Hi Sir/Mam.
Just we have completed 20years of married life,but we dont have bonding since beginning nor any husband wife relation last 10years as several times he tortured me physically,also we dont have child.....he forced me to leave job for his home food and his clothes as he is in good position,although he fulfill all household neccessity but not giving single penny in hand....pls help me....now I want to proceed further wants to join a job,also want a child...it's essential for life... .lots of opportunity comes but I m unable to manage home chores as well as job...at a time I can do one thing only...may b its my demerit.....guide me
Ans: Dear Bhavana,
Firstly, think about getting on your feet first before bringing a child into the world.
You need to pull yourself out of the darkness first and brighten yourself up with simply bringing back the confidence of simply looking after yourself and doing things for yourself.
1. Join a gym or a class that allows you to interact with other people
2. Re-start a hobby that keeps you busy and inspired
3. Start looking for a job that matches your skill sets and prepare yourself for it
4. Re-work the marriage in a manner that your spouse is able to support you and your dreams (think hard on this one as from your question it seems clear that it might not be possible)
5. Place a lot of trust and confidence inside you that: I CAN DO THIS
You are simply out of touch and it will take a small step, a small nudge, a small push for you to walk your path. Seek the help of a close friend who can do this and keep you on the path. Do this for yourself; stand up for yourself! You know you got this, right?
All the best!
