Ans: Dear E,
Usual periods of confusions start just before puberty and goes on for a few years thereon. And it’s also normal to feel confused and question your sexual orientation.
I feel you can surprise yourself by accepting your confusions.
Rather than obsessing over what your friend will do or should do, can you instead focus on exploring your mind and clearing your confusions.
You can seek the help of an expert to help you figure out your sexual orientation which will help you channelise your energies more meaningfully.
So instead of jealousies and insecurities, try to move into confidence and happiness.
This gap can be filled by focusing on easing the confusions in the mind. So, the birthday month can be a gift to yourself rather in a very useful way.
At 16, turn your friends’ circle into something more as a powerful tool rather than weaken your resolve.
Utilise your strengths to better yourself and move towards clarity to create the best life as yet!
All the best!