My wife abandoned me after 14 years of marriage.
That's ok to me as she was a torture to my parents and me all the time.
The problem is she poisoned my 12 year old son and also emotionally blackmails my son because of which now my son hates me to make his mom happy.
He very rarely answers my calls and never reverts to my messages.
They contact me only when school and class fee are to be paid. Otherwise, I have no whereabouts of my son or what's going on in his life.
Pls advise. I don't wish to get my wife back.
Ans: Dear TP,
It is unfortunate that the child is caught in this crossfire which never should be the case in the first place.
It is a difficult task to rework the relationship between you and your son as he is more inclined to believe his primary caregiver; which is his mother.
But of course, nothing is impossible. I might want to suggest that you approach a family member who can play a neutral role in bringing your wife to a place where she realises that the role of a father is necessary for the child other than just the financial support.
Also, what made you feel that your son hates you? What gives you an indication to that? But since there is no information on that, I will go by what you have shared.
He must be doing this not just to keep his Mom happy but also he must know that she is his only source of emotional support and that he might lose that if he aligns with you.
You can only try and keep trying that someday he will respond to your calls or texts. Also, a legal separation might assure you visitation rights if you go down that path.
But that’s always the last option as it takes a moment to break a relationship and a lifetime to build one.
So salvage what you have and appeal to someone close to the family to step in and save the day.
All the best!
