Ans: Dear KBR,
Can you respect what she has decided? You feel rudderless as you had placed all your emotional safety cords in her hands. Now that she has cut it, you feel all over the place.
Is it true that our emotional safety net is in another person’s hands?
If yes, then we are always going to feel disappointed. I guess she has made it amply clear to you that she does not want the connection to move ahead.
Time to let go as painful as it may feel now.
Channelise the pain into sports or hobbies and also make a big shift in the way you approach emotions.
Start to love yourself no matter what. Your emotions are yours and you deal with them. They are not toys to be given to others to play with.
Be secure with yourself even if it means taking time to create this new identity because once you feel strong from within emotionally, you will be unstoppable.
Take a breath, let go and move on…
All the best!