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Dr Nandita Palshetkar is the medical director of Bloom IVF.
She is a pioneer in ICSI, laser hatching, spindle view, oocyte and embryo freezing, IMSI, in vivo vaginal culture, metabolomics, embryoscope and spindle check technologies.
With over 30 years of experience, Dr Nandita is managing 10 centres across India.
She has written over 100 papers, edited 25 books and given over 1,000 lectures and speeches.
She has also won several prestigious awards, including the Dronacharya Award (2021), the Bharat Gaurav Award at the House of Commons in London (2014) and the Inspiring Gynaecologists of India (2018) to name a few.
Dr Nandita completed her MBBS from Grant Medical College and Sir J J Hospital, Mumbai, and her MD in obstetrics and gynaecology from Mumbai University."... more
Asked by Anonymous - Dec 09, 2024
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I have PCOS and I had unprotected intercourse with my partner. The very next day I took Ipill to avoid risk. Since my cycle is irregular my last period was on 25th October. I had pill on December 3. Still how many days it takes for my periods.

Ans: Hello
Your period was on 25th October
And taken i pill on 3rd December
If taken within the first 24 hours, it is claimed to be highly effective at more than 95%.
Since pco and irregular periods and taken i pill, withdrawal bleed can take5 to 10 days
But if you don't get periods in 3 week's time
Please check pregnancy test
Since you have pcod with irregular periods and taken i pil there can be change in period cycle also.
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