Dear Love Guru,
Why are live-ins considered so wrong in India?
My girlfriend, L, and I want to move in together but we know that if we do so, it will hurt our parents a lot.
But we are not ready for marriage yet.
What’s your advice?
D and L
Ans: Well, I’m not going to sit here and tell you to hurt your parents.
If you want to live together before getting married, that is a decision you both have to take as responsible adults; it’s not a decision someone else gets to make for you because of societal pressure.
Why it’s considered wrong in India or anywhere else is not the issue here; doing what is right for your own life is.
Attitudes do change with time and circumstances.
Speak to your parents about it and maybe they’ll come around eventually. If not, well, it’s still ultimately your call to make.