I am in a relationship for one year now.
When we were dating, I cleared to my bf that I could only come in this relationship if we get married socially or legally by the next year.
We both agreed to get married legally now. Before he was very happy with this marriage, but now as his parents are not ready, he is becoming secretive with this marriage.
He is telling me that he won’t tell it to anyone that he is going to get engaged now.
He is also telling me that if anyone asks he would deny not for the fact that he wants to hook up. But due to that insecurity if I turn out to be a cheater or if I fly away how will he live in the society?
I asked him that this could also happen after we get married socially then are you going to keep the marriage private then also?
He said No, I will take that risk then but not now.
We are in a long-distance relationship. I don’t know what to do. If he has a girlfriend and he says he is single isn't that cheating too?
Ans: Dear SM,
Not enough alarm bells ringing for you? He has the courage to ‘date’ you, talk marriage to you and bam…suddenly now the parents are not fine, and he backs off?
Wants to be in a ‘secret’ relationship with you and then carry on like nothing ever happened? Oh, and he thinks you will cheat and fly away?
Nice way to play the victim and gain sympathy from you, so that you give in to his ideas of hiding this relationship and he gets what he wants.
You know what you need to do?
All the best!