Ans: Dear J.A.R,
It must be shocking and what you displayed was Freeze response.
Creeps like these are lurking around every corner and till we call them out, they are going to commit more serious offenses that what you have experienced.
So, the next time, scream at the creep and make a scene if you have to.
At least, you will have moved on from the victim mode to someone who can take care of herself. Well, this is for what can be done the next time!
Now, let’s deal with what your mind is doing to you.
In what way are you dirty for a trick played on you by a dirty man?
Isn’t he the one who should be feeling dirty instead? Why are you playing his side of the role and keeping yourself from good relationships that are coming your way?
To change this story in your mind, I suggest that you imagine the dirty man seated next to you, him groping you and NOW change the way you want to respond to it.
This time ACT EMPOWERED. Like you are yelling at him, calling out to co-passengers, punching him or whatever that you wished you could have done.
Play this in your mind over and over again.
I do understand that replaying what he did to you can get in the way of this process; but do know that you cannot change the past, but you can surely empower your present and the future. So, do it and do this NOW!
This will give you a chance to rewrite the stories about the relationships that you are about to have.
Also, this will enable you to have a better grip over physical intimacy that is definitely a product of the way the mind processes the event. So, work at this and gift yourself the chance to live free!
Best wishes!
