I as a woman,I always want to do some work in my life.but now the problem is if I marry to my boyfriend he wanted a home maker wife.He support me in my work but his concern is about our future that who will take care of our child and than how I balanced my work...I don't understand what to do.
Ans: Dear Payel,
As someone who has worked with many couples who have planned to marry, I suggest one thing: If being a working woman is very important to you and your partner wants something quite different...this can become a huge issue later after marriage.
Have that frank conversation before you make the big decision of marrying...It is possible for a woman to work and look after the family as well with of course some help from family or by hiring help. But what can't be helped is if your partner carries the belief that it's a woman's job to stay home and care for babies (especially if the woman role models in his life have done that). This can become a huge challenge when you have the opposite view.
So, talk about this and know that as a woman you do have the skill of managing different things together. I am sure when the two of you converse, he will be able to see your perspective as well. You may also be able to ease his fears on how the baby can be cared for even if you work. It maybe as simple as that.
All the best!