Dear Guru
I was in a relationship with a guy before my marriage where we had physical relation and he had taken videos without my consent. I had to leave him as he was physically and emotionally abusive and was not taking relationship to marriage. I am now married and my husband knows I had a relationship, but not details. My husband wants to start a family and I am worried if the videos will come out in future and bring shame to family and my kid. I am not able to decide what to do? Please advice.
Ans: Dear Oldie86,
If it is bothering you so much, I would suggest discussing the matter with your husband. It being out in the open will give you peace of mind. I understand your concern, but there is no point in overthinking. Just remember that all of that is in your past, and you were in a committed relationship. It wasn’t your fault. Focus on your present and future.
Best Wishes.
