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Savendra Question by Savendra on May 21, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am parent of my son and daughter, currently am facing very stress due to My son has not cracked JEE Main / not Gujcet / not even he got 75% marks in 12 PCM, theforee it is naturally being a parents feels some stress anxiety and tension. Now my son is preparing for IISER and NEST. But my intention is to he should join NIT after cracking JEE in 2025. How can I handle this situation ? what is prospects of Joining IISER /NEST. What will be career if he will join IISER /NISER. For me JEE Main is more door opening or opportunity opening exam in future in comparison with IISER /NISER. Now he is preparing for IISER /NISER and he is also planning for JEE main 2025. please advise the best suitable option for Career either JEE 2025 OR join IISER /NISER 2024.

Ans: Hi Savendra
I can understand your state of mind being a parent. First of all, check with your son about what he wants to become. If we put our dreams & ambitions on him and he is not interested in that it becomes very difficult for him to succeed.

Now coming to admissions IISER NISER will open the door for research-based jobs or positions, while JEE MAIN will lead him to a professional engineering-based job either in IT or core field.

Just keep your calm & have friendly & open discussion with him.
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I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

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