I m in a relationship which is just 6 months old but we decided to take it up to marriage as we just hit our 30s. But once our parents met, the guy's mother started delaying marriage by first pointing out our kundali did not match and then asking whether I ll shift to their new house ( which is not even constructed) after it is constructed as it is far away from my place of work . Whenever I ask the guy, he is like his mother has no problems with our marriage. But when my mom called his mom , she simply said that she did not like my mom's way of talking and did not want to proceed as she felt disrespected being the groom's parents. My mom tried to explain that she needs surity whether they really want to do marriage or not and she was like I ll talk with my son and get back to you soon. And that soon never comes. I am now 30 and I have to marry, should I wait and will it be worth waiting?
Ans: Dear Chetna
I can understand your concerns and frustrations. Marriage is a significant decision, and it's essential to ensure that both you and your partner are on the same page and that your families are supportive It's crucial to have open and honest communication with your partner about your concerns and expectations regarding marriage. Express your feelings about the delays and uncertainties and try to understand his perspective as well. Discuss how you both envision your future together and whether you're both willing to address the concerns raised by your families. While marriage is an important milestone, it's essential to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Evaluate whether the current situation aligns with your values, goals, and expectations for the future. Consider whether waiting for resolution and working through challenges with your partner is worth it to you in the long run Ultimately, the decision to wait for resolution or move forward with your life is a deeply personal one. Take the time to reflect on what matters most to you and what you're willing to compromise on in your pursuit of a fulfilling and meaningful relationship. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own happiness and well-being above all else.
