Dear Guruji,
Boss, I had a drinking problem.
Wife refused sex till alcohol issue solved.
For a year now, have not touched a drop. I swear on my mother.
She is still refusing intimacy in bed. Or anywhere.
I kept my end of the deal.
She has not.
We never had any problems in our marriage till I started increasing my drinking.
Now I feel like going back to drinking.
Need your help.
Thank you,
Tejbir Kohli
Ans: That does sound unfair, Tejbir.
I think you need couples's therapy.
Your marriage has obviously been through a lot, what with your former drinking problem and your wife denying you any form of intimacy.
Please don't hit the bottle again; visit a therapist instead.
Hi Love Guru,
My husband always watching porn stuff.
Too much.
Porn not getting translated to real life action.
Can’t too much porn be an addiction?
I am afraid one of my daughters might see him watching.
Need your guidance.
Fatima Zaidi
Dear Fatima,
A lot of people watch porn, but an addiction is a different matter.
It's when one cannot stop watching and does so every chance s/he gets, even in risky environments like the workplace or when one's family is around.
Explain to your husband that you think that this is getting out of hand and that you're worried for both his mental wellbeing as well as your children's exposure to porn.
He needs to be discreet and also ensure that it's not getting out of hand.
Such an obsession is not healthy.
Moreover, do you have a good sex life? Maybe if you're more adventurous with him in the bedroom he may not feel the need to rely quite so much on watching sex instead of having it!
