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VINAY Question by VINAY on Apr 16, 2024Hindi
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i have bought a flat in June'22 i was told that possession will be given on or before 31/12/2022 and also promised that if possession not given as per schedule i.e 31/12/2022 then they will give me monthly compensation till the actual possession of flat and they have given me possession after one year and they also refused to give any compensation so please advise what to do now

Ans: Gather Evidence: Collect all documents related to the flat purchase, including the agreement, possession date promises, and any correspondence about delays or compensation.
Send a Legal Notice: Clearly outline the breach of contract, the promised compensation, and demand payment.
Consider Mediation or Arbitration: If direct negotiation fails, explore these options to resolve the dispute.
Consult a Lawyer: Seek professional advice to understand your legal rights and options, including potential litigation.
Act promptly as there might be time limitations for legal action.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Ans: Your situation is quite complex and involves multiple legal and personal factors. Here are the key issues you are facing:

Non-receipt of rent compensation from Hindva Builders since September 2019.
Hindva's reluctance to pay rent arrears despite assurances.
Possibility of selling your entitlement for fair compensation.
The involvement of MS Realty as a financial partner.
Steps to Address Non-Receipt of Rent
Document All Communications
Keep a detailed record of all communications with Hindva and MS Realty.
Note dates, times, and content of calls, emails, and meetings.
Legal Consultation
Consult a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) or a legal expert specializing in real estate and tenancy issues.
They can provide tailored advice and help draft legal notices.
Issue a Legal Notice
Send a formal legal notice to Hindva Builders and MS Realty.
Clearly state the non-payment of rent arrears from 16-Sep-19.
Mention the repeated verbal assurances and the financial and emotional distress caused.
Engage with a Tenants’ Association
Join or collaborate with the tenants’ association if possible.
Collective action can strengthen your position.
Pursuing Fair Compensation for Sale
Property Valuation
Obtain an independent valuation of your 641 area from a certified property valuer.
Ensure the valuation reflects current market conditions in Kalina, Mumbai.
Legal Advice on Sale Agreement
Seek legal advice to review any sale agreement proposed by Hindva or MS Realty.
Ensure the agreement includes fair compensation and clear terms for payment.
Negotiation
Use the independent valuation to negotiate with Hindva and MS Realty.
Aim for a transparent and fair settlement.
Additional Steps for Assurance
Verify Other Tenants’ Experiences
Confirm with other tenants who have sold or received compensation.
Understand the process they followed and the terms they agreed to.
Advocate Support
Consider engaging a local tenants’ rights advocate or NGO.
They can offer support and additional resources.
Final Insights
Your patience and perseverance in dealing with this situation are commendable. Given the complexity, professional legal and financial advice is essential. Act promptly to safeguard your rights and ensure fair compensation.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Dear Sir We had booked a flat in one of the projects in Karnataka ( 15 + years back) but when the project is about to complete the land owner of that apartment filed the case against the builder because the builder had constructed few flats illegally in that project.. The land owner had demanded few crores from the builder for illegally constructing the flat...During that time we were in abroad and 3 flats werent registered in this project one is ours and 2 more flat owners were in abroad too..Thats out of 35 flats... Hence the builder had registered three flats in their name for the safety..But till now we havent got registered of that flat in our name becos there is case in the court. Hence there is no completion certificate issued for that project..etc.... and no flat owner can sell their flat due to the court case. However the builder had given us a power of attorney for the flat for rent it out or stay... And we have rented the flat and are getting the rent... we have been regularly followed up with the builder, he everytime promises today tomorrow....like this 15+ years passed...last year we asked for a replacement flat in one of their new project and he agreed to give us a replacement flat provided we pay some extra bucks as per the rate...We agreed for that and got the agreement signed and also got the sale deed of the land etc.. we have paid the payment in cheques.Its a huge project and completion of the project is bit slow and got delayed.... Recently, the builder had sent an email to all flat owners to register their flats but when we consulted for registration the builder said he had to transfer the payment done by us from the previous project to this new project...hence it would take time (by the way thats their internal issue) everytime we consulted for registration he says it would take one months time and his legal team is working on it...Sometime he says the court case should get over of the other project and then only he can help to register the the present flat..(though the previous flat is in their name itself) we have nothing to do with case (as the Case is between land owner and builder) also the previous flat registration al in their name..we have only agreement and receipts.of payment done...hence so far the flat is not registered...most of the flats got registered in the new project...The project is not completed yet it would take one more year... My question is why the builder is delaying the registration process of our flat and why is he not doing the internal issues solved and help us to register our flat in our name... Should we register the flat ourselves provided we get required documents from the builder? Or consult a lawyer in this regard...Pls guide...
Ans: You booked a flat 15+ years ago in Karnataka. The project faced legal issues due to illegal construction. You haven’t been able to register the flat in your name.

Builder’s Delay
The builder registered three flats, including yours, in their name. You have a power of attorney to rent it out. The builder promised a replacement flat in a new project, but the registration is still delayed.

Key Questions
Why is the builder delaying registration?
Should you register the flat yourself?
Should you consult a lawyer?
Builder's Delay Analysis
Internal Issues
Fund Transfer: The builder needs to transfer payments from the previous project to the new one. This seems to be causing delays.

Legal Complications: The builder indicates that the ongoing court case may affect the registration process. However, you have no involvement in this case.

Project Completion
Project Delay: The new project is not yet complete. This might also contribute to the registration delay.
Recommendations
Consult a Lawyer
Legal Advice: Consult a lawyer to understand your legal standing and options.

Documentation: Ensure all your documents are in order. The lawyer can help review and prepare necessary paperwork.

Registration Process
Self-Registration: With the required documents from the builder, you might register the flat yourself. This requires legal guidance.

Follow-Up: Continue to follow up with the builder regularly. Ensure all communication is documented.

Legal Action
Notice to Builder: Your lawyer may suggest sending a legal notice to the builder for delaying registration.

Court Case: If the builder doesn’t cooperate, consider filing a case against them. This might expedite the process.

Insightful Evaluation
Assessing Risks
Builder's Reliability: Evaluate the builder’s past projects and their completion rates. This helps in assessing the likelihood of further delays.

Legal Risks: Understand the legal risks associated with the ongoing court case. Your lawyer can provide a detailed assessment.

Future Steps
Replacement Flat: If the builder provides a replacement flat, ensure all legal aspects are clear before agreeing.

Backup Plan: Have a backup plan in case the registration process faces more delays. This might include exploring other housing options.

Communication
Transparent Dialogue: Maintain open and transparent communication with the builder. Document all discussions and agreements.

Legal Assistance: Have your lawyer involved in all major communications with the builder. This ensures legal backing.

Final Insights
Proactive Steps
Consulting a lawyer is crucial. They can guide you through the legal complexities and help expedite the registration process.

Keep all your documents organized. This will be helpful during any legal procedures.

Regularly follow up with the builder. Ensure you have written records of all communications.

Evaluate the reliability of the builder and the legal implications of the ongoing court case. This helps in making informed decisions.

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Sir, I am 44 year old and want to retire after 15 years with 20 cr. value in current investing 1.55L in MF SIP in these fund ADITYA BIRLA SUN LIFE PSU EQUITY FUND - DIRECT PLAN 5000 AXIS BLUECHIP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 0 AXIS MIDCAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 0 AXIS SMALL CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 4000 CANARA ROBECO BLUECHIP EQUITY FUND - DIRECT PLAN 12000 HDFC MULTI CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 3000 ICICI PRUDENTIAL BHARAT 22 FOF - DIRECT PLAN 5000 ICICI PRUDENTIAL NIFTY NEXT 50 INDEX FUND - DIRECT PLAN 3000 KOTAK MULTICAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 4000 MIRAE ASSET LARGE CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 4000 MOTILAL OSWAL MIDCAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 6000 MOTILAL OSWAL NIFTY INDIA DEFENCE INDEX FUND - DIRECT PLAN 10000 NIPPON INDIA LARGE CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 10000 NIPPON INDIA MULTI CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 4000 NIPPON INDIA SMALL CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 5000 PARAG PARIKH FLEXI CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 6000 PGIM INDIA FLEXI CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 6000 PGIM INDIA MIDCAP OPPORTUNITIES FUND - DIRECT PLAN 4000 QUANT ELSS TAX SAVER FUND - DIRECT PLAN 12500 QUANT INFRASTRUCTURE FUND - DIRECT PLAN 7000 QUANT LARGE AND MID CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 6000 QUANT MID CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 12000 QUANT SMALL CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 7000 SBI CONTRA FUND - DIRECT PLAN 8000 TATA SMALL CAP FUND - DIRECT PLAN 6000 ZERODHA NIFTY LARGEMIDCAP 250 INDEX FUND - DIRECT PLAN 2500 I feel that i am investing in too much fund . Kindly look my above portfolio and suggest to addition and change from these schemes to achieve the mentioned retirement target of 20 Cr. MF. Portfolio after 15 years.
Ans: Assessing Your Current Investment Portfolio
You've established a clear financial goal: accumulating Rs 20 crore by the time you retire in 15 years. To achieve this, you're currently investing Rs 1.55 lakh per month through SIPs in mutual funds. This commitment shows you're serious about your future and willing to take the necessary steps to secure it. However, the number of funds in your portfolio suggests you may be spreading your investments too thin, which could hinder your progress.

Understanding Over-Diversification
Diversification is a cornerstone of investing. It reduces risk by spreading investments across various assets or funds. However, over-diversification occurs when too many investments are made in similar funds or asset classes. This dilutes potential returns and complicates portfolio management. Your portfolio consists of 27 different funds, which is excessive.

The Dangers of Over-Diversification
Fund Overlap: Many funds in your portfolio likely invest in the same or similar stocks, leading to unnecessary redundancy. This doesn’t enhance diversification but rather makes it harder for you to see significant returns.

Management Complexity: With 27 funds, it’s challenging to track each one’s performance. This complexity makes it difficult to make timely adjustments to your portfolio, which is crucial for achieving your long-term goals.

Diluted Returns: When you invest in too many funds, the performance of your best-performing funds gets diluted by the average or poor performance of others. This can drag down your overall returns.

The Need for Streamlining Your Portfolio
To achieve your goal of Rs 20 crore in 15 years, it’s essential to streamline your portfolio. A focused approach will allow you to benefit from the growth potential of carefully selected funds without the drawbacks of over-diversification.

1. Large-Cap Funds: Foundation of Stability and Growth
Current Allocation: You have several large-cap funds in your portfolio, which are known for their stability and lower volatility compared to mid-cap and small-cap funds. However, holding multiple large-cap funds is unnecessary as they often invest in the same blue-chip companies.

Recommended Action: Consolidate your large-cap investments into one or two well-performing funds. This will simplify your portfolio and ensure that your investments are concentrated in the best opportunities within the large-cap space.

Suggested Allocation: Ideally, 25-30% of your portfolio should be allocated to large-cap funds. This allocation provides stability and consistent growth potential, crucial for someone planning retirement in 15 years.

2. Mid-Cap and Small-Cap Funds: Growth Drivers
Current Allocation: Mid-cap and small-cap funds are essential for achieving high growth. However, these funds come with higher risk and volatility. Your portfolio includes multiple mid-cap and small-cap funds, which may lead to overlapping investments.

Recommended Action: Narrow down your mid-cap and small-cap funds to one or two top performers in each category. Focus on funds that have a consistent track record of outperforming their benchmarks.

Suggested Allocation: Allocate 30-40% of your portfolio to a mix of mid-cap and small-cap funds. This will provide the growth potential needed to reach your Rs 20 crore goal while managing the risk associated with these funds.

3. Multi-Cap and Flexi-Cap Funds: Balanced Growth with Flexibility
Current Allocation: Multi-cap and flexi-cap funds offer flexibility by investing across different market capitalizations. Your portfolio has several of these funds, which is a good strategy for diversification. However, having too many can dilute their benefits.

Recommended Action: Consolidate your multi-cap and flexi-cap funds into one or two that have demonstrated consistent performance. These funds should have the ability to adjust their portfolio allocation based on market conditions.

Suggested Allocation: 20-25% of your portfolio should be in multi-cap or flexi-cap funds. This provides a balance between stability and growth, essential for long-term wealth accumulation.

4. Sectoral and Thematic Funds: Tactical Bets for Enhanced Returns
Current Allocation: You’ve invested in sectoral funds like Quant Infrastructure Fund and Motilal Oswal Nifty India Defence Index Fund. These funds can offer high returns but come with increased risk due to their concentrated exposure to specific sectors.

Recommended Action: Limit your exposure to sectoral and thematic funds. These should represent a small portion of your portfolio, used for tactical bets rather than core holdings. Choose sectors you believe will outperform in the long term, but be mindful of the higher volatility.

Suggested Allocation: Restrict sectoral and thematic funds to 5-10% of your portfolio. This ensures that while you can benefit from sectoral growth, the overall portfolio remains stable and diversified.

5. Index Funds: A Reconsideration of Their Role
Current Allocation: Your portfolio includes index funds like Zerodha Nifty LargeMidcap 250 Index Fund and ICICI Prudential Nifty Next 50 Index Fund. While index funds have low expense ratios and provide broad market exposure, they may not always be the best choice, especially when aiming for high growth.

Disadvantages of Index Funds:

Lack of Active Management: Index funds merely replicate the market and do not exploit market inefficiencies. Active fund managers, on the other hand, can outperform the market by selecting stocks based on research and analysis.
Underperformance in Volatile Markets: During market downturns or periods of high volatility, index funds may not protect your capital as well as actively managed funds, which can adjust their portfolios to minimize losses.
Recommended Action: Consider reducing or eliminating your index fund exposure. Instead, focus on actively managed funds that have a track record of outperforming their benchmarks.

Suggested Allocation: If you choose to retain any index funds, limit them to no more than 5% of your portfolio. The majority of your investments should be in actively managed funds with the potential for higher returns.

Building an Ideal Portfolio for Your Retirement Goal
To achieve your Rs 20 crore target in 15 years, it’s essential to build a portfolio that is both diversified and focused. Here’s a suggested portfolio structure that aligns with your risk profile, time horizon, and return expectations:

1. Large-Cap Funds (25-30% of Portfolio):
Retain 1-2 high-performing large-cap funds. These funds should have a history of consistent returns and lower volatility.
Why Large-Cap Funds? They provide stability and steady growth, essential as you approach retirement. Large-cap funds invest in established companies with strong track records, making them a safer bet.
2. Mid-Cap Funds (20-25% of Portfolio):
Retain 1-2 mid-cap funds that have shown resilience and consistent growth over the years.
Why Mid-Cap Funds? Mid-cap funds offer a good balance between risk and return. They invest in companies with the potential to become large-caps in the future, providing higher growth opportunities.
3. Small-Cap Funds (15-20% of Portfolio):
Retain 1-2 small-cap funds that have consistently outperformed their benchmarks.
Why Small-Cap Funds? Small-cap funds are riskier but can deliver significant returns over the long term. They are suitable for the growth portion of your portfolio, especially given your 15-year time horizon.
4. Flexi-Cap Funds (20-25% of Portfolio):
Retain 1-2 flexi-cap funds with a strong performance history. These funds should have the flexibility to invest across market capitalizations.
Why Flexi-Cap Funds? Flexi-cap funds provide a balanced approach to investing, with the flexibility to adjust to market conditions. This makes them a valuable part of your portfolio.
5. Sectoral/Thematic Funds (5-10% of Portfolio):
Retain only 1-2 sectoral funds that align with your long-term views.
Why Sectoral Funds? Sectoral funds can provide high returns, but they come with higher risk. By limiting exposure, you can benefit from sectoral growth without exposing your portfolio to excessive risk.
6. Index Funds (Up to 5% of Portfolio):
If you wish to retain any index funds, limit them to a small portion of your portfolio.
Why Limit Index Funds? Index funds offer market returns but lack the ability to outperform. Given your aggressive growth target, actively managed funds may serve you better.
Final Insights
Your goal of accumulating Rs 20 crore by retirement is ambitious but achievable with the right strategy. By consolidating and focusing your investments, you can maximize returns while managing risk effectively. Here’s a summary of the steps you should take:

Consolidate large-cap funds: Merge similar funds to avoid redundancy and simplify management.
Focus on mid-cap and small-cap funds: Select the top performers in each category to drive growth.
Streamline multi-cap/flexi-cap funds: Keep the best performers and ensure they have the flexibility to adapt to market changes.
Limit sectoral funds: Use them for tactical investments but keep their exposure low to manage risk.
Reduce index fund exposure: Consider actively managed funds for their potential to outperform, especially in volatile markets.
By implementing these changes, you’ll not only simplify your portfolio but also enhance its performance potential. This streamlined approach will help you stay on track to achieve your retirement goal of Rs 20 crore in 15 years.

Investing is a long-term commitment, and regular reviews of your portfolio are essential to ensure it remains aligned with your goals. As you get closer to retirement, consider gradually shifting your portfolio towards more stable investments to protect your capital. However, for now, an aggressive yet focused strategy is key to reaching your ambitious financial goal.

Remember, every investment decision should be made with a clear understanding of your risk tolerance, time horizon, and financial objectives. By staying disciplined and focused, you can build the wealth you need to enjoy a comfortable retirement.

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Hi Anu ji, I am 42 yr old single parent. I have a 10 yr old son living with me. My wife and I were separated when our son was 3 yr old and we recently settled our divorce. Immediately after our divorce, my ex-wife got re-married. Her husband isn’t willing to take my son in and hence she handed over his legal custody to me. She has moved on with her life and my son doesn’t feature in her list of priorities. I am more than happy to have him. During the last 7 years of separation, she did not allow me or my parents to meet my son, so we could not build a strong bond together. Now, it has been 6 months since my son has moved in with me. Its only me and him living together ATM. My parents stay in our ancestral village and are unable to stay with me. Though its challenging for both of us to discover and understand each other, it must be tougher for my son. He understands the fact that his parents aren’t together and hence he has to stay with either of us at a time. Sometimes, he does get emotional about this situation not being normal compared to his friends / cartoons / movies etc. He also misses his mother and often keeps quoting that “My mother does it this way...”, “Me and my mum used to do this / that” etc etc and I appreciate that. I am fine with him talking to his mother through WhatsApp and meeting her whenever they wish to. He is also close to his other maternal family members, and I do not have any issues with him maintaining that bond. Now the challenge is, my ex-wife and her family abuses and shoos me away every time I try to ask them about my son such as his eating habits, likes, dislikes, vacation plans etc etc. They also bad mouth me whenever they speak to my son. That poor little soul gets influenced and feels that its punishment for him to live with me. And I feel betrayed as I too have made sacrifices / adjustments in my career, relationships etc to be able to take care of my son. I feel like stopping his communication with his mum and maternal family, but worried if that would adversely affect him. Now I have also started to get angry whenever he speaks to his mum or maternal family and try not to vent out at him, but I sometimes I do. Please guide me to navigate this delicate situation and what should I look forward to in my life.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Firstly, stop going back to your ex-wife for things that concern your son.
You have taken the responsibility of raising him, then you can surely figure out his likes and dislikes over time. Spend time bonding with him and be very patient with the outcome. Overnight, you son isn't going to love and fuss over you. So, keep raising him with a lot of love and a very supportive environment. At times, you will see him angry or stubborn bringing reference to the way his mother raised him; that is not the time to be angry but to hear him out and actually agree with him. He is a child, why are you being one? Surely, you understand that this is a very confusing and challenging time for him...why not spend time finding ways to bond rather than get angry when he speaks to his mother? That is their unique relationship; don't stand in the way as your son as he grows older will hold you responsible for keeping him away from her.
Focus on building a connection with him...and if for some reason things get distressing and even more challenging, please take the help of a professional to help the family tide over this phase...
In the meantime, let your focus be on your son, his needs, his joys and sorrows and more...let his know and feel that you as a father will protect him and be there for him at all times...that will change a lot of things for him...

All the best!
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Hi I'm 26 and my wife also same age, my wife is not interested in sex past 1 year. I tried to talk too many times for knowing what's the reason and the real issue and tried to speak tell what main issue she is facing and also tried to talk with her sister and parents and tell the situation we are facing. But she not interested to tell anybody , so i tried her phone and all details related to my help but noting in my hand. So after a 1 year i helpless so I asked directly to her can I go outside sex with any another women she not agreed so I complained the same tell me why are you not interested with me in sex . Not respond And once day I talked again can I go to sex with another women she cried in front of my family members Please help me for this situation
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Is this like a meal? Where you can't have food at home and so you can go outside and have it?
Please use your wise mind and when there is a problem, instead of running away, as a grown man act maturely and try to solve that problem.
So, if your wife is uninterested in sex, what's the point going all over town and sharing that with everyone. What will they do? Isn't marriage about taking care of each other? So, do just that. Clearly, your wife has some kind of a mind block when it comes to sex and sexual intimacy. Please help her instead of seeking sex outside...
First to a good gynecologist who may then refer her to a specialist who can help her if she carries any mind blacks. She needs help from you; so be with her...

All the best!
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