I love my sister-in-law very much and want to build a relationship with her, but her husband has died just 2 years ago, how can I explain to her.
Ans: Dear Sanjeev,
You can't explain love to anyone...because they must feel it for themselves in their own way...
You may want a relationship with her, but does she want a relationship with you?
Have you given a thought that she might still have raw wounds from her husband passing on? She may still not have moved on or may have chosen to still hold on to it.
What you can do is be a friend to her and know how she feels about another relationship...if she is ready, she may talk to you about it provided she feels like sharing all this with you. If she dismisses it, stay clear. Remember, you already have a relationship label that you are under within the family structure. Do respect it and respect her place in the family!
This will also save you from any heartbreaks if you have been making plans and working towards it. Know your boundaries and also protect your mind space as you respect the family structure.
All the best!