
I met a guy who was my realtor trying to sell me a property.the property was shortly purchased. Later on he took my personal number and started texting me in that. It was just a hi hello daily kind of thing. Soon it turned into 1hr calls at his office time and the calls happened every three days. He asked me to on a vacation with him and i agreed since both of us had a compatible thinking. Our conversations were casually flirty whenever it happened. Everytime i went to seey property he used to be there since it was his office too and made sure i was well taken care of. From few days i had started reciprocating his care for me. Recenty during a conversation i asked him to come to my city as our relationship status was not defined and i thought he wanted to spend some time with me as the vacation we were planning was postponed after a month. Yesterday during a conversation he told me he is married and i was shocked since he never talked about it and knew everything about me at this point from my family members. Now he says i did not want to hurt me and we are friends, we were taking the vacation as friends. But truth is i am hurt since i had just started reciprocating his flirtiness. I dont know what to do further as i know he has hurt me and he should not have flirted with me and should have told me he was married from beginning. He just said it never came in any conversations. I just confronted him as to why he did want to go on vacation with me when he has a wife. He just said he meant as friends and his marriage is complicated. Should i continue talking to him or end the so called friendship, because at one point i was sure he liked me, he praised me, called me beautiful, used yo stare at me when i was not looking.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how confused and hurt you must be feeling. It was definitely wrong of him to lead you on, and never mention that he is already married. We don’t know the dynamics of his marriage, whether it is open or he is hiding all these from his. But I do get the sense that you do not want to be involved with a married person. So, going on this trip, even if he says it’s “as friends” can complicate things. I would suggest you think twice before continuing this “so called friendship” and also before going ahead with the trip plan. He might not care, but it can hurt you since your feelings are genuine.
Hope this helps.