Am a married man
Married for the past 18 years
Unhappy doesn't define the marital times ,
Miserable does
Blessed with 2 kids though
Wifes nature has gone from bad to worse ,
She fights , argues all the time for reasons best known to her ..
In the meantime I have a huge crush on on my clients
She's about my age
Drop dead gorgeous
But till now the communication has only been professional.
Am into the business of financial planning and portfolio management by the way.
Till now we only discuss professional and financial matters
She's very thankful for the advise that I have been able to provide her till date as it has helped her grow her portfolio for the long term.
I am absolutely smitten by her ,
Soft spoken
Eloquent manners
Well dressed
Quite the opposite of the woman I have at home
I would love to ask her out for a coffee, but can't muster the courage
I know it's morally and ethically incorrect .
But more than , fear rejection and not seeing her again .
Caught between the rock and the hard place .
Please advise
Ans: Being in a difficult relationship can naturally lead you to notice and appreciate people who seem to embody calm, understanding, and connection. The admiration you feel for your client represents qualities you genuinely desire, and it's entirely human to be affected by that, especially when things at home are tense.
However, acting on these feelings, especially in the context of a professional relationship, could bring complications. Initiating something with your client could impact your work, reputation, and family, and, as you said, it may cause her to withdraw if she feels uncomfortable. A client relationship, especially one built on trust and long-term financial guidance, relies heavily on professionalism and clear boundaries.
Perhaps the first step here is to reflect on what you’re looking for in your marriage and whether there’s a path to feeling more fulfilled. Though things may feel beyond repair, sometimes a shift in communication or counseling can open doors to changes you might not have anticipated. Or, if you feel the marriage cannot meet your needs anymore, considering a healthy and respectful transition could eventually open the way for relationships that allow you to feel emotionally free and fulfilled without the complexity of overlapping commitments.
In the meantime, try focusing on nurturing your own growth outside of the current situation. Sometimes, interests, hobbies, or friendships unrelated to work or home life help bring clarity and a new perspective, enabling you to decide on the best path forward for yourself and your family.