staying silent. Please remember one thing: your life is much more valuable than money. Debts can be managed. Life cannot be replaced.
I will give you structured guidance, but before that, please also connect with a close family member immediately and share everything. If you ever feel suicidal again, please call a helpline (24x7 Government mental health helpline). Speaking to a professional or a trusted person will help you.
Now let me guide you step by step.
» Understanding Your Current Situation
– You are 20 years old, still a student.
– Debt of Rs. 5.5 lakh is very high for this age.
– Debt is from gambling influence, not from income-based borrowing.
– You are feeling hopeless due to high-interest money lenders.
– You want to convert this into EMI loan.
– You are also having suicidal thoughts because of pressure.
» Immediate Emotional Support
– First, your mental health is more important than financial issue.
– Please stop isolating yourself.
– Share this openly with parents or close relative today itself.
– Hiding will increase burden, telling will reduce it.
– Do not stay alone when thoughts become strong.
– Professional counsellors can support you without judgement.
– Remember: This mistake is temporary, your life is permanent.
» Stopping Gambling Cycle
– Gambling is dangerous and addictive.
– It creates false hope of recovery tomorrow.
– You have already seen that cycle.
– The only way is to stop fully, from today itself.
– No recovery is possible through gambling, only bigger loss.
– Block all access, block friends who encourage it.
– Fill your time with studies, work, or hobbies.
– You are still very young, you can rebuild easily.
» Managing High-Interest Debt
– Private moneylender interest is always very high.
– If you continue, amount will multiply fast.
– Converting into EMI loan is a practical solution.
– You can consider a personal loan from bank once income starts.
– At 20, as a student, it may be difficult.
– Parents or relatives can co-sign loan for you.
– This way, debt converts into manageable EMI.
– Interest reduces and timeline becomes fixed.
» Building Support System
– You cannot solve this alone at 20.
– Family involvement is necessary.
– Parents may be upset initially but will stand with you.
– Better to face anger now than carry unbearable burden.
– Trusted relatives or elder siblings can also guide.
– Don’t fear judgement, think about safety first.
» Step by Step Action Plan
– Step 1: Stop all gambling activities today.
– Step 2: Inform family about Rs. 5.5 lakh debt.
– Step 3: Negotiate with lenders to avoid daily compounding.
– Step 4: Try to consolidate into personal loan with lower EMI.
– Step 5: If loan not possible now, request parents to help.
– Step 6: Once working, repay through structured EMIs.
– Step 7: Meanwhile, focus on studies and skill development.
– Step 8: Seek counselling to avoid future relapse into gambling.
» Future Lessons
– Never take debt for gambling or speculation again.
– Learn to invest in disciplined ways only after income starts.
– SIP in mutual funds is safer for long-term growth.
– Gambling will always promise quick gain, but it destroys life.
– Friends who misguide are not true friends.
– Choose company of people who build, not break.
» Final Insights
– Your life is not finished, you are only 20.
– Rs. 5.5 lakh looks big now, but later it is manageable.
– Once you start working, you can easily repay such amount.
– Family, counsellors, and Certified Financial Planner can support.
– Today your responsibility is to stay alive, stay honest, and stay hopeful.
– Please don’t allow temporary money issue to destroy permanent life.
– Take action today: talk to parents, stop gambling, seek support.
– You will overcome this and rebuild a much stronger future.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment